the only thing I'm wondering about is oral sex. I consider it part of normal sexual activity as I believe he does but when he performs it on me which is not very often he always gets very passionate about it. I suppose the question I am posing is he pretending to enjoy it for me or does he just become emotional about it? I really don't even know how to ask him about it. It's pleasurable for me but I don't get an orgasm from it even with gentle instructions. Maybe I should just take it for what it is and let it be. Any advice out there?I'm confused and need some advice. My boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship emotionallly and sexually?
you should talk to him about it so he knows how to give u an orgasm through it, guys enjoy giving oral to girls, its the best part sometimes
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
I need some advice on things to avoid without screwing this potential relationship....any ideas? Theres more..
I met this girl and shes great, I think shes wonderful and I don't wanna screw anything up with her. We've gone as far as her staying over but not going 'all the way.' Usually I dont get butterflies with girls, cause I'm really satisfied with the ones i've been dating lately, but this girl is incredible. Shes beautiful, smart, but shes a little wild, which is good sometimes, but I know she likes me cause she told me, and she likes me to. We are going to a comedy show tomorrow that I invited her to, and I just want some pointers on how I can get this girl to fall for me even harder than she has already, because i've fallen for this girl so hard I can't explain, and I want her to feel the same way, and I know that comes with time, but its just no fun if i'm the only one feeling this way. Any ideas on how to get her to see that I'm totally worth it? I want her as my girlfriend and I haven't told her how I totally feel about her and I'm a little nervous,any ideas?I need some advice on things to avoid without screwing this potential relationship....any ideas? Theres more..
';Let me first say slow down.';! A relationship a good one at that takes time. You can not force or expedite the relation to your speed. Each of us a human beings and especially females you nee to develop a good solid foundation. By all indications sounds like you are on the right road. Before you go to the comedy show, go have a nice dinner somewhere and sit and talk. She sounds like a nice/wild girl for you so have fun and be cool.I need some advice on things to avoid without screwing this potential relationship....any ideas? Theres more..
Buy her roses and/or candy. Chocolate is so cliche so try something cute like goobers, then if she does become yer girlfriend and you are the type to give nicknames it could be a little inside joke between you two. (Calling her goober is pretty cute and if she's like most girls she'll think it's cute too) Also, be yourself. Give her compliments if you actually mean it, like if you think her eyes are beautiful, then tell her! AND GOOD LUCK!!
Be yourself if ur really like this girl she will like that better than u trying to be perfect. Ifu try to hard it will seem forced and she will think u have no chemistry with her.
What, our earlier advice wasn't good enough? Just kidding..be yourself, that's who she fell in like with...don't try too hard to put all of your good qualities out there at once, it will scare her away. Just go with the mood of the date, no pressure, and take it from there.
';Let me first say slow down.';! A relationship a good one at that takes time. You can not force or expedite the relation to your speed. Each of us a human beings and especially females you nee to develop a good solid foundation. By all indications sounds like you are on the right road. Before you go to the comedy show, go have a nice dinner somewhere and sit and talk. She sounds like a nice/wild girl for you so have fun and be cool.I need some advice on things to avoid without screwing this potential relationship....any ideas? Theres more..
Buy her roses and/or candy. Chocolate is so cliche so try something cute like goobers, then if she does become yer girlfriend and you are the type to give nicknames it could be a little inside joke between you two. (Calling her goober is pretty cute and if she's like most girls she'll think it's cute too) Also, be yourself. Give her compliments if you actually mean it, like if you think her eyes are beautiful, then tell her! AND GOOD LUCK!!
Be yourself if ur really like this girl she will like that better than u trying to be perfect. Ifu try to hard it will seem forced and she will think u have no chemistry with her.
What, our earlier advice wasn't good enough? Just kidding..be yourself, that's who she fell in like with...don't try too hard to put all of your good qualities out there at once, it will scare her away. Just go with the mood of the date, no pressure, and take it from there.
How do I help a family member who's in abusive relationship? Or at least give her some helpful advice?
I told my sister on many occasions how I felt about her being with someone like him, but she just doesn't seem to tell him it's over. They do have one daughter together and have been together for 3 yrs. Numerous times he has slap her, and punched her in the face and body anywhere he can hit. And when I told her that's wrong and that she has to get away from him until he can control his temper and anger or at least take a break from each-other, she said well when he hits he doesn't leave any bruises. I said that doesn't make it okay.
At times my sister will also cry out to me and tell me things that he does to her like after they both get into a huge fight he'll turn around and act as though nothing never happen between them and would force her to have sex with him.
This boyfriend of hers stays out all night till the next day blowing all his money on partying, drinking and smoking (weed) and brings home condoms, and said that they he was holding it for a friend of his. I feel like he's taken advantage of my sister, I also feels that she can get away from him if she wanted to he lives in my mother's boyfriend's house. All she would have to do is lock all the doors on him get a restraining order ,this should be easy since his name is not on the lease.
He has also made sexual remarks towards me I never told her this cause I feel if she hasn't left him already over all the BS he has done to her what difference would I make if I told her that.
I don't know what to do or how to handle it's like nobody in that house even does anything but drink, my mom or brothers doesn't stick up for at all, she said my mom recently saw them going at it (fighting) and all my mom said was to just keep it down that her boyfriend has to wake up in a few hours for work.
How can I mind my business when she keeps telling me things and it get me upset and when I do confront her boyfriend about it my sis just stick up for him, it makes me feel like I'm the crazy one.
Should I just stay out of things when she tells me? Or should I get her help would I be doing the right thing? Need advices please I'm very concerned, thanks in advance...........How do I help a family member who's in abusive relationship? Or at least give her some helpful advice?
she wont leave til she is ready, she needs you to show her proof, i been there, and i almost died, and my son.How do I help a family member who's in abusive relationship? Or at least give her some helpful advice?
Next time she comes with a different bruise, call the cops or the abusive hot line.
I know that you really want to help your sister to get out of this situation, but your sister has to want to help herself. She might have to hit rock bottom (Lord forbid that he doesn't kill her). Do continue to be there for your sister. I wouldn't confront him again about anything. I know that this is your sister and you want to save her, but just step back. You might have to dish out ';tough love.';
unfortunately there is nothing you can do until your sissy is ready to do it herself.. if anything goes on with the kids you can call CPS or if your sissy has visual bruises maybe you can call the cops as a concerned family member.. your bothers on the other hand are PU$$y's.... good luck to your sissy.. thank god you are there for her..help blackheads
At times my sister will also cry out to me and tell me things that he does to her like after they both get into a huge fight he'll turn around and act as though nothing never happen between them and would force her to have sex with him.
This boyfriend of hers stays out all night till the next day blowing all his money on partying, drinking and smoking (weed) and brings home condoms, and said that they he was holding it for a friend of his. I feel like he's taken advantage of my sister, I also feels that she can get away from him if she wanted to he lives in my mother's boyfriend's house. All she would have to do is lock all the doors on him get a restraining order ,this should be easy since his name is not on the lease.
He has also made sexual remarks towards me I never told her this cause I feel if she hasn't left him already over all the BS he has done to her what difference would I make if I told her that.
I don't know what to do or how to handle it's like nobody in that house even does anything but drink, my mom or brothers doesn't stick up for at all, she said my mom recently saw them going at it (fighting) and all my mom said was to just keep it down that her boyfriend has to wake up in a few hours for work.
How can I mind my business when she keeps telling me things and it get me upset and when I do confront her boyfriend about it my sis just stick up for him, it makes me feel like I'm the crazy one.
Should I just stay out of things when she tells me? Or should I get her help would I be doing the right thing? Need advices please I'm very concerned, thanks in advance...........How do I help a family member who's in abusive relationship? Or at least give her some helpful advice?
she wont leave til she is ready, she needs you to show her proof, i been there, and i almost died, and my son.How do I help a family member who's in abusive relationship? Or at least give her some helpful advice?
Next time she comes with a different bruise, call the cops or the abusive hot line.
I know that you really want to help your sister to get out of this situation, but your sister has to want to help herself. She might have to hit rock bottom (Lord forbid that he doesn't kill her). Do continue to be there for your sister. I wouldn't confront him again about anything. I know that this is your sister and you want to save her, but just step back. You might have to dish out ';tough love.';
unfortunately there is nothing you can do until your sissy is ready to do it herself.. if anything goes on with the kids you can call CPS or if your sissy has visual bruises maybe you can call the cops as a concerned family member.. your bothers on the other hand are PU$$y's.... good luck to your sissy.. thank god you are there for her..
I need general tips and advice on relationships?
Its for homework so please keep it clean. answers be realistic Thanks.I need general tips and advice on relationships?
if the two people get along a relationship can be the most wonderful thing, but there will be ups and downs but if two people really love each other ,they will forgive each other for almost any thing .but if they can't forgive they may choose to go there separate waysI need general tips and advice on relationships?
Always keep the lines of communication open and always take time out for each other.
Always talk. Always listen. Always hear. Always care.
Whats the question?
if the two people get along a relationship can be the most wonderful thing, but there will be ups and downs but if two people really love each other ,they will forgive each other for almost any thing .but if they can't forgive they may choose to go there separate waysI need general tips and advice on relationships?
Always keep the lines of communication open and always take time out for each other.
Always talk. Always listen. Always hear. Always care.
Whats the question?
I have been talking to this guy that I want a relationship with but hes leaving to the navy.. advice please???
Me and him have been talking for 3 months now and he just left to bootcamp a week ago and is coming back in 2 months but before he gets shipped out I really want us to be official so I can atleast have something while hes gone but I dont want to force it I already asked him before he left about us but all he can say is just let things happen dont force it.. i am not trying to but i need to know am i waiting for nothing.. i know he cares about me and i really want us to work what should i dO? what can i say to him before he leaves?? because I honestly think im falling in love with him and i dont want to lose the best thing that has ever happen to my life..I have been talking to this guy that I want a relationship with but hes leaving to the navy.. advice please???
''yuo cant say that the best thing that happend in ur life is to be in love with this boy''........
so. . . . .
you can tell him that you are getting in love with him, %26amp; as he is gone to the navy it will be a chanse to you '' to think '' to see if you are going to miss him!!!.....
''yuo cant say that the best thing that happend in ur life is to be in love with this boy''........
so. . . . .
you can tell him that you are getting in love with him, %26amp; as he is gone to the navy it will be a chanse to you '' to think '' to see if you are going to miss him!!!.....
My twin brother wants to be white and it tears our relationship apart, we are always at eachother! any advice?
Hi im Sean a 17 year old bi-racial male , part black part white. I have a twin brother Cheyenne who is also mixed but we dont look exactly alike. I was the one born with mainly white features blonde hair blue eyes and physical traits that allow me to pass for fully white like Nicole Richie or Mariah Carey. Now my brother Cheyenne he looks somewhat inbetween and by looking at him you would think he's just a african american boy with good hair and maybe a little bit light like President obama but maybe a bit lighter. Our father died in iraq and our mother is a very strong African American women with a sense of humor so she makes nothing of it at times but for me I get annoyed. My brother straightens his hair like how you would see some white teen in a magazine for example Joe Jonas , when I have the type of hair for that look but I dont go for it I keep a close ceasar cut which is more masculent to me. I have more black friends than he does, He barely even dates black girls and I do because I date every race. He now is in this phase where he thinks he looks like Edward Cullen and girls actully adore my brother but I think his appearance is false and stupid. I appriciate things that he should like our heritage because we are in the middle of two races that barely get along and I try not to pick sides. One time we fought so bad that we were both hospitalized after he called my little sister the ';N'; word. I got angry in the hospital telling him that i am what he wants to be.In reaction to that he called me Hitler breaking us into another fight in the waiting room. Help I feel like I somewhat hate this kid. LMfao but its true.My twin brother wants to be white and it tears our relationship apart, we are always at eachother! any advice?
Much ado about nothing.
Can't believe it's so important to either of you.
Just be the best person you can be, whatever your skin color.My twin brother wants to be white and it tears our relationship apart, we are always at eachother! any advice?
If he wants to act/look like a white person then let him (as long as he doesn't have all those cosmetic surgeries that could make him white). It shouldn't break your relationship apart. So what that he wants to straighten his hair or date girls from different cultures? (I know a black co-worker who wants to date blonde-haired, blue/green-eyed white girls; he just prefers them to other girls, and so does your bro). It's called diversity; individuality. I'm not trying to be mean, but seriously, he can be/act however he wants to (as long as it's not in a bad way). Don't hate your own brother; accept him for who he is. Not everyone has to have the same taste/feel for everything, you know . . .
In the Mexican culture, race is not a big thing. You are human first. Color is no biggie. It seems rare that you would fight, being that you are brothers. Is it because you feel superior to him, or that he feels inferior to you, or what? Let each one of you be what you want to be. You are mesclado or mestizo like most Mexicans. Go to Mexico and no one will care. Cut the cr*p pretending. You both seem to have race issues. Be human and stop playing the old Slavery game of I am whiter than you game. It is sad. Love yourselves as you are and love each other. Life is really short. Remember you carry the genes of your anscestors. Your kids will all show your African and Caucasian heritage to varing degrees. WHO CARES!! It was a slave owner's game.
Much ado about nothing.
Can't believe it's so important to either of you.
Just be the best person you can be, whatever your skin color.My twin brother wants to be white and it tears our relationship apart, we are always at eachother! any advice?
If he wants to act/look like a white person then let him (as long as he doesn't have all those cosmetic surgeries that could make him white). It shouldn't break your relationship apart. So what that he wants to straighten his hair or date girls from different cultures? (I know a black co-worker who wants to date blonde-haired, blue/green-eyed white girls; he just prefers them to other girls, and so does your bro). It's called diversity; individuality. I'm not trying to be mean, but seriously, he can be/act however he wants to (as long as it's not in a bad way). Don't hate your own brother; accept him for who he is. Not everyone has to have the same taste/feel for everything, you know . . .
In the Mexican culture, race is not a big thing. You are human first. Color is no biggie. It seems rare that you would fight, being that you are brothers. Is it because you feel superior to him, or that he feels inferior to you, or what? Let each one of you be what you want to be. You are mesclado or mestizo like most Mexicans. Go to Mexico and no one will care. Cut the cr*p pretending. You both seem to have race issues. Be human and stop playing the old Slavery game of I am whiter than you game. It is sad. Love yourselves as you are and love each other. Life is really short. Remember you carry the genes of your anscestors. Your kids will all show your African and Caucasian heritage to varing degrees. WHO CARES!! It was a slave owner's game.
Straight gal in relationship with pre-op F2M trans. Any others? Any advice?
Recently met the man of my dreams who still has the body of a woman. I'm still married and he's coming off a very bad breakup with a femme who could not accept the transition. We are both on new ground with this relationship. Any help, advice, suggestions or knowledge from others in similar situations would be appreciated. I would especially like to know how other straight gals have dealt with realizing they are falling for a trans and suddenly being identified by others as lesbian even though they identify straight. My man is a man but he still looks like a woman!Straight gal in relationship with pre-op F2M trans. Any others? Any advice?
Dear Shamrock,
It's not easy is it?
Thank you for being open minded enough to realize a trans-man is a person, and capable of loving and being loved. Many people are , for whatever reasons, not capable of making that leap.
This is going to be a NEW realm you are entering. The world YOU are entering didn't even exist 75 yrs ago. Many religious dogma hasn't had time to deal with this ';brave new world';
If you need someone to talk with you can try PFLAG www.pflag.org Or you can msg me. on Yahoo IM
Hugs,
PennyAnnStraight gal in relationship with pre-op F2M trans. Any others? Any advice?
If you really love him, then support him in his transistion. hopefully he is on testosterone and he will look more manly as time goes on.
I am glad to see you are open enough to be in this relationship, even though he doesn't pass well as a man.
And for the time being, screw what other people think... theyll see it on the street then forget about it...
for example.. people see me holding hands with my same aged sister... they probably think im a lesbian, but im not! hehehe. then they forget about it.
but if this is a long term thing with this guy, youll see changes and it will get better.
If you love this person as a man, then you will probably learn to accept it. It's a tough situation, maybe you should talk to your partner about this.
