Need Advice: Ways NOT to ruin a relationship?

What are some of them?





For instance, I met this guy about 2 %26amp; 1/2 weeks ago %26amp; he's been calling me everyday..he lives in my hometown %26amp; I live in my college town...we've been talking %26amp; getting to know one another...this Friday he was driving back to my hometown %26amp; stopped by in my college town %26amp; we had dinner %26amp; spent a little time w/ one another while he left...his company does a lot of work in Tulsa so he comes up here often, the problem is...I don't want to mess this up...I'm 21 %26amp; he just turned 30 %26amp; seems really responsible, (he's an engineer)...he's also Indian (from India, not Native American) which is not a deciding factor but I realize that we've had different upbringings...





Anyway, I am kind of nervous because I am developing feelings for this man...what should I do %26amp; what are some ways not to ruin a possible ';good thing';?





Also, I'm kind of wary that because he's Indian, he may only be looking for ';one thing';...%26amp; not something long-term...Need Advice: Ways NOT to ruin a relationship?
communication is key. you won't know where this attraction will take you unless you talk with him about it. you won't know what he is really after unless you talk with him about it. you won't know much of anything unless you talk with him in regards to the two of you. do keep in mind that there is a 9 year difference and he travels often. so he may not be as serious but then again he could be. but again, communication is key to sustaining a valuable relationship/friendship.


oh, and i am just going to throw this out there...i am indian also and i am also 21 as well. so if he's not serious, then don't hesitate to look in my direction.


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First of all it is not correct to think that he is an Indian and you are American so the different upbringing may not suit the relationship. If there is love people can adjust with each other easily. What you need to do at present is to know each other well, find out likings and disliking, etc. What you are thinking about him and what he really thinks, all such things are more important in life before taking any decision, whether to keep relations or not to keep. For everything what is needed is Good Communication. ... Good luck
Hi Julia!


Since you only met him two and a half weeks ago, you don't have to jump into bed with him right away. Meet him some more and just go out with him and keep up the communication without taking him into your crib. Take it slow. The way he is going to act is going to be the decisive factor which way to go. If he tells you he loves you, with his mouth, not his hands, then you are a step further.





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Only 2 and 1/2 weeks and you're starting to catch feelings? Stop thinking so much and just let what will happen, happen. Good luck!
Communication and Trust