Nice of you to accept him. Don't worry about how he looks for now - assuming that he isn't on T but plans to be, his appearance will be masculinizing pretty quickly. This means body/facial hair, a more masculine body, a deeper voice, etc. You might want to pick up some books on the subject of FtMs so you can understand his problems a bit more. I'd recommend Jamison Green's Becoming A Visible Man.
Good luck.
You're married. i suggest if you want to do anythig about it you get a divorce before braking someones heart
OMG,is this true.I simply admire you.
I lost mine after 21 years who could not accept it,and here you are.Love this person,she is or will go through alot.Sounds like you 2 have alot in common.
Advise?.Love,care,accept,follow your heart.It may prove helpful if you research transgender.Remember identity does not reflect orientation.Live your life to it's fullest and find true happiness.
happy trails
he was born in wrong body. so what?
people will obviously be confused by your relationship, but don't worry about it, all that matters is that you know your love is real. its a tricky situation, but not really, if people would just accept you and he for who you are.
good luck.
Dear Shamrock,
It's not easy is it?
Thank you for being open minded enough to realize a trans-man is a person, and capable of loving and being loved. Many people are , for whatever reasons, not capable of making that leap.
This is going to be a NEW realm you are entering. The world YOU are entering didn't even exist 75 yrs ago. Many religious dogma hasn't had time to deal with this ';brave new world';
If you need someone to talk with you can try PFLAG www.pflag.org Or you can msg me. on Yahoo IM
Hugs,
PennyAnnStraight gal in relationship with pre-op F2M trans. Any others? Any advice?
If you really love him, then support him in his transistion. hopefully he is on testosterone and he will look more manly as time goes on.
I am glad to see you are open enough to be in this relationship, even though he doesn't pass well as a man.
And for the time being, screw what other people think... theyll see it on the street then forget about it...
for example.. people see me holding hands with my same aged sister... they probably think im a lesbian, but im not! hehehe. then they forget about it.
but if this is a long term thing with this guy, youll see changes and it will get better.
If you love this person as a man, then you will probably learn to accept it. It's a tough situation, maybe you should talk to your partner about this.
Nice of you to accept him. Don't worry about how he looks for now - assuming that he isn't on T but plans to be, his appearance will be masculinizing pretty quickly. This means body/facial hair, a more masculine body, a deeper voice, etc. You might want to pick up some books on the subject of FtMs so you can understand his problems a bit more. I'd recommend Jamison Green's Becoming A Visible Man.
Good luck.
You're married. i suggest if you want to do anythig about it you get a divorce before braking someones heart
OMG,is this true.I simply admire you.
I lost mine after 21 years who could not accept it,and here you are.Love this person,she is or will go through alot.Sounds like you 2 have alot in common.
Advise?.Love,care,accept,follow your heart.It may prove helpful if you research transgender.Remember identity does not reflect orientation.Live your life to it's fullest and find true happiness.
happy trails
he was born in wrong body. so what?
people will obviously be confused by your relationship, but don't worry about it, all that matters is that you know your love is real. its a tricky situation, but not really, if people would just accept you and he for who you are.
good luck.
Can this relationship work? Young BF w/ GF and child needs advice?
We have managed to stick it by for 2 and a half years to date, we have for all extents and purposes lived together for the entire course of our relationship, we have an infant daughter together (between 9 and 12 months, as to not give away too much) and overall we really do love each other... but some of our character traits lead me to believe that it may not work out for long. I often find myself becoming indifferent about our relationship, and indifference is definitely not good. I tried to ask this question before but I was obviously too vague as I got mostly stereotyped. Here is as brief as I can get without leaving out important details:
1. She is totally against any and all drugs, I smoke marijuana. When we first started dating I did everything from marijuana to LSD and everything in between. She first said she could accept pot but nothing else, so I quit everything except marijuana. Then marijuana became a problem and so I stopped because our relationship was still going very well. I quit for a year before starting to smoke again, we were having less sex and not really doing anything together so I felt I needed something to cut the tension. I used to be very artistic (writing, playing guitar and drums, martial arts, drawing, poety, etc.) but have lost my creative edge as the relationship has gone on. I have been unable to find anything else that I can do to ease stress at home alone without going out. I have lost the urge to maintain even my once favorite hobbies. She used to smoke marijuana. I do not smoke in front of the baby AT ALL. I do not smoke in front of my girlfriend unless she comes out for a cig while I do my thing. Members of her own family smoke marijuana and she does not judge them, one of them has his own kid.
2. She is a homebody and feels she would rather stay home than go out 9 times out of 10, I am very adventurous and love going out. She enjoys material gain (buying cameras, clothes, books, movies, etc.) while I enjoy recreation (going somewhere, doing activities, getting together with friends). I am a Gemini, she is a Cancer. Need I say more?
3. She believes sex and affection are not something that need to be constantly touched upon, we have had sex 4 times in the last 12 months. I'm a man, I need sex and I'm dying here. I mostly have to remind her to kiss me when we see each other after work, 'nuff said. When I press her about it, she gets EXTREMELY angry. She says that she simply does not like sex, something she failed to mention when we had sex everyday for the beginning of our relationship.
4. She has a tendency to get physically violent and I have a tendency to become verbally abusive in arguments. We have had many... episodes (none too recently since the birth of the baby). The fault for confrontations has been about 60% me and 40% her for the first half of the relationship and then vice versa for the second half.
5. We both have infinitely stupid family and we do not like the others family 90% of the time. Can you imagine what our Holidays have looked like?
6. She does not have any friends (part choice, part single womens indifference to her becoming a mom). I have many friends who want to hang out (for the record, less than a quarter of them do drugs), I can not because she gets annoyed by their presence at the house (too loud, wants to be alone, etc.)... she does not want me to go out cause she ';does not like to be alone at home';... she refuses to tag along due to being tired from work... it is FACT that she does not like 90% of my friends. We both work jobs with equal hours and that are equally tiresome.
7. She does not like to talk about the ongoing issues, she feels that ';this is who she is now and I should accept her as who she is now just as I accepted her as who she was before';. She feels she accepts my ';bad traits';. Which other than the pot are still unknown. I am a very diplomatic person who likes to find the ';peaceful medium'; in situations. Unfortunately she isn't. Can a gray person reach this with someone who is VERY black and white?
8. We share FULL RESPONSIBILITY of the baby. I do everything she does, we work a schedule system where one day she does one set of things for the baby and I do what's left and then we switch. Whether it be bathing, changing, feeding, playing, clothing or cleaning... we BOTH do it ALL.
Basically, all these issues exist but we ignore them. We come home, take of the baby and then put the baby to sleep(one night she does, one night I do), do chores such as cook and clean bottles (whoever doesn't take care of baby for the night does this), eat and then she spends her night on her computer while I either smoke or find other pointless forms of entertainment. We spend maybe 5% of our day actually DOING SOMETHING together. For the rest of the time, we merely share a house and go on the same routine, routine, routine.
Needless to say, I feel I could be involved in a much more fruitful relationship just as shCan this relationship work? Young BF w/ GF and child needs advice?
The only thing I wonder about is that you said you would give up anything for your family (basically), yet you really can't change who you are and you shouldn't expect her to change either. I would suggest some counseling first and if that doesn't work you should probably go your separate ways.
1. She is totally against any and all drugs, I smoke marijuana. When we first started dating I did everything from marijuana to LSD and everything in between. She first said she could accept pot but nothing else, so I quit everything except marijuana. Then marijuana became a problem and so I stopped because our relationship was still going very well. I quit for a year before starting to smoke again, we were having less sex and not really doing anything together so I felt I needed something to cut the tension. I used to be very artistic (writing, playing guitar and drums, martial arts, drawing, poety, etc.) but have lost my creative edge as the relationship has gone on. I have been unable to find anything else that I can do to ease stress at home alone without going out. I have lost the urge to maintain even my once favorite hobbies. She used to smoke marijuana. I do not smoke in front of the baby AT ALL. I do not smoke in front of my girlfriend unless she comes out for a cig while I do my thing. Members of her own family smoke marijuana and she does not judge them, one of them has his own kid.
2. She is a homebody and feels she would rather stay home than go out 9 times out of 10, I am very adventurous and love going out. She enjoys material gain (buying cameras, clothes, books, movies, etc.) while I enjoy recreation (going somewhere, doing activities, getting together with friends). I am a Gemini, she is a Cancer. Need I say more?
3. She believes sex and affection are not something that need to be constantly touched upon, we have had sex 4 times in the last 12 months. I'm a man, I need sex and I'm dying here. I mostly have to remind her to kiss me when we see each other after work, 'nuff said. When I press her about it, she gets EXTREMELY angry. She says that she simply does not like sex, something she failed to mention when we had sex everyday for the beginning of our relationship.
4. She has a tendency to get physically violent and I have a tendency to become verbally abusive in arguments. We have had many... episodes (none too recently since the birth of the baby). The fault for confrontations has been about 60% me and 40% her for the first half of the relationship and then vice versa for the second half.
5. We both have infinitely stupid family and we do not like the others family 90% of the time. Can you imagine what our Holidays have looked like?
6. She does not have any friends (part choice, part single womens indifference to her becoming a mom). I have many friends who want to hang out (for the record, less than a quarter of them do drugs), I can not because she gets annoyed by their presence at the house (too loud, wants to be alone, etc.)... she does not want me to go out cause she ';does not like to be alone at home';... she refuses to tag along due to being tired from work... it is FACT that she does not like 90% of my friends. We both work jobs with equal hours and that are equally tiresome.
7. She does not like to talk about the ongoing issues, she feels that ';this is who she is now and I should accept her as who she is now just as I accepted her as who she was before';. She feels she accepts my ';bad traits';. Which other than the pot are still unknown. I am a very diplomatic person who likes to find the ';peaceful medium'; in situations. Unfortunately she isn't. Can a gray person reach this with someone who is VERY black and white?
8. We share FULL RESPONSIBILITY of the baby. I do everything she does, we work a schedule system where one day she does one set of things for the baby and I do what's left and then we switch. Whether it be bathing, changing, feeding, playing, clothing or cleaning... we BOTH do it ALL.
Basically, all these issues exist but we ignore them. We come home, take of the baby and then put the baby to sleep(one night she does, one night I do), do chores such as cook and clean bottles (whoever doesn't take care of baby for the night does this), eat and then she spends her night on her computer while I either smoke or find other pointless forms of entertainment. We spend maybe 5% of our day actually DOING SOMETHING together. For the rest of the time, we merely share a house and go on the same routine, routine, routine.
Needless to say, I feel I could be involved in a much more fruitful relationship just as shCan this relationship work? Young BF w/ GF and child needs advice?
The only thing I wonder about is that you said you would give up anything for your family (basically), yet you really can't change who you are and you shouldn't expect her to change either. I would suggest some counseling first and if that doesn't work you should probably go your separate ways.
Relationship advice please ?
i never had much luck with women my entire life. i am 28yrs old. i have never been with a woman but i kissed one on the lips once (i didnt really want to kiss that girl, though) and she told me it was pretty bad and to be honest it was awkward whilst doing it. i didnt know what i was doing.
now i am pretty sure that a really really good looking girl likes me a lot. i wanted to go on a date with her etc. but i was wondering is it a good idea to tell her that i never had a girlfriend before? and if i were to kiss i am scared it would be really bad man.
it is possible that girl doesnt like me like that, but i think she might. i got all the right signals.
what should i do ? Relationship advice please ?
Definitely ask her out, but don't tell her you haven't had a girlfriend before. At least not at first.
Relax and be yourself. The kiss will be a lot better if you're relaxed and with someone you like.Relationship advice please ?
Is that written on your forehead.How many dates you have been on or how many girls you have kissed.Better yet is it written on hers.I believe not.Focus on having a fun date.Good conversation a little humor.Please make sure the breath is in order.Start out with sweet kisses............and the rest is history.help blackheads
now i am pretty sure that a really really good looking girl likes me a lot. i wanted to go on a date with her etc. but i was wondering is it a good idea to tell her that i never had a girlfriend before? and if i were to kiss i am scared it would be really bad man.
it is possible that girl doesnt like me like that, but i think she might. i got all the right signals.
what should i do ? Relationship advice please ?
Definitely ask her out, but don't tell her you haven't had a girlfriend before. At least not at first.
Relax and be yourself. The kiss will be a lot better if you're relaxed and with someone you like.Relationship advice please ?
Is that written on your forehead.How many dates you have been on or how many girls you have kissed.Better yet is it written on hers.I believe not.Focus on having a fun date.Good conversation a little humor.Please make sure the breath is in order.Start out with sweet kisses............and the rest is history.
Relationship advice....?
I need some help!! My wife and I have been married since 2000 and last spring we adopted a newborn straight from the hospital on short notice and our relationship has taken a hit since then in several ways. Probably the biggest area is in communication. As we all know once kids are brought into the picture life gets even busier. Here is my dilemma; I think it is fair to say that she is one that may not have been fit to be a parent and decided that she would do it more for my sake. He is now 16 months old and he is having a harder time adjusting to daily life when she has to care for him more due to my work schedule. He lets his frustration be known by being vocal and tends to get upset a little more when she is around him by herself. She just recently told me that she doesn't have a lot of feeling for me and not sure she ever has and gave me the '; I may have settled speech';. I love her and want this relationship to work but as he approaches 18 months at what point do we move on just as friends for the better of his development. We have tried counseling with zero success and my main hesitation on moving forward with custody of him is that she would fight it just for the sake of fighting it not because she would want the custody?? Relationship advice....?
Just ask her.Relationship advice....?
before adopting did you and your wife go to counseling ! It sounds like she is depressed. Like you said kids change everything and its a little more stressful when its an adopted child! If you and your wife didn't go to counseling maybe its time to look at that option!
Okay, you've tried counseling with zero success. Well, then find another therapist. Keep working at it. Success doesn't come like that. It's an ongoing process...not a POW We're Fixed solution. Find a family therapist you two are comfortable with and work at the marriage! This isn't something you just dump because you two cannot get it together. If you want to use this as an excuse to get out of the relationship, I'm sure most mature people would not give it to you. Keep trying to make it work.
Well first and for most she is the one with the problem. How can she say she has never had feeling for you!? she married you! unless she is one of those kind. not being rude but did you look deep into character before you married her. And babies are smart they know when something is not right. Maybe he can tell that she is not fit to be a parent. Your family should here about this just to have some kind of idea as to what's been going on just in case this does go to court.
Again she has the problem not you especially if she gave you the i settled Speech.
GOOD LUCK TAKE CARE OF YOUR BOY AND YOUR SELF YOUR CHILD KNOWS WHEN THINGS ARE NOT RIGHT.
Just ask her.Relationship advice....?
before adopting did you and your wife go to counseling ! It sounds like she is depressed. Like you said kids change everything and its a little more stressful when its an adopted child! If you and your wife didn't go to counseling maybe its time to look at that option!
Okay, you've tried counseling with zero success. Well, then find another therapist. Keep working at it. Success doesn't come like that. It's an ongoing process...not a POW We're Fixed solution. Find a family therapist you two are comfortable with and work at the marriage! This isn't something you just dump because you two cannot get it together. If you want to use this as an excuse to get out of the relationship, I'm sure most mature people would not give it to you. Keep trying to make it work.
Well first and for most she is the one with the problem. How can she say she has never had feeling for you!? she married you! unless she is one of those kind. not being rude but did you look deep into character before you married her. And babies are smart they know when something is not right. Maybe he can tell that she is not fit to be a parent. Your family should here about this just to have some kind of idea as to what's been going on just in case this does go to court.
Again she has the problem not you especially if she gave you the i settled Speech.
GOOD LUCK TAKE CARE OF YOUR BOY AND YOUR SELF YOUR CHILD KNOWS WHEN THINGS ARE NOT RIGHT.
A little advice from people good with relationships?
well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month and lately hes just been getting so boring. he has depression and says hes been getting ';distracted'; lately or something like that so that might be a cause of it. but whenever we talk its always him just saying ';i love you i miss you your the best thing thats ever happen to me'; and stuff like that but i dont love him and i just want a convo like we had before we started going out. so im thinking i might dump him but idk i want to like him more but he will text me then be like monosyllabic and it drives me insane!!!! should i dump him? i want to give him a chance and idk how he will react since his depression...
HELLPP 10 points(: A little advice from people good with relationships?
Don't worry about his depression. If your not in love with that is not your problem. Sounds like he's gonna be depressed with or without you. I say move on! Life is to short to be hanging around people like that. I've been there and done that. I did feel guilty after, but it was a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders to. You can't help people who won't help themselves. Go find someone who will make you happy.
HELLPP 10 points(: A little advice from people good with relationships?
Don't worry about his depression. If your not in love with that is not your problem. Sounds like he's gonna be depressed with or without you. I say move on! Life is to short to be hanging around people like that. I've been there and done that. I did feel guilty after, but it was a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders to. You can't help people who won't help themselves. Go find someone who will make you happy.
I need advice on a problem with relationships. this could cost me my life if i miss play it not joking...?
my bestfriend got a girlfriend. she is my crush from 2nd grade. we just graduated high school. he is a major *** to her. i told her she could do better. she dumped him. we spent the next three days together. he calls her from the traintracks. he was oging to commit suicide. she tells me i go and takle his asss off the tracks. next day they get back together. she is now hostile to everyone. she was loving to all but she just got done telling her mom to f off... he called me last nite told me he knew what was goin on and that it needed to stop. i havent done anything but talk to her. while they were broke up she told me that once he calmed down we could get together in a few weeks. after he said that he said if he catches us he would kil me with his new golf clubs... wtf do i do? i love her and cant leave her cause he isnt mentaly stable and is a drunk and if he raises his hand at her i will rip it off. sum best friend hu? wtf do i do? i cant leave her with him...I need advice on a problem with relationships. this could cost me my life if i miss play it not joking...?
ask the girl to ctay away from the guy... and both of you maybe you should try to tell your parents or the police in order to have some protection in case something happens.I need advice on a problem with relationships. this could cost me my life if i miss play it not joking...?
report the threat to the police! you could be in major trouble if you don't have LEGAL DOCUMENTATION of the threat(s). if ANYTHING (like an attack or fight) were to happen that would be key evidence. you can try to talk to one of her close friends to see if she has been acting differently, you might not be able to do anything, but someone else she trusts might.
He sounds like a mentally unstable and manipulative person who is not good for either you or your girlfriend. I'd report him to the police and also talk to your friend's family about what happened - even if she's being awful to them, he parents probably still love and care for her and need to know what is going on.
Good luck.
awhh it's adorable how much you care for her but if it's your life or his, maybe even hers, then you should give her advice to dump him again %26amp; you just need to stay away from him...as far away as possible. but if you guys like each other then you guys should get together. between you %26amp; him, you sound like the better person, which i'm sure is true; everything will work out for the best.
-good luck!
Be a man and stand up for what you love and usually guys like him are full of ---- anyways all talk no action if he was really going to kill himself he would not have called anyone he wouls have just done it. Goodluck hes only calling wolf for the attention!!!!
to be honest, the best thing to do is back off. be there when she needs you most.. but dont get in the way, because if he is threatening you like that, you need to watch your back. try and forget your love for her, but if anything kicks off, be straight there to support her
this is probably not what you want to hear but leave her alone. There is no relationship whatsoever in life that puts your life or well being in danger. Just continue to be her friend and watch over her. She apparently doesnt like you enough to leave him or she would.
im glad that you care about her...
get the police involved. this is not a good situation...
REPORT IT TO THE POLICE!!!!!
I've been in a relationship like this and almost lost my life, please don't let her become another case like that....just report it and do your best to help!
u can go black on his *** like i do n kill the ****** first ...but..that would be wrong..u can notify the police about the whole situation, if ur old enough, get a gun, and keep talking to her and giving her advice, and if the idiot should ever come near u..well.u know whats next.. :)...or..go to church and pray for him
Even though u r her best friend, all u can do is tell her 2 leave him! If she listens then good 4 her, but if not, unfortunatly its her own fault!!!! However, i would honestly get her parents involved and tell them about this loony :) Its 4 her own good!!!!
Good luck hun -xx-
Hope i helped -xx-
that`s really tough , to like ur best friend`s gf .. but i just think that she will figure out someday that he`s a jerk and choose u
now i reanswered it :) and thnx for answerin mine :) hope u read it
hope she's not playing you you sound like a real great friend and if your serious and she is you need to get her away from that situation and she needs to seek a protection order and there are safe houses for women so he cant touch her he needs help and so does she she needs your help but don't put yourself in a situation that's going to get you hurt or her if she's not willing to leave because it could end up fatal for you both
In all honesty, you aren't going to be able to do anything in their relationship. It isn't even safe for you to even be involved, I sincerely mean this. You are dealing w/two unstable mentally sick people %26amp; on top of it an alcoholic. I realize you certainly are tying your best to prevent different things from happening, but there's no way you've got even a prayer of winning w/either one. You've got to accept this to be fact, regardless of how hard you try or what you do. As hard as it might be, you honestly have to remove yourself from their problems. You're getting yourself too involved w/a no win situation. You wouldn't be turning your back on anyone, you'd be saving yourself a lot of mental anguish %26amp; accepting the fact this all is NOT your problem, therefore you have no choice but to remove it from your life. You're taking your life in your own hands %26amp; being responsible for YOU. You can only help those who want to be helped %26amp; are willing to at least TRY to help themselves. I do not see this happening in this case whatsoever. For some reason he has a hold on her, control over her. No one is going to be able to take that away. She has to remove herself of her own accord %26amp; I don't see that becoming a reality. Please don't put or leave yourself in harms way over this whole thing. Please just get out of it %26amp; get as far removed as you can from it all. All the love you have for her is not changing her actions twds. him %26amp; I don't forsee her leaving him for whatever reason she has for staying w/him. She could do something about it but won't. Please think of yourself %26amp; save yourself. Don't take anymore calls, just please avoid them in ALL WAYS you can. ACCEPT the fact you just cannot help either one of them. Leave them both in your past %26amp; please work on starting a new beginning for yourself. You're too young %26amp; have your whole life ahead of you. Don't throw it away for nothing. There's nothing more I can say, but I trust you w/at least think of what I've said. This is a serioud situation, %26amp; not worth your life. You CAN do it, please just do it. ALL the best to you...:)
ask the girl to ctay away from the guy... and both of you maybe you should try to tell your parents or the police in order to have some protection in case something happens.I need advice on a problem with relationships. this could cost me my life if i miss play it not joking...?
report the threat to the police! you could be in major trouble if you don't have LEGAL DOCUMENTATION of the threat(s). if ANYTHING (like an attack or fight) were to happen that would be key evidence. you can try to talk to one of her close friends to see if she has been acting differently, you might not be able to do anything, but someone else she trusts might.
He sounds like a mentally unstable and manipulative person who is not good for either you or your girlfriend. I'd report him to the police and also talk to your friend's family about what happened - even if she's being awful to them, he parents probably still love and care for her and need to know what is going on.
Good luck.
awhh it's adorable how much you care for her but if it's your life or his, maybe even hers, then you should give her advice to dump him again %26amp; you just need to stay away from him...as far away as possible. but if you guys like each other then you guys should get together. between you %26amp; him, you sound like the better person, which i'm sure is true; everything will work out for the best.
-good luck!
Be a man and stand up for what you love and usually guys like him are full of ---- anyways all talk no action if he was really going to kill himself he would not have called anyone he wouls have just done it. Goodluck hes only calling wolf for the attention!!!!
to be honest, the best thing to do is back off. be there when she needs you most.. but dont get in the way, because if he is threatening you like that, you need to watch your back. try and forget your love for her, but if anything kicks off, be straight there to support her
this is probably not what you want to hear but leave her alone. There is no relationship whatsoever in life that puts your life or well being in danger. Just continue to be her friend and watch over her. She apparently doesnt like you enough to leave him or she would.
im glad that you care about her...
get the police involved. this is not a good situation...
REPORT IT TO THE POLICE!!!!!
I've been in a relationship like this and almost lost my life, please don't let her become another case like that....just report it and do your best to help!
u can go black on his *** like i do n kill the ****** first ...but..that would be wrong..u can notify the police about the whole situation, if ur old enough, get a gun, and keep talking to her and giving her advice, and if the idiot should ever come near u..well.u know whats next.. :)...or..go to church and pray for him
Even though u r her best friend, all u can do is tell her 2 leave him! If she listens then good 4 her, but if not, unfortunatly its her own fault!!!! However, i would honestly get her parents involved and tell them about this loony :) Its 4 her own good!!!!
Good luck hun -xx-
Hope i helped -xx-
that`s really tough , to like ur best friend`s gf .. but i just think that she will figure out someday that he`s a jerk and choose u
now i reanswered it :) and thnx for answerin mine :) hope u read it
hope she's not playing you you sound like a real great friend and if your serious and she is you need to get her away from that situation and she needs to seek a protection order and there are safe houses for women so he cant touch her he needs help and so does she she needs your help but don't put yourself in a situation that's going to get you hurt or her if she's not willing to leave because it could end up fatal for you both
In all honesty, you aren't going to be able to do anything in their relationship. It isn't even safe for you to even be involved, I sincerely mean this. You are dealing w/two unstable mentally sick people %26amp; on top of it an alcoholic. I realize you certainly are tying your best to prevent different things from happening, but there's no way you've got even a prayer of winning w/either one. You've got to accept this to be fact, regardless of how hard you try or what you do. As hard as it might be, you honestly have to remove yourself from their problems. You're getting yourself too involved w/a no win situation. You wouldn't be turning your back on anyone, you'd be saving yourself a lot of mental anguish %26amp; accepting the fact this all is NOT your problem, therefore you have no choice but to remove it from your life. You're taking your life in your own hands %26amp; being responsible for YOU. You can only help those who want to be helped %26amp; are willing to at least TRY to help themselves. I do not see this happening in this case whatsoever. For some reason he has a hold on her, control over her. No one is going to be able to take that away. She has to remove herself of her own accord %26amp; I don't see that becoming a reality. Please don't put or leave yourself in harms way over this whole thing. Please just get out of it %26amp; get as far removed as you can from it all. All the love you have for her is not changing her actions twds. him %26amp; I don't forsee her leaving him for whatever reason she has for staying w/him. She could do something about it but won't. Please think of yourself %26amp; save yourself. Don't take anymore calls, just please avoid them in ALL WAYS you can. ACCEPT the fact you just cannot help either one of them. Leave them both in your past %26amp; please work on starting a new beginning for yourself. You're too young %26amp; have your whole life ahead of you. Don't throw it away for nothing. There's nothing more I can say, but I trust you w/at least think of what I've said. This is a serioud situation, %26amp; not worth your life. You CAN do it, please just do it. ALL the best to you...:)
I need advice from women in Army relationships...?
I met a wonderful man online a few months back. He is a MSG and was at training when we met. We met for the first time when he came home one weekend. It was GREAT. The chemistry was off the charts. To make a long story short, he just got orders to relocate in 6 months and doesn't want to continue the relationship because he says he is scared. He has been hurt before by women while he was in the Army and I can understand this BUT how do I prove to him that I am different? I really have some strong feelings going on about this man and believe we have something special.I need advice from women in Army relationships...?
you do not prove anything, you let him prove himself, or not.
you do not prove anything, you let him prove himself, or not.
Need advice from those experienced with relationships?
Is she ready to move on?
So last week my girlfriend (who I live with) told me that she is confused and that she needed some space. I tried to stay away from her as much as possible the next couple of days. We finally hung out on saturday. That night she told me that she was really glad I respected her space. She told me she loved me but she still wanted space. She had me hold her a couple of times.
Then, last night she told me that its been hard on her and it just makes her want me more. But then she said in a joking manner that I cant love her for the next three days and vice versa. She said she is too young to be in love (22 years old). I think she is just looking for a way to break up with me so she can travel and do her own thing.
What the hell is that? I am getting sick of just waiting around for her decision. It makes me seem to desperate. I love her but this is just making me angry/sad/annoyed
What are you thoughts on what is going on?Need advice from those experienced with relationships?
I would sit down with her and find resolve. Talk it out and see where's she's at. Maybe she truly (for reasons unexplained) does need her space right now. I've always found that communication is the best way to get the answers we search for. Just sit down and talk, no pressure, no anger. Good luck.Need advice from those experienced with relationships?
She seems honest so far. She can genuinely not know what she wants and is doing a little soul searching. You should do the same in the mean while. You're both young and lifes short.
She's cheating on you. There's some other guy she's with, and she doesn't want you to find out about it.
maybe..you should just try to move on..you know? sometimes love just dies..and people fall out of it.
how old r u?
you sound like u migh be older then her, and she sounds intimidated being in a serious relationship so young. Anyone can feel this way. Im 20 and been in a serious relationship since i was 17/18. Its been more then 2 years.... its not easy because any normal person around my age or your gf age feels like they arent suppose to be committed because they are suppose to enjoy life. Im not saying she is going to go crazy or party or what not.. it depends on the type of girl she is.
if shes asking for space its because shes thinking, she loves you...definitely...because this is hard for her...but in t he process she doesnt want to lose you. its a decision she has to make. to see if this is what she can handle right now, and put herself 100% in. there are guys that feel exactly that way. my bf did, and we still together. (even though he can still be a pain) just take it easy.
i always feel like if things were meant to be then its sure to happen, bt theres nothing wrong in hoping..and iknow u hope to be with her. so try not to be too inpatient. but still talk to her, and share this with eachother...me and my bf talked and argued about all these feelings and how things are ';suppose to be'; cuz we ';young'; but you kno what....... things are different and theres no certain way they should be. ive learned that...everything is different, every person is different, every relationship, every guy, girl....and love. so talk with her, and be hopeful. wish u the best
u can email me if u want to talk.
well, one or two things she could be playing the how much do you love me and care game...or she doesnt want to be with you anymore and she feels sorry for you and doesnt really know how to tell you. so maybe you should try the direct approach, tell her that you love her and you are willing to give her the space she needs but she has to respect the fact that you are human with feelings and ignoring problems dont make them go away so just talk about what the issues are and why you are feeling this way.
So last week my girlfriend (who I live with) told me that she is confused and that she needed some space. I tried to stay away from her as much as possible the next couple of days. We finally hung out on saturday. That night she told me that she was really glad I respected her space. She told me she loved me but she still wanted space. She had me hold her a couple of times.
Then, last night she told me that its been hard on her and it just makes her want me more. But then she said in a joking manner that I cant love her for the next three days and vice versa. She said she is too young to be in love (22 years old). I think she is just looking for a way to break up with me so she can travel and do her own thing.
What the hell is that? I am getting sick of just waiting around for her decision. It makes me seem to desperate. I love her but this is just making me angry/sad/annoyed
What are you thoughts on what is going on?Need advice from those experienced with relationships?
I would sit down with her and find resolve. Talk it out and see where's she's at. Maybe she truly (for reasons unexplained) does need her space right now. I've always found that communication is the best way to get the answers we search for. Just sit down and talk, no pressure, no anger. Good luck.Need advice from those experienced with relationships?
She seems honest so far. She can genuinely not know what she wants and is doing a little soul searching. You should do the same in the mean while. You're both young and lifes short.
She's cheating on you. There's some other guy she's with, and she doesn't want you to find out about it.
maybe..you should just try to move on..you know? sometimes love just dies..and people fall out of it.
how old r u?
you sound like u migh be older then her, and she sounds intimidated being in a serious relationship so young. Anyone can feel this way. Im 20 and been in a serious relationship since i was 17/18. Its been more then 2 years.... its not easy because any normal person around my age or your gf age feels like they arent suppose to be committed because they are suppose to enjoy life. Im not saying she is going to go crazy or party or what not.. it depends on the type of girl she is.
if shes asking for space its because shes thinking, she loves you...definitely...because this is hard for her...but in t he process she doesnt want to lose you. its a decision she has to make. to see if this is what she can handle right now, and put herself 100% in. there are guys that feel exactly that way. my bf did, and we still together. (even though he can still be a pain) just take it easy.
i always feel like if things were meant to be then its sure to happen, bt theres nothing wrong in hoping..and iknow u hope to be with her. so try not to be too inpatient. but still talk to her, and share this with eachother...me and my bf talked and argued about all these feelings and how things are ';suppose to be'; cuz we ';young'; but you kno what....... things are different and theres no certain way they should be. ive learned that...everything is different, every person is different, every relationship, every guy, girl....and love. so talk with her, and be hopeful. wish u the best
u can email me if u want to talk.
well, one or two things she could be playing the how much do you love me and care game...or she doesnt want to be with you anymore and she feels sorry for you and doesnt really know how to tell you. so maybe you should try the direct approach, tell her that you love her and you are willing to give her the space she needs but she has to respect the fact that you are human with feelings and ignoring problems dont make them go away so just talk about what the issues are and why you are feeling this way.
Need advice on building friendships & probable relationships?
Theres two boys I'm interested in getting to know..but I don't know what to say to them. Im not good at starting or making conversations, its not that I get nervous around them, but I'm not good at making conversations.I want to get close to them both, because I believe that they are compatible with my personality..but its just a matter of spending more time with them ((which i barely have) ..How do I make the best of my conversations with them and get to know the most I could about them withouth coming onto them too strongly? What do I ask specifically? I know I have to be patient, and the friendships with build itself with time..but..I'm not. Is there anything I can do? Any help would be appreciated a lot =DNeed advice on building friendships %26amp; probable relationships?
Hey, watch the news or some current events in hollywood or something. Whatever intrests you really. Everyone has an opinion on everything, so talk to them about the topic, and share your opinion. discuss it and see if it leads you to talk about an event you remember earlier in life or so on. If not, go onto talking about another thing you saw or read about. And if you run out of things to talk about, A: focus the conversation to him, or B: need to go do something important.
its good for at least a half hour of conversation if you have a good memory.Need advice on building friendships %26amp; probable relationships?
Check out this free E-book on how to achieve and happy and healthy relationship. It really helped me when I had some problems in my relationship.help blackheads
Hey, watch the news or some current events in hollywood or something. Whatever intrests you really. Everyone has an opinion on everything, so talk to them about the topic, and share your opinion. discuss it and see if it leads you to talk about an event you remember earlier in life or so on. If not, go onto talking about another thing you saw or read about. And if you run out of things to talk about, A: focus the conversation to him, or B: need to go do something important.
its good for at least a half hour of conversation if you have a good memory.Need advice on building friendships %26amp; probable relationships?
Check out this free E-book on how to achieve and happy and healthy relationship. It really helped me when I had some problems in my relationship.
I need relationship advice.?
My ';friend'; told-a girl that I was interested in that I liked her. Not only did that jacka** tell her,but she said, ';I know.';. and he said that she blushed a little bit (He also claims that she smiled.). Now, I can't go back to church because she'll eat me because she knows my dark secret. My stupid ';friend';ruined my chances of me hooking up with her. Should I kill him?I need relationship advice.?
go to church, talk to her, and just go for it, man
or kill your friend, whatever worksI need relationship advice.?
Your friend is awesome. She already knew, so there's no damage done. Just smile at her next time you see her. Then try to ask her out, sometime after that, or call her. This will be easy.
Yeah, kill him and spend 25 years in jail. Once you come out, it's like nothing ever happened.
Im pretty sure that if she blushed and smiled she's happy that you like her. and you have a great chance of hooking up with her. so don't kill him thank him
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she is gonna think that you are avoiding her now and that is bad..you need to grow some balls
Uh no! If she smiled and blushed a little maybe u should go back to church and try asking her out. the worst that could happen is she could say no. it wouldn't be the end of the world. it might suck for a while but there are plently of fish in the sea. but from what ur friend said it seemed like she might like u. give it a shot.
go to church, talk to her, and just go for it, man
or kill your friend, whatever worksI need relationship advice.?
Your friend is awesome. She already knew, so there's no damage done. Just smile at her next time you see her. Then try to ask her out, sometime after that, or call her. This will be easy.
Yeah, kill him and spend 25 years in jail. Once you come out, it's like nothing ever happened.
Im pretty sure that if she blushed and smiled she's happy that you like her. and you have a great chance of hooking up with her. so don't kill him thank him
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she is gonna think that you are avoiding her now and that is bad..you need to grow some balls
Uh no! If she smiled and blushed a little maybe u should go back to church and try asking her out. the worst that could happen is she could say no. it wouldn't be the end of the world. it might suck for a while but there are plently of fish in the sea. but from what ur friend said it seemed like she might like u. give it a shot.
Relationship advice please?
I had been with my now ex boyfriend for a year and a half. The past couple months we had been arguing quite a bit. Come to find out he had been emailing a female co worker of his, talking as if they were more than just friends, talking bad about me.
I had been there for him through alot. While he was in jail for 2 months, and also to help him get back on his feet and try to better him. I thought things were going good for a few days, but he has gone back to arguing with me about things that shouldnt even be a big deal. I love him with all my heart, but I cannot continue to let him treat me this way. But I also cannot give up on him, he has some depression issues and I just cant let him go. But, I also cant try to help someone tht doesnt want to help himself.
I want nothing but the best for both of us. How do I talk to him about this, without pointing any fingers, or arguing. Im just tired of the heartache he gives me.
also, he told me he only wants to be friends, but gets jealous if my phone rings, or accuses me of talking with other guys, which shouldnt even matter, because its his choice he only wants to be friends.Relationship advice please?
If thins are not going properly it is good to end the relationship at this point.If other person is not caring about your feelings why should you care for him so much. Also when he can develop relation with someone else and is jealous when even you talk to someone he is not a person to be kept faith on.It is the best time to depart. And also you do not know what Destiny has thought for future for both of you. So do not hesitate and just get away from him.Relationship advice please?
You need to start separating NOW. He is jealous and possessive, you have a history of fighting and of his being at least somewhat unfaithful with that co-worker. And he went to jail for something. In other words, this guy is no prize. Don't let his ';depression issues'; blackmail you into staying with him. If he doesn't want to help himself, fine. No reason you should, then.
Point him in the direction of a health clinic to deal with his issues and wish him the best of luck.
If you stay with this guy you are just in for more heartache. Is that all you deserve?
I think you should break up with him. There are a lot of better guys out there. He looks like a really selfish man to me. He don't want you to talk with others, because he knows you can easily find a better man than him.
Come on now, I dont know you personally but it sounds like you already know the answer to your question. Your clinging onto something that doesnt want you to cling onto. This sounds like typical girl trying to change guy thing here and its just not going to happen. He doesnt want anything to do with you dear....he said it himself. Its great that stood by your man but he doesnt want you around anymore, so your need to cut him loose and move on. I think hes using you and feeding off the fact that your so madly inlove with him, hes not good for you.
sit down and talk and dont raise ur voice be relaxed it could help.and talk bout u and not only him. then if he raises his voice tell him u love him to much to yell at him anymore.
you've invested a lot into this relationship and he hasn't appreciated it one bit, if you really want to work out your problems, my suggestion is relationship counseling and if he isn't willing to work on it maybe you should just cut ties and move on with your life, trust me, once he is out of your life you will feel a lot better.
I think the best thing for you to do is to love him as a friend. He sounds troubled and if he doesn't want to fix it, then you can't fix it for him. You can still love him and want the best for him but you have to take care of yourself and love yourself first.
Sounds controlling to me.
Find the strength within you to leave. No man is worth this kind of headache or heartache for that matter
LOVE yourself more!!
yea true,, i think it'd be the best if you just try to love him as a friend. sometimes, our friends mean more than a boyfriend atm.. cuz friends don't keep their self esteem, they laugh as they want.. they feel free..
you need to dump him before he really hurts you emotionally.
I had been there for him through alot. While he was in jail for 2 months, and also to help him get back on his feet and try to better him. I thought things were going good for a few days, but he has gone back to arguing with me about things that shouldnt even be a big deal. I love him with all my heart, but I cannot continue to let him treat me this way. But I also cannot give up on him, he has some depression issues and I just cant let him go. But, I also cant try to help someone tht doesnt want to help himself.
I want nothing but the best for both of us. How do I talk to him about this, without pointing any fingers, or arguing. Im just tired of the heartache he gives me.
also, he told me he only wants to be friends, but gets jealous if my phone rings, or accuses me of talking with other guys, which shouldnt even matter, because its his choice he only wants to be friends.Relationship advice please?
If thins are not going properly it is good to end the relationship at this point.If other person is not caring about your feelings why should you care for him so much. Also when he can develop relation with someone else and is jealous when even you talk to someone he is not a person to be kept faith on.It is the best time to depart. And also you do not know what Destiny has thought for future for both of you. So do not hesitate and just get away from him.Relationship advice please?
You need to start separating NOW. He is jealous and possessive, you have a history of fighting and of his being at least somewhat unfaithful with that co-worker. And he went to jail for something. In other words, this guy is no prize. Don't let his ';depression issues'; blackmail you into staying with him. If he doesn't want to help himself, fine. No reason you should, then.
Point him in the direction of a health clinic to deal with his issues and wish him the best of luck.
If you stay with this guy you are just in for more heartache. Is that all you deserve?
I think you should break up with him. There are a lot of better guys out there. He looks like a really selfish man to me. He don't want you to talk with others, because he knows you can easily find a better man than him.
Come on now, I dont know you personally but it sounds like you already know the answer to your question. Your clinging onto something that doesnt want you to cling onto. This sounds like typical girl trying to change guy thing here and its just not going to happen. He doesnt want anything to do with you dear....he said it himself. Its great that stood by your man but he doesnt want you around anymore, so your need to cut him loose and move on. I think hes using you and feeding off the fact that your so madly inlove with him, hes not good for you.
sit down and talk and dont raise ur voice be relaxed it could help.and talk bout u and not only him. then if he raises his voice tell him u love him to much to yell at him anymore.
you've invested a lot into this relationship and he hasn't appreciated it one bit, if you really want to work out your problems, my suggestion is relationship counseling and if he isn't willing to work on it maybe you should just cut ties and move on with your life, trust me, once he is out of your life you will feel a lot better.
I think the best thing for you to do is to love him as a friend. He sounds troubled and if he doesn't want to fix it, then you can't fix it for him. You can still love him and want the best for him but you have to take care of yourself and love yourself first.
Sounds controlling to me.
Find the strength within you to leave. No man is worth this kind of headache or heartache for that matter
LOVE yourself more!!
yea true,, i think it'd be the best if you just try to love him as a friend. sometimes, our friends mean more than a boyfriend atm.. cuz friends don't keep their self esteem, they laugh as they want.. they feel free..
you need to dump him before he really hurts you emotionally.
Relationship Advice??????????????
hi,
i am 14 years old almost 15 and my boyfriend is 16 years old. we are in the same grade. I love him to death and he loves me. We have been together for a year now. I love him for who he is, and he loves me for who i am. We fight tho, not about huge things, just about little things, but i usually end up crying because i just care about him so much and i dont want to lose him.
hes the only one who really loves me, my family doesnt really love me, and ive had bad expiriences with guys before and he seems to have made my life so much better. I was battling anorexia and he helped me get through it. but....he gets mad at me alot. I feel like whatever i do gets him mad...little things...big things...i just cant do anything right it seems.
One time i was scared i was pregnant (false alarm) but when i told him i was sad, scared, alone. and i just needed him so much to make me feel better to reassure me, but instead he yelled he swore and this surprised me because he has told me countless times that if i ever got pregnant he would stay with me, he said';he wouldnt be one of those jerks who just left their girlfriends because of that'; when we were together for around 5 months he cheated on me (made out with another girl) this really hurt our relationship but because we loved eachother we got through it. I dont trust him too much now, or well its very hard to but do you blame me?
i guess what im trying to ask is...
1.How do i make my relationship with him better? i.e. not fighting, not getting him so mad all the time?
2.If im being a bad girlfriend for not trusting him, or what i should do?
3. Anything else, i just love him so much i dont want to lose him.Relationship Advice??????????????
This sounds like me during my first relationship. I just want to tell you now, even if you may not believe me or want to hear it, but as perfect as you think this guy is, there exists SO MANY more perfect men out there. When I was in high school and I met the ';love of my life,'; I knew that I didn't want to be with anyone else and that I loved him with all of my heart, his flaws and imperfections too. But he didn't always make me feel the best when I was insecure, and I think your boyfriend is doing the same with you. Sometimes you have to remove yourself from the situation mentally, and come to terms with the fact that no matter what happens, if this relationship works out or if it doesn't, you'll be able to live without him because you are an awesome girl who doesn't need a boy who'll mistreat her.
Now, for your questions:
1. You can't control how mad he gets, that's a personal thing to do with him. What you can do on your part is to find something to do on your own time, to enjoy yourself and your life, so that if you're feeling sad or heartbroken about his latest insensitivity, you can learn to be self-reliant and become happy on your own. You coming back to the relationship as happy as a clam will help out a lot, because when happy people are around it's easy to believe that the world around you is a good place to be and if he STILL gets mad around you after that, dump him, girl!
2. You're not a bad girlfriend. Many people, teens and adults, will stay with someone who has cheated on them, for many reasons! If it's gotten to the point where YOU'RE suffering because of the thought of him cheating on you again, or maybe not staying with you in the event that you WERE pregnant, then you can't put yourself through that. Believe it or not, another ';perfect'; man will come along and you'll wonder why you ever stressed about THIS boy to begin with!
3. It's good to love him, and it's good to not want to lose someone you care about. But ';if it doesn't feel right, it's probably not right.'; Trust your best judgment.
I hope everything works out for you, sweetie%26lt;3 Good luckRelationship Advice??????????????
girl when you love someone dont get paranoid. and dont be afraid to get hurt. dont listen to anything your friends say to you. do not bring any negative stuff into a relationship. unless it is obvious that he has got someone else. or he leaves you. make your wonderful feeling last as long as you can. love is forgiveness. he has shown his weakness by cheating on you. so what - we all make mistaskes, he is still with you! if you feel you deserve better - then it's not him you love, it's you. then you need to move on.
I think you need to work on yourself, not this relationship. I firmly believe that, ';you need to be happy with you, before you can be happy with someone else.';
Is there a counselor you can see? One through school perhaps?
Maybe read some self help books.
I think that once you get more confidence, and know that you are fabulous you will know you deserve a better relationship. One where you don't have to worry about fighting all the time.
Good Luck!
Get out of the relationship. He sounds like the kind of guy who would be an abuser later on in life. He sounds like he takes advantage of the way you feel and doesn't really care. If he really loved you, he wouldn't get mad at you over everything... it's not your fault he's getting mad all the time, you're not a bad girlfriend, he just obviously has issues... If you don't want to lose him, give him a leash and see what happens, let him know how you're feeling, and if it keeps happening, it isn't worth it. Just be careful, Ok?
i am 14 years old almost 15 and my boyfriend is 16 years old. we are in the same grade. I love him to death and he loves me. We have been together for a year now. I love him for who he is, and he loves me for who i am. We fight tho, not about huge things, just about little things, but i usually end up crying because i just care about him so much and i dont want to lose him.
hes the only one who really loves me, my family doesnt really love me, and ive had bad expiriences with guys before and he seems to have made my life so much better. I was battling anorexia and he helped me get through it. but....he gets mad at me alot. I feel like whatever i do gets him mad...little things...big things...i just cant do anything right it seems.
One time i was scared i was pregnant (false alarm) but when i told him i was sad, scared, alone. and i just needed him so much to make me feel better to reassure me, but instead he yelled he swore and this surprised me because he has told me countless times that if i ever got pregnant he would stay with me, he said';he wouldnt be one of those jerks who just left their girlfriends because of that'; when we were together for around 5 months he cheated on me (made out with another girl) this really hurt our relationship but because we loved eachother we got through it. I dont trust him too much now, or well its very hard to but do you blame me?
i guess what im trying to ask is...
1.How do i make my relationship with him better? i.e. not fighting, not getting him so mad all the time?
2.If im being a bad girlfriend for not trusting him, or what i should do?
3. Anything else, i just love him so much i dont want to lose him.Relationship Advice??????????????
This sounds like me during my first relationship. I just want to tell you now, even if you may not believe me or want to hear it, but as perfect as you think this guy is, there exists SO MANY more perfect men out there. When I was in high school and I met the ';love of my life,'; I knew that I didn't want to be with anyone else and that I loved him with all of my heart, his flaws and imperfections too. But he didn't always make me feel the best when I was insecure, and I think your boyfriend is doing the same with you. Sometimes you have to remove yourself from the situation mentally, and come to terms with the fact that no matter what happens, if this relationship works out or if it doesn't, you'll be able to live without him because you are an awesome girl who doesn't need a boy who'll mistreat her.
Now, for your questions:
1. You can't control how mad he gets, that's a personal thing to do with him. What you can do on your part is to find something to do on your own time, to enjoy yourself and your life, so that if you're feeling sad or heartbroken about his latest insensitivity, you can learn to be self-reliant and become happy on your own. You coming back to the relationship as happy as a clam will help out a lot, because when happy people are around it's easy to believe that the world around you is a good place to be and if he STILL gets mad around you after that, dump him, girl!
2. You're not a bad girlfriend. Many people, teens and adults, will stay with someone who has cheated on them, for many reasons! If it's gotten to the point where YOU'RE suffering because of the thought of him cheating on you again, or maybe not staying with you in the event that you WERE pregnant, then you can't put yourself through that. Believe it or not, another ';perfect'; man will come along and you'll wonder why you ever stressed about THIS boy to begin with!
3. It's good to love him, and it's good to not want to lose someone you care about. But ';if it doesn't feel right, it's probably not right.'; Trust your best judgment.
I hope everything works out for you, sweetie%26lt;3 Good luckRelationship Advice??????????????
girl when you love someone dont get paranoid. and dont be afraid to get hurt. dont listen to anything your friends say to you. do not bring any negative stuff into a relationship. unless it is obvious that he has got someone else. or he leaves you. make your wonderful feeling last as long as you can. love is forgiveness. he has shown his weakness by cheating on you. so what - we all make mistaskes, he is still with you! if you feel you deserve better - then it's not him you love, it's you. then you need to move on.
I think you need to work on yourself, not this relationship. I firmly believe that, ';you need to be happy with you, before you can be happy with someone else.';
Is there a counselor you can see? One through school perhaps?
Maybe read some self help books.
I think that once you get more confidence, and know that you are fabulous you will know you deserve a better relationship. One where you don't have to worry about fighting all the time.
Good Luck!
Get out of the relationship. He sounds like the kind of guy who would be an abuser later on in life. He sounds like he takes advantage of the way you feel and doesn't really care. If he really loved you, he wouldn't get mad at you over everything... it's not your fault he's getting mad all the time, you're not a bad girlfriend, he just obviously has issues... If you don't want to lose him, give him a leash and see what happens, let him know how you're feeling, and if it keeps happening, it isn't worth it. Just be careful, Ok?
I need relationship advice ...?
ok ... im in a relationship with ... lets say laura ... me and laura are pretty good together ... we laugh ... we have fun ... but not all the time. she gets depressed alot and its hard to stay with her. and then theres ... lets say samantha ... me and samantha havent been freinds for extremely long ... shes funny, she likes the same things i do ... we both laugh together ... she says im ';cute'; and i think she is too ... i love laura ... but now that samantha has come into my life, i kinda want to go out with samantha but she lives kinda far away, and she says long distance relationships arent that good for her. laura lives only about an hour away because she moved recently...
i want to know if i should go out with samantha or keep with laura ...
and if i go with samantha ... then how would i break up with laura? ...I need relationship advice ...?
you got to ask yourself if its really it to throw away what you got with Laura for another girl. if she gets depressed you Should, as the bf, try to help her. as for the other girl...
i was in a serious relationship once and i was starting to have feelings for someone who i was very attracted to and had tons in common with, i used to sneak around to hang out with her and was tempted to cheat but had a realization that i didnt want to ruin what i had. now things are different for everyone but you just need to BE SURE YOU WANT WHAT HAPPENS, because if you break up and are with another girl you dont get to be with laura anymore.
its a tough decision but i wish you good luck.
i want to know if i should go out with samantha or keep with laura ...
and if i go with samantha ... then how would i break up with laura? ...I need relationship advice ...?
you got to ask yourself if its really it to throw away what you got with Laura for another girl. if she gets depressed you Should, as the bf, try to help her. as for the other girl...
i was in a serious relationship once and i was starting to have feelings for someone who i was very attracted to and had tons in common with, i used to sneak around to hang out with her and was tempted to cheat but had a realization that i didnt want to ruin what i had. now things are different for everyone but you just need to BE SURE YOU WANT WHAT HAPPENS, because if you break up and are with another girl you dont get to be with laura anymore.
its a tough decision but i wish you good luck.
I need relationship advice?
i fell for my best friend and i thought that if i asked her out she would say yes cause we had almost everything in common. well she said no which i was sorta ready for but now i just feel like ****. i'm wondering if i should act like nothing happend and just be a friend, or not talk to her for awhile?I need relationship advice?
Act normally. If she was surprised she will need time to muddle it over in her mind.
Act normally. If she was surprised she will need time to muddle it over in her mind.
Relationship advice?
me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years i love her more than anything but i think she wants out of the relationship. i know she would never cheat on me because she knows id find out. but lately when we make arrangements to see each other she keeps changing the plans like this weekend we were supposed to meet on friday but she changed it to saturday then she changed it to today now she has changed it to tomorrow. were both jobless at the moment and thats putting alot of stress on me as i feel i cant provide for her. lately it just seems like she doesnt want to see me. i cant even remeber the last time we made love im 22 she is 21 this year i get so lonely and i miss her so much iv talked to her about it but all she does is apologise but when we do see each other its amasing. we cuddle alot we talk alot we spend all out time together just near each other. i dont want to loose her. please helpRelationship advice?
I think you are both very young ,and your girl friend is into minds want she wants a the moment why don,t you ask her about this and may be have a breck for a month ,If she really love you after a month she will be all over youRelationship advice?
ive been there i no what you mean first of all your main prioroty should be to get a job both of you so your not sitting around thinking about these senarios! yous would able to see each other on your days off aswell i used to do that to my boyfriend aswell only because i was depressed about my life ie not having a job just talk to her im sure everything will work out for the best ,i now have a job and im happy 22 hes 23 weve been out 2 n half yrshelp blackheads
I think you are both very young ,and your girl friend is into minds want she wants a the moment why don,t you ask her about this and may be have a breck for a month ,If she really love you after a month she will be all over youRelationship advice?
ive been there i no what you mean first of all your main prioroty should be to get a job both of you so your not sitting around thinking about these senarios! yous would able to see each other on your days off aswell i used to do that to my boyfriend aswell only because i was depressed about my life ie not having a job just talk to her im sure everything will work out for the best ,i now have a job and im happy 22 hes 23 weve been out 2 n half yrs
Dating and relationships serious and urgent advice?
I met this girl at the club and she was really interested in me. She said i looked cute and kissed me a bunch of times. She gave me her number but said there were eyes watching her or something. I guess she has a BF what do you guys suggest i should do. SHe was like she does not know me when i txted her today and her BF called me a little while later. How should i handle this.Dating and relationships serious and urgent advice?
this girl sounds a bit of a slut/skank
you didnt know she had a boyfriend so when you kissed her,its not your fault.
but she obviously does know she has a boyfriend,so i think just leave it alone,move on and if the boyfriend rings you again say ';sorry i didnt know she had a boyfriend and it isnt going to happen again. im really sorry';Dating and relationships serious and urgent advice?
Not to be mean but the girl seems trouble just by the way you describe the whole thing. You met her in a CLUB, not the best place for meeting long term relationships there but anyway. Then she wants to secretly date you while she has a boyfriend, what will happen next, she'll do the same thing to you later. Not really serious about her relationship, if she really wanted to date me for exemple she would have to sort out her relationship first then we could talk about dating. Dating a girl who's cheating on her boyfriend just tells you that she's able to do the same to you as well.
well you texted her so you know she has your number.
so i'd say either run away, a love triangle is the last thing you want to put yourself in.
or, since she does have your number, wait till she texts you and see it out from there.
but honestly, i wouldn't persue it for this reason, she has a boyfriend, she knew he was watching apparently, and she still kissed you and gave you her number. that might not affect you now, but if you get into a relationship later with her, you're gonna remember that, and that could lead to some serious trust issues.
Let this one go brotha....seems trouble. lol it is true tho. If she is into you then she would atleast be real with you. She likes you when you met her in a club the first night?!?!?!?? ???? in my brain lol....she probably was either drunk or was playing around or wanted to make her bf pissed for whatever reason....you already made a mistake texting her. You should have called and if she didnt pick up and you went to voicemail, you should have said hi this is...your name....then pretend you continue talking and hung up...she calls you back then she is interested if not laaaaater. Hope that helps!
She was a floozy and did you a favor by not recognizing you. She must do this a lot? Forget about her. If she forgot you that quick then she did it on impulse and probably with every other guy at the club. Her poor boyfriend. If he called you then he must suspect she hooking up with other guys. Dude, that could of been you. god speed bro. :)
how do you know it was her bf who called? did you have a chat with him or did he ring back saying HELLO?HELLO? and you didnt answer??
that said, i think she's one of those girls who when they've had a drink get flirty to drive her bf jealous.. you've been used by a drunk girl.
I advice you to leave it there and then and pick up single girls next time.
Obviously she has a man. So I suggest you do nothing. Leave it where it started. Dont txt her nd dont call her. If you o txt her txt her friendly nd dont make it seem like you r trying to get with her
if she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you. Do want to be stuck in that situation? if yes, call her, if not, then leave it alone
if i were you i would forget about her and apoligize to her bf and try to get away from it asap before it gets to deep.
JUST WALK OUT OF IT..SHE MIGHT NOT EVEN B WORTH THe TROUBLE.. IF SHES THAT EASY SHE MIGHT B ALL AROUND. U GOTA BE CAREFULL WITH ALL THOSE THING OUT THERE
Forget her. She sounds troubled. Best due without her.
just call her and talk to her..and ask her wat's gonna on with her
If I were you I would be upset and just talk to her about it.
id leave it alone..save urself the *** beating
There are plenty of fish in the sea !
maybe she was drunk or something.. just 4get about her
leave her, there are alot of single girls out there
id be totally honest with the bf clearly shes like trying to cheat or what not
don't even get in to this... its not worth it!
this girl sounds a bit of a slut/skank
you didnt know she had a boyfriend so when you kissed her,its not your fault.
but she obviously does know she has a boyfriend,so i think just leave it alone,move on and if the boyfriend rings you again say ';sorry i didnt know she had a boyfriend and it isnt going to happen again. im really sorry';Dating and relationships serious and urgent advice?
Not to be mean but the girl seems trouble just by the way you describe the whole thing. You met her in a CLUB, not the best place for meeting long term relationships there but anyway. Then she wants to secretly date you while she has a boyfriend, what will happen next, she'll do the same thing to you later. Not really serious about her relationship, if she really wanted to date me for exemple she would have to sort out her relationship first then we could talk about dating. Dating a girl who's cheating on her boyfriend just tells you that she's able to do the same to you as well.
well you texted her so you know she has your number.
so i'd say either run away, a love triangle is the last thing you want to put yourself in.
or, since she does have your number, wait till she texts you and see it out from there.
but honestly, i wouldn't persue it for this reason, she has a boyfriend, she knew he was watching apparently, and she still kissed you and gave you her number. that might not affect you now, but if you get into a relationship later with her, you're gonna remember that, and that could lead to some serious trust issues.
Let this one go brotha....seems trouble. lol it is true tho. If she is into you then she would atleast be real with you. She likes you when you met her in a club the first night?!?!?!?? ???? in my brain lol....she probably was either drunk or was playing around or wanted to make her bf pissed for whatever reason....you already made a mistake texting her. You should have called and if she didnt pick up and you went to voicemail, you should have said hi this is...your name....then pretend you continue talking and hung up...she calls you back then she is interested if not laaaaater. Hope that helps!
She was a floozy and did you a favor by not recognizing you. She must do this a lot? Forget about her. If she forgot you that quick then she did it on impulse and probably with every other guy at the club. Her poor boyfriend. If he called you then he must suspect she hooking up with other guys. Dude, that could of been you. god speed bro. :)
how do you know it was her bf who called? did you have a chat with him or did he ring back saying HELLO?HELLO? and you didnt answer??
that said, i think she's one of those girls who when they've had a drink get flirty to drive her bf jealous.. you've been used by a drunk girl.
I advice you to leave it there and then and pick up single girls next time.
Obviously she has a man. So I suggest you do nothing. Leave it where it started. Dont txt her nd dont call her. If you o txt her txt her friendly nd dont make it seem like you r trying to get with her
if she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you. Do want to be stuck in that situation? if yes, call her, if not, then leave it alone
if i were you i would forget about her and apoligize to her bf and try to get away from it asap before it gets to deep.
JUST WALK OUT OF IT..SHE MIGHT NOT EVEN B WORTH THe TROUBLE.. IF SHES THAT EASY SHE MIGHT B ALL AROUND. U GOTA BE CAREFULL WITH ALL THOSE THING OUT THERE
Forget her. She sounds troubled. Best due without her.
just call her and talk to her..and ask her wat's gonna on with her
If I were you I would be upset and just talk to her about it.
id leave it alone..save urself the *** beating
There are plenty of fish in the sea !
maybe she was drunk or something.. just 4get about her
leave her, there are alot of single girls out there
id be totally honest with the bf clearly shes like trying to cheat or what not
don't even get in to this... its not worth it!
Lost in relationships please give me advice?
ok i am a 23 year old father of a wonderful lil boy. i was with his mother for 5 years and we ended it 2 years ago. i have been into a relationship with a nice ';innocent'; girl. well since we have been together i have realized that i am unhappy with her. maybe we are just too different. way too different. we are all grumpy with each other i dont think she is happy either. i work at a bar here in orlando in which i have met a wonderful, beautiful woman and we have kinda clicked. we hang out any chance we get and eventhough she has no kids she is better with isiah than my current girlfriend who i live with who has a daughter of her own. the new girl makes me happy and i have a great time when we hang out which is mostly us 2 going out to eat or to the movies. there is one problem she has a boyfriend and she dont act like she is happy with him. they are always yelling and cursing each other out. i dont want to hurt my current girlfriend and i want to stay in her kids life please help!Lost in relationships please give me advice?
Well, the road gets ruff every once in a while. You need to follow your own moral standards and then decide what to do. I can't tell you what's right, other than that it's important to be clear and make up one's own mind. Good luck with that.
And by the way, I say like Cher's father in Clueless: you divorce mothers, not children. So I think it's great that you think about them.
Well, the road gets ruff every once in a while. You need to follow your own moral standards and then decide what to do. I can't tell you what's right, other than that it's important to be clear and make up one's own mind. Good luck with that.
And by the way, I say like Cher's father in Clueless: you divorce mothers, not children. So I think it's great that you think about them.
Starting to question my 7 month relationship. can you help me out with any advice?
been with my boyfriend 7 months and i do adore him. i know he has lot of emotional problems such as dealing with alot of death in his family etc.
but we have got to the stage where its like a crossroads, and i feel like our relationship isnt consistent at times and sometimes we appear to be making progress and then suddenly 2 steps back. i want to tell him i love him but am fraid that maybe he doesnt love me. he is 41 and i am 28, age has never been an issue as he is full of life etc. but sometimes i just want him to scoop me up and love me. he says our relationship is moving slow but i dont know how to move this along to the next level? im not sure if this is my insecurities making me feel this way or the fact that i should end my relationship. i mean, what is supposed to have happened in 7 months? this is my first relationship since i got divorced and i feel scared and sometimes fragile.Starting to question my 7 month relationship. can you help me out with any advice?
no one can help you here, you need to talk to him and find out whats going on and if you are going anywhere!
good luck!!Starting to question my 7 month relationship. can you help me out with any advice?
I think you need to talk with him and let him know exactly how you feel. What do you expect out of this relationship? Love, companionship, financial and emotional security? What do you want from him? Lack of communication is always the problem when it comes to relationships that aren't working. I can tell you what you want to hear, but I can't guarentee it will work or help. Only your boyfriend can tell you and follow through. So he's gotta understand how you're feeling. He can only assume you're happy like you can only assume he loves you. Without talking about it either of you truly know nothing. This relationship is still young enough to incorporate good communication skills. This will create a bond between you two that will flourish and grow bringing you two even closer and stronger as one. Remember your best friend, how she knew everything about you. Well if you love this man he should be your best friend. You should be able to freely tell him anything without sensoring yourself. Love pulls us together, but communication keeps us together!
It's funny that I read this question because I was just reflecting upon myself last night. I am in my early 30's. I have been happily married for 14 years. Anyways, I was thinking that if could change anything from my twenties it would be my fears. I am a worry wart and fear just about anything that could mess up the harmony within my life. So I feared confrontation, paying the bills timely, losing my husband to health problems, losing loved ones and whatever else I could worry or fear. Rather then living life and enjoying what I had, I feared losing it. But looking back, I realized I just drove myself crazy fearing it. Because I still have my husband, I still have my house, I still have those I love around me. I literally made myself sick because I didn't think I could handle the stress. Knowing now that it was I who was causing my anxiety and withdrawal of life. The sad part is, I have allowed those worries and fears to carry over to my thirties. Until last nights epiphany, I learned nothing Honestly, I don't know how to change it and get myself to just live and appreciate. But I truly understand now that I am my worst enemy. I hold myself back, my insecurities are running my life not me. Today I choose to leave that all behind me. Today I want to relax and let loose. I think I'm gonna get a tattoo or something to remind me that I want to live, not fear. I used to look around at all of the people and envy their strength and the fact that they know who they are. But I know realistically that we're all in the same boat. We all struggle and we all fear. So I'm intrigued how people still go forward. I refuse to set back and watch the world pass me by. I want to contribute, I want to be happy and I just want to feel secure with myself. I figure I owe it to myself just as you owe it to yourself.
I completely understand why you're scared and feel fragile. But look back and see all that you have overcome and all that you have accomplished. You survived it all just as you will survive this. It was you along making your life work. You will realize that you are much stronger than you ever gave yourself credit. Trust yourself and your instinct. I wish you the best of luck!
It's really hard to be patient with guys sometimes. It really helps telling them how their actions are making you feel but don't get overly stressed about it or angry that never works for them. Just give it a little time and keep talking weith him just try and make him feel as comfortable as possible and just let it flow.
hey i have been there im going through a divorce right know and he was 28 and im 31 we met really young i wish if i had do it over i wouldnt have gotten married so young and hes mexican i did everything he controlled the relationship and the money i didnt have anything for 10years..DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES AGAIN YOUR YOUNG....YOU probly are feeling loney and love like that dont work....just let him goo if you feel that its not worth it.. just be friends let time take its course you will find someone else who wants what you want it takes patiance......give me a shout out on the email mamisara07@yahoo.com
but we have got to the stage where its like a crossroads, and i feel like our relationship isnt consistent at times and sometimes we appear to be making progress and then suddenly 2 steps back. i want to tell him i love him but am fraid that maybe he doesnt love me. he is 41 and i am 28, age has never been an issue as he is full of life etc. but sometimes i just want him to scoop me up and love me. he says our relationship is moving slow but i dont know how to move this along to the next level? im not sure if this is my insecurities making me feel this way or the fact that i should end my relationship. i mean, what is supposed to have happened in 7 months? this is my first relationship since i got divorced and i feel scared and sometimes fragile.Starting to question my 7 month relationship. can you help me out with any advice?
no one can help you here, you need to talk to him and find out whats going on and if you are going anywhere!
good luck!!Starting to question my 7 month relationship. can you help me out with any advice?
I think you need to talk with him and let him know exactly how you feel. What do you expect out of this relationship? Love, companionship, financial and emotional security? What do you want from him? Lack of communication is always the problem when it comes to relationships that aren't working. I can tell you what you want to hear, but I can't guarentee it will work or help. Only your boyfriend can tell you and follow through. So he's gotta understand how you're feeling. He can only assume you're happy like you can only assume he loves you. Without talking about it either of you truly know nothing. This relationship is still young enough to incorporate good communication skills. This will create a bond between you two that will flourish and grow bringing you two even closer and stronger as one. Remember your best friend, how she knew everything about you. Well if you love this man he should be your best friend. You should be able to freely tell him anything without sensoring yourself. Love pulls us together, but communication keeps us together!
It's funny that I read this question because I was just reflecting upon myself last night. I am in my early 30's. I have been happily married for 14 years. Anyways, I was thinking that if could change anything from my twenties it would be my fears. I am a worry wart and fear just about anything that could mess up the harmony within my life. So I feared confrontation, paying the bills timely, losing my husband to health problems, losing loved ones and whatever else I could worry or fear. Rather then living life and enjoying what I had, I feared losing it. But looking back, I realized I just drove myself crazy fearing it. Because I still have my husband, I still have my house, I still have those I love around me. I literally made myself sick because I didn't think I could handle the stress. Knowing now that it was I who was causing my anxiety and withdrawal of life. The sad part is, I have allowed those worries and fears to carry over to my thirties. Until last nights epiphany, I learned nothing Honestly, I don't know how to change it and get myself to just live and appreciate. But I truly understand now that I am my worst enemy. I hold myself back, my insecurities are running my life not me. Today I choose to leave that all behind me. Today I want to relax and let loose. I think I'm gonna get a tattoo or something to remind me that I want to live, not fear. I used to look around at all of the people and envy their strength and the fact that they know who they are. But I know realistically that we're all in the same boat. We all struggle and we all fear. So I'm intrigued how people still go forward. I refuse to set back and watch the world pass me by. I want to contribute, I want to be happy and I just want to feel secure with myself. I figure I owe it to myself just as you owe it to yourself.
I completely understand why you're scared and feel fragile. But look back and see all that you have overcome and all that you have accomplished. You survived it all just as you will survive this. It was you along making your life work. You will realize that you are much stronger than you ever gave yourself credit. Trust yourself and your instinct. I wish you the best of luck!
It's really hard to be patient with guys sometimes. It really helps telling them how their actions are making you feel but don't get overly stressed about it or angry that never works for them. Just give it a little time and keep talking weith him just try and make him feel as comfortable as possible and just let it flow.
hey i have been there im going through a divorce right know and he was 28 and im 31 we met really young i wish if i had do it over i wouldnt have gotten married so young and hes mexican i did everything he controlled the relationship and the money i didnt have anything for 10years..DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES AGAIN YOUR YOUNG....YOU probly are feeling loney and love like that dont work....just let him goo if you feel that its not worth it.. just be friends let time take its course you will find someone else who wants what you want it takes patiance......give me a shout out on the email mamisara07@yahoo.com
SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. PLEASE HELP?
My friend needed me to post this:
She is 21 and her boyfriend is 24. They have been together for 4 years but have problems everyday. Her and her boyfriend do EVERYTHING. Meaning: Live together, On the phone 24/7, They took friends out of their lives too, etc. They fight everyday. They are both very jealous people.
Her faults: She doesnt want him to look at any female around her. She finds it disrespectful. If she catches him doing it then she will do something to make him unhappy like not smoke a cig with him. She now smokes two a day with him since she caught him smoking. She gives him trouble about going on the internet or turning the tv on because of females being on so they only watch tv when they eat dinner or go on the internet together. Meaning, they never watch any shows with attractive males or females...
His faults: He lied to her about smoking cigs and chewing until she caught him 2 years into the relationship when they moved in together. He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship: Bars, Going out with friends, movies etc... then once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him. He has a very bad temper but blames it on her because she gives him troubles about girls. (is this just an excuse?)
Now they sit in his apartment and fight all the time. He broke her windsheld last week... she made him leave class early because they had to be in a group with girls and she started to flipout. How did she know? He keeps her on the phone in his pocket!
Is there anyway to save their relationship with how they are? It's like they hate eachother but can't live without oneanother.
Any advice for her? Any advice about him?SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. PLEASE HELP?
He needs to find a hobby that he can take his aggression out, like boxing or martial arts of some sort, gets him a break from her and he needs time to himself, due to her jelousy and constantly smothering him he cannot just have time to breathe/think.. therefore he bottles up and rage is what comes out when the cap is popped.. worst he did was lie about smoking, which was probably due to her badgering him.. and he probably would invite her places if she would leave him alone about other girls.
this relationship is in her hands, she is causing it to fall apart.. here is why... she needs to realize HE picked HER, not any other girl, she is extremely jealous and no man needs her or her mind games and jelousy, he cannot do anything where there is a chance a female may be.. even with a tv screen between him and her.. she needs to realize unless she keeps him indoors with the shades drawn he will interact with women. she doesn't trust him and she needs too, trust is what makes relationships work.. she is around men all day I bet, and I bet she thinks that is okay.. so why can't he do anything? she needs to realize not every woman is attractive to every man, and he chose to live with her.. and that almost anywhere he goes nowadays there will be women present, that is society.. she needs to get over herself and let the jealousy go, she will be less tense/jealous and the freedom to have fun and not worry will return to their relationship..and she would be invited out more with him if she isn't a buzzkill...
he also should leave her.. but i know they want it to work.. so that is not an option... i would leave though, quickly..SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. PLEASE HELP?
It is misleading. Please ask your friend to post this question with first hand information. It looks there is some communication gap.
They need to take a break for a month. They're on a downhill slope with no respect for each other right now.
Trust is part of love.
If they're both so insecure then why continue a very unstable relationship, they don't love each other enough to allow for some breathing room.
This way it's not meant to last or it will end with some bad result. They need to take a break from each other and figure out their individuality.
For the information of them both: not everybody is after them to have sex or start a relationship. They'll find out they're not the center of the universe, since other men and women have other interests, both in partners, things or activities.
What's going on is about power and control and they're two very childish persons.
Don't get dragged by the two into their quarrels.
Same advise for both:
Get real; get away from each other before there is a baby to suffer the consequenses of them both being very selfish.
Both are too jealous, immature, and distrustful of each other, period.
No one owns another person! Relationships are to help, nurture and trust each other; neither of them are doing this. Theirs is a very bad relationship: neither are ';living'; as you call it.
She is 21 and her boyfriend is 24. They have been together for 4 years but have problems everyday. Her and her boyfriend do EVERYTHING. Meaning: Live together, On the phone 24/7, They took friends out of their lives too, etc. They fight everyday. They are both very jealous people.
Her faults: She doesnt want him to look at any female around her. She finds it disrespectful. If she catches him doing it then she will do something to make him unhappy like not smoke a cig with him. She now smokes two a day with him since she caught him smoking. She gives him trouble about going on the internet or turning the tv on because of females being on so they only watch tv when they eat dinner or go on the internet together. Meaning, they never watch any shows with attractive males or females...
His faults: He lied to her about smoking cigs and chewing until she caught him 2 years into the relationship when they moved in together. He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship: Bars, Going out with friends, movies etc... then once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him. He has a very bad temper but blames it on her because she gives him troubles about girls. (is this just an excuse?)
Now they sit in his apartment and fight all the time. He broke her windsheld last week... she made him leave class early because they had to be in a group with girls and she started to flipout. How did she know? He keeps her on the phone in his pocket!
Is there anyway to save their relationship with how they are? It's like they hate eachother but can't live without oneanother.
Any advice for her? Any advice about him?SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. PLEASE HELP?
He needs to find a hobby that he can take his aggression out, like boxing or martial arts of some sort, gets him a break from her and he needs time to himself, due to her jelousy and constantly smothering him he cannot just have time to breathe/think.. therefore he bottles up and rage is what comes out when the cap is popped.. worst he did was lie about smoking, which was probably due to her badgering him.. and he probably would invite her places if she would leave him alone about other girls.
this relationship is in her hands, she is causing it to fall apart.. here is why... she needs to realize HE picked HER, not any other girl, she is extremely jealous and no man needs her or her mind games and jelousy, he cannot do anything where there is a chance a female may be.. even with a tv screen between him and her.. she needs to realize unless she keeps him indoors with the shades drawn he will interact with women. she doesn't trust him and she needs too, trust is what makes relationships work.. she is around men all day I bet, and I bet she thinks that is okay.. so why can't he do anything? she needs to realize not every woman is attractive to every man, and he chose to live with her.. and that almost anywhere he goes nowadays there will be women present, that is society.. she needs to get over herself and let the jealousy go, she will be less tense/jealous and the freedom to have fun and not worry will return to their relationship..and she would be invited out more with him if she isn't a buzzkill...
he also should leave her.. but i know they want it to work.. so that is not an option... i would leave though, quickly..SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. PLEASE HELP?
It is misleading. Please ask your friend to post this question with first hand information. It looks there is some communication gap.
They need to take a break for a month. They're on a downhill slope with no respect for each other right now.
Trust is part of love.
If they're both so insecure then why continue a very unstable relationship, they don't love each other enough to allow for some breathing room.
This way it's not meant to last or it will end with some bad result. They need to take a break from each other and figure out their individuality.
For the information of them both: not everybody is after them to have sex or start a relationship. They'll find out they're not the center of the universe, since other men and women have other interests, both in partners, things or activities.
What's going on is about power and control and they're two very childish persons.
Don't get dragged by the two into their quarrels.
Same advise for both:
Get real; get away from each other before there is a baby to suffer the consequenses of them both being very selfish.
Both are too jealous, immature, and distrustful of each other, period.
No one owns another person! Relationships are to help, nurture and trust each other; neither of them are doing this. Theirs is a very bad relationship: neither are ';living'; as you call it.
Relationship Advice Please?
Hi all,
So my boyfriend and I just got back together after being broken up for almost a year (we have been together almost 5 years now). We have agreed that the past is the past - that is, whatever happened during the time we broke up should be forgotten about.
However, he is still ';good friends'; with one of the girls he slept with. I told him how uncomfortable it made me and even though he was not happy with it, he said he would stop contacting/hanging out with her. However, he is not telling her point blank to stop contacting him, so she will sometimes still text him - and he'll respond - to be nice I guess.
Should I worry about this or just let him handle this his own way (phasing her out)?
So my boyfriend and I just got back together after being broken up for almost a year (we have been together almost 5 years now). We have agreed that the past is the past - that is, whatever happened during the time we broke up should be forgotten about.
However, he is still ';good friends'; with one of the girls he slept with. I told him how uncomfortable it made me and even though he was not happy with it, he said he would stop contacting/hanging out with her. However, he is not telling her point blank to stop contacting him, so she will sometimes still text him - and he'll respond - to be nice I guess.
Should I worry about this or just let him handle this his own way (phasing her out)?
I need relationship advice?
me and my girlfriend have been doing stuff for 3 months now (up to 3rd base) and till now she says shes not ready for anything, not even stuff prior to 3rd... what should i do?I need relationship advice?
You should do nothing. If you value the relationship you will respect her wishes.I need relationship advice?
Just go with the flow.
Maybe she is not that into you, or has found someone else? The only way to find out what is going on is if you talk.... with your clothes on, and in a friendly manner so as not to make her go on the defense.help blackheads
You should do nothing. If you value the relationship you will respect her wishes.I need relationship advice?
Just go with the flow.
Maybe she is not that into you, or has found someone else? The only way to find out what is going on is if you talk.... with your clothes on, and in a friendly manner so as not to make her go on the defense.
Relationship advice???
Okay, in high school I knew this girl and we grew to be pretty close. I must say that I never tried to push anything (sex) on her. She just always seemed like a different type of love to me for some odd reason. Well, we both were sort of wild in high school as you might imagine. Anyways, we talked to each other on the phone every night before bed for like 2 to 3 hours for like 4 years. We would call each other ';baby'; and ';sweetie'; and things like that. Also, she would always tell me she loved me on the phone and in public. Well, things got crazy and I went in the military for 4 years and came back home and now I'm studying to be a dentist and she started calling again. She acts like she wants a relationship at times and then she acts as if she doesn't sometimes. She had a little precious boy about 3 years ago and I love him dearly (not by me). I just do not understand, I mean we were always like best friends and nothing more. What does she want from me?Friends?More? Thanks!!Relationship advice???
It sounds like she does not know what she wants. There are times when she knows she love you and times when she doesnt know. She plays hard to get cuz she wants to be attached. She needs attention.Relationship advice???
The only thing that you can do is ask. This sounds extremely confusing and the only thing that you can do is talk bout it. You have said that you have talked all night long before so why should this be any different. Just bring it up as casual convorsation. Hey what do you think would happen if we started dating? Feel for her response if its kinda awkward and it seems shes not interested then just rebound and just be like.. yea i would probably kill you all the time becuase you do this n thhat and turn it into a joke thing so things dont become awkward. If she sounds interested in it then continue and ask how things would work and if she would like to somehow start something. Communication is key... Goodluck!!!!!
1- Don't EVER date single mothers.
2- She is clearly interested in something more, but maybe isn't willing to risk your friendship. Who knows, we don't know the girl ourselves.
3- Depending on what ';you'; want, you may want to probe into the affair further. Keeping in mind that if you two somehow pursue a relationship, your friendship will forever be ruined.
That's pretty much it.
You're supposed to be the guy. You do the calling.
Find a good girl who is unattached.
She wants to be married to a doctor, and you're her only chance.
It sounds like she does not know what she wants. There are times when she knows she love you and times when she doesnt know. She plays hard to get cuz she wants to be attached. She needs attention.Relationship advice???
The only thing that you can do is ask. This sounds extremely confusing and the only thing that you can do is talk bout it. You have said that you have talked all night long before so why should this be any different. Just bring it up as casual convorsation. Hey what do you think would happen if we started dating? Feel for her response if its kinda awkward and it seems shes not interested then just rebound and just be like.. yea i would probably kill you all the time becuase you do this n thhat and turn it into a joke thing so things dont become awkward. If she sounds interested in it then continue and ask how things would work and if she would like to somehow start something. Communication is key... Goodluck!!!!!
1- Don't EVER date single mothers.
2- She is clearly interested in something more, but maybe isn't willing to risk your friendship. Who knows, we don't know the girl ourselves.
3- Depending on what ';you'; want, you may want to probe into the affair further. Keeping in mind that if you two somehow pursue a relationship, your friendship will forever be ruined.
That's pretty much it.
You're supposed to be the guy. You do the calling.
Find a good girl who is unattached.
She wants to be married to a doctor, and you're her only chance.
Girls advice? Might be getting into a long distance relationship?
So there's this girl I like. Atm I can only see her once a month, but we've been friends for like 2 years before we even started hanging out. And just recently I've realized I've been thinking about her a lot more since the last time we've hung out... and not just as a friend.
Well recently, her facebook status was (fake name)';Alexa is singing ';Santa honey wont you bring my honey back to me! Cause I miss him... yes I miss him oh so dearly...';, but when I told her I hope she sees him again soon (misreading it for her missing someone) she said it's just a song lyric. When I asked her if she was still interested in hanging out over winter break her response was 'DUH! Why do you even have to ask?! Silly boy...' and that status changed to 'Alexa is grrr feelings that make me both happy and stressed!'
Is it too much to hope for that she might be interested in me? I can't really speak to her beyond facebook atm, her phone is currently destroyed and I don't want to send her an email or something like that asking...Girls advice? Might be getting into a long distance relationship?
the facebook just burns my brains to bring out ';judging a book by its cover';
talk to her, get to know her, meet her more often.Girls advice? Might be getting into a long distance relationship?
Bro, you don't want a girls advice. Women are to freakin complicated. They will just leave you with more questions.. Trust.. The day you meet a none complex girl that has all the answer, then let me know, lol. The only advice I can give you is to continue to be your-self but show a little more interest. At the same time, you don't want to crowed her cause that will push her away. She sounds like a girl who doesn't know what she wants (like so many). So be your self and confident, this way you will see if you are what she is looking for. Or, if you guys have a strong friendship, then just talk to her about your feelings. Although, if you don't think she would be down, then don't do that. That can sometimes make a good friendship acward. Well, I hope that I was of some help bro. Good luck bro-ham!
your misjudging her based on facebook. Just ask her how she feels
i think you should try to connect to her on different levels. be cuter and nicer ( u seem like u are already :) ) then move in. dont rush things though, she could just like u as a friend
good good lucky!! and hope everything work out for the best
It sounds like she does want to hang out with you and it sounds like she may have feelings for you!
I am currently in a long distance relationship and I have never been happier. We are both 17 and see each other about once every three weeks or so. ITs not much, but its something, and we have feelings for each other.
Well recently, her facebook status was (fake name)';Alexa is singing ';Santa honey wont you bring my honey back to me! Cause I miss him... yes I miss him oh so dearly...';, but when I told her I hope she sees him again soon (misreading it for her missing someone) she said it's just a song lyric. When I asked her if she was still interested in hanging out over winter break her response was 'DUH! Why do you even have to ask?! Silly boy...' and that status changed to 'Alexa is grrr feelings that make me both happy and stressed!'
Is it too much to hope for that she might be interested in me? I can't really speak to her beyond facebook atm, her phone is currently destroyed and I don't want to send her an email or something like that asking...Girls advice? Might be getting into a long distance relationship?
the facebook just burns my brains to bring out ';judging a book by its cover';
talk to her, get to know her, meet her more often.Girls advice? Might be getting into a long distance relationship?
Bro, you don't want a girls advice. Women are to freakin complicated. They will just leave you with more questions.. Trust.. The day you meet a none complex girl that has all the answer, then let me know, lol. The only advice I can give you is to continue to be your-self but show a little more interest. At the same time, you don't want to crowed her cause that will push her away. She sounds like a girl who doesn't know what she wants (like so many). So be your self and confident, this way you will see if you are what she is looking for. Or, if you guys have a strong friendship, then just talk to her about your feelings. Although, if you don't think she would be down, then don't do that. That can sometimes make a good friendship acward. Well, I hope that I was of some help bro. Good luck bro-ham!
your misjudging her based on facebook. Just ask her how she feels
i think you should try to connect to her on different levels. be cuter and nicer ( u seem like u are already :) ) then move in. dont rush things though, she could just like u as a friend
good good lucky!! and hope everything work out for the best
It sounds like she does want to hang out with you and it sounds like she may have feelings for you!
I am currently in a long distance relationship and I have never been happier. We are both 17 and see each other about once every three weeks or so. ITs not much, but its something, and we have feelings for each other.
Need advice...What would you think of this weird relationship?
Ex and I had been seeing each other again. We broke up over something silly that has since been resolved. We discussed dating again, and have been spending every day the last few months together, spending the night, talking a few times a day, etc (no sex) but recently he said he just wants to be friends now because I broke his heart.
Yesterday he asked me to lunch, I couldn't go. Then he asked me to come to his house and hang out, I couldn't because I had to finish a freelance job. Now he is upset and says I am avoiding him. WTF? If he just wants to be ';friends'; why would he get his feelings hurt when I had plans one night? Because I am no longer dropping everything for him? I don't even know what to do... he's used to me treating him like a bf, but now that I'm not he thinks I'm making things weird and avoiding him. He still calls me several times a day to chat, wants to hang out everyday, etc. but as friends? Is this how a guy who wants to be friends acts?Need advice...What would you think of this weird relationship?
This guy... obviously likes you quite a bit. Way more than friends. But if a dog bites you, hes probably going to bite you again. He's got his heart broke once, doesn't want to risk it happening again. I don't think he wants to be ';just friends'; but I think he wants something more than friends too. More like.... friends with benefits. Ya'll need to sit down have a nice talk. see what ya'll both want from this relationship. Get some things out that should be talked about.....
Good luck :)Need advice...What would you think of this weird relationship?
He still likes you and wants to be your bf, He is used to it and wants that to be the way it is. You have to explain this to him that if all he wants is to be friends than that is how he will be treated.
tell him that you can't commit to him unless you have assurance that your exclusive. say you don't want to end up getting hurt either and that you want to take it slow.
Every day? no... I don't have any friends that require daily contact.
hi there, its hard to change your feelings in a heart beat. the fact that he still wants to be friends and calls you loads and wants to hang out, tells me he still has feelings for you. he is just scared that you will hurt him again. and i dont suppose he can deal with that.
you need to explain to him, that you cant carry on has you were and be just friends, tell him thats not how it works. if you want to get back with him...you need to reasure him, that you will never hurt him...coz sounds like thats why he finished you...
well good luck chick
lee
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Yesterday he asked me to lunch, I couldn't go. Then he asked me to come to his house and hang out, I couldn't because I had to finish a freelance job. Now he is upset and says I am avoiding him. WTF? If he just wants to be ';friends'; why would he get his feelings hurt when I had plans one night? Because I am no longer dropping everything for him? I don't even know what to do... he's used to me treating him like a bf, but now that I'm not he thinks I'm making things weird and avoiding him. He still calls me several times a day to chat, wants to hang out everyday, etc. but as friends? Is this how a guy who wants to be friends acts?Need advice...What would you think of this weird relationship?
This guy... obviously likes you quite a bit. Way more than friends. But if a dog bites you, hes probably going to bite you again. He's got his heart broke once, doesn't want to risk it happening again. I don't think he wants to be ';just friends'; but I think he wants something more than friends too. More like.... friends with benefits. Ya'll need to sit down have a nice talk. see what ya'll both want from this relationship. Get some things out that should be talked about.....
Good luck :)Need advice...What would you think of this weird relationship?
He still likes you and wants to be your bf, He is used to it and wants that to be the way it is. You have to explain this to him that if all he wants is to be friends than that is how he will be treated.
tell him that you can't commit to him unless you have assurance that your exclusive. say you don't want to end up getting hurt either and that you want to take it slow.
Every day? no... I don't have any friends that require daily contact.
hi there, its hard to change your feelings in a heart beat. the fact that he still wants to be friends and calls you loads and wants to hang out, tells me he still has feelings for you. he is just scared that you will hurt him again. and i dont suppose he can deal with that.
you need to explain to him, that you cant carry on has you were and be just friends, tell him thats not how it works. if you want to get back with him...you need to reasure him, that you will never hurt him...coz sounds like thats why he finished you...
well good luck chick
lee
x
Need advice on how to deal with an interracial relationship.?
I am in an interracial relationship right now. He is hispanic and I am white. I have had so many people give me so many rude comments about whether or not he is legal. Anyways, I am having the hardest time in the relationship. I love him with all my heart, but it seems like even my closet friends make rude comments to me. It is like everyone disapproves of us dating. My own parents even say little comments to me, that they know will upset me. I find myself sometimes afraid of what people will think when they see us together. Like if a friend wants to meet my boyfriend;I get nervous about how they will react. I love him, but it hurts when people looks at us with shock. I don't know if can spend the rest of my life getting upset about this kind of stuff. It seems like everyone is saying crap to me about it, but no one has EVER said ANYTHING to him about it. I feel bad telling him how I feel. I have told him everything, and I feel bad because I don't want to hurt him, but I don't have anyone else to talk to about it. It seems like everyone else is jusr dying to put us down. I have heard people say, that if you really love him it wouldn't bother you, but it does and I really love him. I hate the fact that society thinks less of us because we are dating each other, I hate it. I thought after 2 years I would adjust to it, but it hasn't gotten any better. Does anyone have any advice for me? Pleae no rude comments I have cried many times about this subject, and I need help with what to do. Thanks!Need advice on how to deal with an interracial relationship.?
Well,
PARENTS - lot's of older folks have racial issues (and I suppose many young ones too). I'm not shocked that white parents wouldn't want their daughter to be with a nice, white American guy. Although I'm not sure why they would want to upset you. Sometimes parents talk amongst themselves behind the scenes about that type of disapproval.
FRIENDS - don't speak negatively about their friends' boyfriends/girlfriends. NOT if they're true friends.
I don't agree that if you really love him, it wouldn't bother you. It bothers you because these are people that you love and that are important to you but they are not willing to respect you and your decision and your intelligence to choose who you like or love for yourself, nor do they respect your boyfriend.
If he doesn't have his life together or if he is negative or trouble for you, that'd be one thing, but if he's not, and if he treats you well and makes you happy, then you need to tolerate your parents' disapproval, I suppose, but you also need to rethink your choice of racist, meddling, disrespectful friends.
Unfortunately, you may need to tell your ';friends'; to mind their business and step off.
Are there any young folks in your town who know how to respect other people?Need advice on how to deal with an interracial relationship.?
Look, forget what ';society'; thinks. If you love this man, you have to make a conscientious decision that it's going to be you and him against the world.
Don't let natural ';haters'; determine your happiness. If you love that man, then be with him; and anyone who don't like it, tell them to back off!
Try being a Black woman dating a white man. Everyone wants to see it fail. Some relatives invoked images of White slave masters raping Black women. That he was european helped a bit, but then in our age of terrorism it made some others a little suspicious of that. Afterall, why would he leave europe and come here to end up with me, a Black woman with a heritage steeped in discrimination? He's just curious was a declaration by others.
Our cultural differences were overcome by resorting to our mutual love of the arts initially. We read together, visited museums, found out we both loved Handel's messiah and attended that together. We had to focus on what we had in common because there was also a bit of a language barrier sometimes. Finally, I had a man who first appeal to my mind! I could be myself. There was baggage we both had that didn't apply to our relationship because of our cultural differences. It wasn't relevant to our understanding. We fell in love.
He knew little about Americans in general and nothing about Black Americans, except what his countrymen who arrived from Serbia before him said. I'll let you take one guess about what they had to say. They were friendly to my face, but behind my back total xenophobes. We didn't visit the old Serbian women friends of his mother for fear they'd have heart attacks. So there was pressure on both sides.
America is a racist place. I don't have much hope that it will ever be different. We can't breed our way out of it, or even legislate our way out of it. The former often leads to tortured children torn between loyalities to their heritage and feeling they must choose. Look at how people ridiculed Tiger Woods and Hallie Berry for embracing all of their ethnicity and not just the Black blood. Look at the people dooming the president-elect (especially on Y/A! - a little microcosim of society) just because he has an African American heritage too. Look at affirmative action issues. You won't ever escape this pressure. Not here in America.
What to do? Can you be oblivious to the world around you? That's your only chance. You can stay with him and dodge the slings and arrows for a lifetime. You can also move to communities that don't make such a big deal of it. You can be happy if you don't let the race issues which are never going to go away break you apart.
I'm left to wonder if it was that or some of the ugly things people wanting to break us apart said, especially the curiosity part, and that is something you are already risking too if it doesn't last. My bf went back to Serbia to attend his mother's death bed. I heard he made his way back one month after I relocated to another state. That was 10 months after he left. I've since relocated again.
I may never see him again and I'll always have questions. I loved him. I hope he loved me. All relationships are hard. You can see the race question as another obstacle or let it destroy what you have.
In Australia it is very common for a interracial relationship's between white Australian men and Chinese woman.
There are also a lot of relationships between Lebanese men, and Australian woman.
If you are finding that people are being racist to your relationship, you may wont to consider moving to an area where the Hispanic tend to migrate in your city - this is what we have done, and we find that our relationship is much better for it.
I'm white and my bf of 3 years is mexican and I can't say that I have ever had that problem. I live in AZ though so it is pretty common. Maybe you guys should relocate to a more accepting city. I did date a black guy for a few moths when I was younger and I had to deal with whites being mad at me and blacks being disgusted with him. I just blew it off because to me love is not any color and it's not my fault if white guys are not attractive to me. . .
Well,
PARENTS - lot's of older folks have racial issues (and I suppose many young ones too). I'm not shocked that white parents wouldn't want their daughter to be with a nice, white American guy. Although I'm not sure why they would want to upset you. Sometimes parents talk amongst themselves behind the scenes about that type of disapproval.
FRIENDS - don't speak negatively about their friends' boyfriends/girlfriends. NOT if they're true friends.
I don't agree that if you really love him, it wouldn't bother you. It bothers you because these are people that you love and that are important to you but they are not willing to respect you and your decision and your intelligence to choose who you like or love for yourself, nor do they respect your boyfriend.
If he doesn't have his life together or if he is negative or trouble for you, that'd be one thing, but if he's not, and if he treats you well and makes you happy, then you need to tolerate your parents' disapproval, I suppose, but you also need to rethink your choice of racist, meddling, disrespectful friends.
Unfortunately, you may need to tell your ';friends'; to mind their business and step off.
Are there any young folks in your town who know how to respect other people?Need advice on how to deal with an interracial relationship.?
Look, forget what ';society'; thinks. If you love this man, you have to make a conscientious decision that it's going to be you and him against the world.
Don't let natural ';haters'; determine your happiness. If you love that man, then be with him; and anyone who don't like it, tell them to back off!
Try being a Black woman dating a white man. Everyone wants to see it fail. Some relatives invoked images of White slave masters raping Black women. That he was european helped a bit, but then in our age of terrorism it made some others a little suspicious of that. Afterall, why would he leave europe and come here to end up with me, a Black woman with a heritage steeped in discrimination? He's just curious was a declaration by others.
Our cultural differences were overcome by resorting to our mutual love of the arts initially. We read together, visited museums, found out we both loved Handel's messiah and attended that together. We had to focus on what we had in common because there was also a bit of a language barrier sometimes. Finally, I had a man who first appeal to my mind! I could be myself. There was baggage we both had that didn't apply to our relationship because of our cultural differences. It wasn't relevant to our understanding. We fell in love.
He knew little about Americans in general and nothing about Black Americans, except what his countrymen who arrived from Serbia before him said. I'll let you take one guess about what they had to say. They were friendly to my face, but behind my back total xenophobes. We didn't visit the old Serbian women friends of his mother for fear they'd have heart attacks. So there was pressure on both sides.
America is a racist place. I don't have much hope that it will ever be different. We can't breed our way out of it, or even legislate our way out of it. The former often leads to tortured children torn between loyalities to their heritage and feeling they must choose. Look at how people ridiculed Tiger Woods and Hallie Berry for embracing all of their ethnicity and not just the Black blood. Look at the people dooming the president-elect (especially on Y/A! - a little microcosim of society) just because he has an African American heritage too. Look at affirmative action issues. You won't ever escape this pressure. Not here in America.
What to do? Can you be oblivious to the world around you? That's your only chance. You can stay with him and dodge the slings and arrows for a lifetime. You can also move to communities that don't make such a big deal of it. You can be happy if you don't let the race issues which are never going to go away break you apart.
I'm left to wonder if it was that or some of the ugly things people wanting to break us apart said, especially the curiosity part, and that is something you are already risking too if it doesn't last. My bf went back to Serbia to attend his mother's death bed. I heard he made his way back one month after I relocated to another state. That was 10 months after he left. I've since relocated again.
I may never see him again and I'll always have questions. I loved him. I hope he loved me. All relationships are hard. You can see the race question as another obstacle or let it destroy what you have.
In Australia it is very common for a interracial relationship's between white Australian men and Chinese woman.
There are also a lot of relationships between Lebanese men, and Australian woman.
If you are finding that people are being racist to your relationship, you may wont to consider moving to an area where the Hispanic tend to migrate in your city - this is what we have done, and we find that our relationship is much better for it.
I'm white and my bf of 3 years is mexican and I can't say that I have ever had that problem. I live in AZ though so it is pretty common. Maybe you guys should relocate to a more accepting city. I did date a black guy for a few moths when I was younger and I had to deal with whites being mad at me and blacks being disgusted with him. I just blew it off because to me love is not any color and it's not my fault if white guys are not attractive to me. . .
What advice can you give for a long distace relationship?
I'm not having issues...i just wonder how it's done...i love him, and i trust him completely, as does him for me, it's odd though, he's a romantic, and cares so much about me, and would do anything for me...yet i think that the only reason i ';love'; him is the fact that he is actually the first guy to respect me and love me for who i am. And i do care about him, i just wonder sometimes if it is a wise idea to continue with a relationship that is long distance. due to unforseen happenings, i had to leave my college, and home, for my own saftey. he helped me get where i am now, about 400 miles from home with people i don't really know, and a completely new environment, it's like someone threw me in the water with nothing and said i hope you can swim...bye! the last thing i want to do is hurt him. is it best to tell him this, that i don't want a relationship, or continue with the way i am going, and hope it works out? i could really use some help. thanks to any responders.What advice can you give for a long distace relationship?
Long distance relationships are a test of time. lf you're the loyal type, that is good. The question is, is he?
Open all means of communication and be honest.
Hope yours work out fine.What advice can you give for a long distace relationship?
It can work, if you want it to.
But, my advice to you, is to bridge this relationship as soon as possible ... Because some day this ';bridge'; will crumble and then this relationship will slowly die out ...
Since, you say, you ';love him'; ... then this task will be very easy for you - become bold and confess your love for him! You see, love wins over everybody, every situation, every one!
As I often say in these messages remember hes a very good friend or buddy you are both free to fly not joined at the hip ,even if you start dating you are not committed that comes with the Engagement ring,there should be two /three years between dating to engagement and no sex ..
Why in the hell are you all so eager to put labels on folk instead of enjoying yourselves and learn about life and you then wonder why folk dont respect you.
I feel your education colleges let you down in not teaching you to have self respect
Yes they can work! Here a few articles that offer tips on how to make the best of them:
Keep Romance Alive in Long Distance Relationship
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
End the Fighting in Your Long Distance Relationship!
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Make the Most Out of Your Weekend Visits
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Know If You're Ready to Move in Together
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Hope they help! Good Luck!
Long distance relationships are a test of time. lf you're the loyal type, that is good. The question is, is he?
Open all means of communication and be honest.
Hope yours work out fine.What advice can you give for a long distace relationship?
It can work, if you want it to.
But, my advice to you, is to bridge this relationship as soon as possible ... Because some day this ';bridge'; will crumble and then this relationship will slowly die out ...
Since, you say, you ';love him'; ... then this task will be very easy for you - become bold and confess your love for him! You see, love wins over everybody, every situation, every one!
As I often say in these messages remember hes a very good friend or buddy you are both free to fly not joined at the hip ,even if you start dating you are not committed that comes with the Engagement ring,there should be two /three years between dating to engagement and no sex ..
Why in the hell are you all so eager to put labels on folk instead of enjoying yourselves and learn about life and you then wonder why folk dont respect you.
I feel your education colleges let you down in not teaching you to have self respect
Yes they can work! Here a few articles that offer tips on how to make the best of them:
Keep Romance Alive in Long Distance Relationship
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
End the Fighting in Your Long Distance Relationship!
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Make the Most Out of Your Weekend Visits
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Know If You're Ready to Move in Together
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Hope they help! Good Luck!
Dating advice-not sure where to go with potential relationship?
I met a guy online and we text-ed daily for a week and a half. We then met in person and talked for two hours. He gave me two hugs and told me about his long time on again/off again relationship that is finally over. He then told me that he was very direct and has no problem saying what he feels. We met again two days later and hung out. He told me that he liked me and was interested. We had a blast and got a little intimate. He text me the next day and asked me to come over. I said no, but I went over the following day. It was horrible due to a medical condition I have. I left and we text that night and the next day. The day after that I went to his house and told him that the issue had never happened before. he said it was weird and he hadn't really had time to think about it. He did tell me he was still interested. I told him that I wasn't looking to get married anytime soon, I was looking for friends and to have a good time. I told him that the first time we played around was awesome. What does he mean by interested? Are we to be friends only? What should I do? can one bad attempt at sex end interest permanently?Dating advice-not sure where to go with potential relationship?
Sounds like he might be in it for the sex =DDating advice-not sure where to go with potential relationship?
you're his booty call.
communication is keyhelp blackheads
Sounds like he might be in it for the sex =DDating advice-not sure where to go with potential relationship?
you're his booty call.
communication is key
Seeking advice on a tough situation involving an office relationship and promotion?
So I've been interning at my work place for about a year now, and have been hoping to transition into a permanent job. The thing is the person who will be responsible for putting the paperwork through and convince corprate to hire me, has been making advances towards me. Despite not being attracted to this person, I ended up caving in and going out with her, becuase based my experience working with her rejection will mean that the job wont happen. At the moment we are at the getting ready to have sex phase of this relationship and it is becoming imposibly hard to continue faking this whole thing. Should I A: Just be strait up with her and look for a new job. or B- Suck it up and hang in there till I land the job then break it off?Seeking advice on a tough situation involving an office relationship and promotion?
C-Never have started this ';relationship'; in the first place.
If you can't get a job off your own merits, never sell your body like you are a prostitute. I don't care if it is a man or woman, attractive or not, in the position of hiring you for a job at a company. You should never stoop so low as to do such things as this. I say once the internship is over, go to her office and tell her no matter how much you wanted the job, you can't put up with such a detestable act as being her boy toy anymore. I would also, write a letter to ';her'; boss and let them know that, in case any good male employees that might have been hired through her, may have been sexually harassed before hand. And then you just describe and tell of the things she was trying to get you to do. It may make you sound like a snitch but I do believe the company as a right to know what type of woman she is.Seeking advice on a tough situation involving an office relationship and promotion?
Women do not make advances unless they were lead on.
You lead her on which is why you guys are at this situation.
Anyway, depending on how deep you have made your emotional connections and no sex has happened yet, anytime is always a good time to climb yourself out of it.
You have sex with her, it could get uncomfortable at some point in the future.
Before deciding on having sex in the workplace, make sure that they are worth losing your job over.
C-Never have started this ';relationship'; in the first place.
If you can't get a job off your own merits, never sell your body like you are a prostitute. I don't care if it is a man or woman, attractive or not, in the position of hiring you for a job at a company. You should never stoop so low as to do such things as this. I say once the internship is over, go to her office and tell her no matter how much you wanted the job, you can't put up with such a detestable act as being her boy toy anymore. I would also, write a letter to ';her'; boss and let them know that, in case any good male employees that might have been hired through her, may have been sexually harassed before hand. And then you just describe and tell of the things she was trying to get you to do. It may make you sound like a snitch but I do believe the company as a right to know what type of woman she is.Seeking advice on a tough situation involving an office relationship and promotion?
Women do not make advances unless they were lead on.
You lead her on which is why you guys are at this situation.
Anyway, depending on how deep you have made your emotional connections and no sex has happened yet, anytime is always a good time to climb yourself out of it.
You have sex with her, it could get uncomfortable at some point in the future.
Before deciding on having sex in the workplace, make sure that they are worth losing your job over.
Working to mend a relationship after difficult times-long/complicated story to explain, mature advice please.?
Please be considerate in your answer, thanks. I'm 25, my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years is 26, and it's been mostly wonderful, but very hard lately. Most problems in our relationship stem from things in my life, which has been messy and ugly for the majority. I've battled depression, alcohol/drugs, family problems, etc. I went from being an independent and successful woman to depressed and broke about 6 months into our relationship. My job of 7 years had gone bad, and he helped me financially and was a great support. A few months ago in a drunken night his friend and I kissed, (that's all) never happened before (or will again), has was devastated and I felt terrible. A month later we found out I was 15 weeks pregnant, though on birth control. I had an abortion for health reasons of the fetus. He gave little emotional support, and I'm so hurt I don't know how to forgive him. We need more than counseling to get back our relationship, but I don't know where to start. My heart hurts.Working to mend a relationship after difficult times-long/complicated story to explain, mature advice please.?
Counseling is a start.........I am not sure if you are going now or not but it does help. It allows everyone to voice their feelings in an organized manner. Abortion is a difficult situation for both parties. Alot of couples do not make it through that ...............not to say that you will not, but professional help is the way to go here. Kissing his friend also adds damage (was it before or after the abortion?). Sometimes relationships are not meant to be..........it doesn't take any of the hurt or pain away though. First the two of you need to sit down and have a serious talk, figure out if there is anything left to salvage, and go from there. He may not want to work it out, but doesn't know how to say it, and if that is the case you are putting yourself through alot of pain and heartache when you could be working on yourself and moving on. Working on yourself isn't a bad idea, anyway. You have had a lot going on lately. Maybe counseling for yourself would help too. A relationship cannot be just one party giving and he has given alot it sounds like. Maybe it is your turn to do the giving and fix things. He maybe tired of the stress from the relationship. I hope things work out either way for you.Working to mend a relationship after difficult times-long/complicated story to explain, mature advice please.?
please dont think im being mean or anything, but you did hurt him a hell of a lot by kissing his friend.. it doesnt matter if its a kiss or more, its still cheating. He might not be helping you through your bad patch because he feels, you dont feel that bad for what you did with his best friend. you have broken his trust.But with help, you can change that!if he is willing to work on the relationship,then he obviously still loves you and wants it to work.The therapy is a really good start.You need to be open with him, and tell him everything you just told us.
you should talk to your local priest or to a counselor . It.s a lot of things to go through but it seems the latter one was juust to much for you r bf
May be he wasn't convinced inside that the baby you were carrying was his? Perhaps being a male he just didn't know what to do. Women grieve differently than men. And perhaps he just didn't know what you need. I am sure in his defense that he is also upset that things are not looking good for the both of you. I suggest you sit down together and decide if you both want to remain together. If you are both willing then you can start talking about what has happened recently to cause you both such sorrow. If he turns around and says that he just doesn't want to be together any longer then you need to sort out how to go separate ways. There is always a light at the end of a dark tunnel so dont give up looking for it.
im 26 with similar experiences
what i did was went back to when we first met and reminded him of all the fun and memorable times that we have shared
this made us feel stupid for fighting over something so silly
what you need to do is ask him if he still loves you
and tell him just what he means to you
maybe he didn't want you to have the abortion and his hurting
maybe you both need to forgive each other
Ask your Dr. to refer you to a professional. With all of your previous problems, the abortion and your relationship with him doesn't help. Get help and help yourself. Best wishes!
That was melancholic story indeed,but you should take in to account that every one of us ,by hook or crook are forced to be imerced in to relatively hard or whatever kinds of problems. I don't mean that your problem is easy,but you shuld take it easy.
Well considering you're a mess and he's supported you this long he's probably getting tired of putting up with it. If he was asking for advice I'd tell him to just move on and find someone who has much more respect for themselves and those around them, and is thusly more stable. Anyone who gets drunk and makes out with random people ain't worth it in my book.
But if this saint of a man is willing to try and save your relationship then definitely seek professional counseling. God bless him if he stays with you.
Counseling is a start.........I am not sure if you are going now or not but it does help. It allows everyone to voice their feelings in an organized manner. Abortion is a difficult situation for both parties. Alot of couples do not make it through that ...............not to say that you will not, but professional help is the way to go here. Kissing his friend also adds damage (was it before or after the abortion?). Sometimes relationships are not meant to be..........it doesn't take any of the hurt or pain away though. First the two of you need to sit down and have a serious talk, figure out if there is anything left to salvage, and go from there. He may not want to work it out, but doesn't know how to say it, and if that is the case you are putting yourself through alot of pain and heartache when you could be working on yourself and moving on. Working on yourself isn't a bad idea, anyway. You have had a lot going on lately. Maybe counseling for yourself would help too. A relationship cannot be just one party giving and he has given alot it sounds like. Maybe it is your turn to do the giving and fix things. He maybe tired of the stress from the relationship. I hope things work out either way for you.Working to mend a relationship after difficult times-long/complicated story to explain, mature advice please.?
please dont think im being mean or anything, but you did hurt him a hell of a lot by kissing his friend.. it doesnt matter if its a kiss or more, its still cheating. He might not be helping you through your bad patch because he feels, you dont feel that bad for what you did with his best friend. you have broken his trust.But with help, you can change that!if he is willing to work on the relationship,then he obviously still loves you and wants it to work.The therapy is a really good start.You need to be open with him, and tell him everything you just told us.
you should talk to your local priest or to a counselor . It.s a lot of things to go through but it seems the latter one was juust to much for you r bf
May be he wasn't convinced inside that the baby you were carrying was his? Perhaps being a male he just didn't know what to do. Women grieve differently than men. And perhaps he just didn't know what you need. I am sure in his defense that he is also upset that things are not looking good for the both of you. I suggest you sit down together and decide if you both want to remain together. If you are both willing then you can start talking about what has happened recently to cause you both such sorrow. If he turns around and says that he just doesn't want to be together any longer then you need to sort out how to go separate ways. There is always a light at the end of a dark tunnel so dont give up looking for it.
im 26 with similar experiences
what i did was went back to when we first met and reminded him of all the fun and memorable times that we have shared
this made us feel stupid for fighting over something so silly
what you need to do is ask him if he still loves you
and tell him just what he means to you
maybe he didn't want you to have the abortion and his hurting
maybe you both need to forgive each other
Ask your Dr. to refer you to a professional. With all of your previous problems, the abortion and your relationship with him doesn't help. Get help and help yourself. Best wishes!
That was melancholic story indeed,but you should take in to account that every one of us ,by hook or crook are forced to be imerced in to relatively hard or whatever kinds of problems. I don't mean that your problem is easy,but you shuld take it easy.
Well considering you're a mess and he's supported you this long he's probably getting tired of putting up with it. If he was asking for advice I'd tell him to just move on and find someone who has much more respect for themselves and those around them, and is thusly more stable. Anyone who gets drunk and makes out with random people ain't worth it in my book.
But if this saint of a man is willing to try and save your relationship then definitely seek professional counseling. God bless him if he stays with you.
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