Relationship advice....?

I need some help!! My wife and I have been married since 2000 and last spring we adopted a newborn straight from the hospital on short notice and our relationship has taken a hit since then in several ways. Probably the biggest area is in communication. As we all know once kids are brought into the picture life gets even busier. Here is my dilemma; I think it is fair to say that she is one that may not have been fit to be a parent and decided that she would do it more for my sake. He is now 16 months old and he is having a harder time adjusting to daily life when she has to care for him more due to my work schedule. He lets his frustration be known by being vocal and tends to get upset a little more when she is around him by herself. She just recently told me that she doesn't have a lot of feeling for me and not sure she ever has and gave me the '; I may have settled speech';. I love her and want this relationship to work but as he approaches 18 months at what point do we move on just as friends for the better of his development. We have tried counseling with zero success and my main hesitation on moving forward with custody of him is that she would fight it just for the sake of fighting it not because she would want the custody?? Relationship advice....?
Just ask her.Relationship advice....?
before adopting did you and your wife go to counseling ! It sounds like she is depressed. Like you said kids change everything and its a little more stressful when its an adopted child! If you and your wife didn't go to counseling maybe its time to look at that option!









Okay, you've tried counseling with zero success. Well, then find another therapist. Keep working at it. Success doesn't come like that. It's an ongoing process...not a POW We're Fixed solution. Find a family therapist you two are comfortable with and work at the marriage! This isn't something you just dump because you two cannot get it together. If you want to use this as an excuse to get out of the relationship, I'm sure most mature people would not give it to you. Keep trying to make it work.
Well first and for most she is the one with the problem. How can she say she has never had feeling for you!? she married you! unless she is one of those kind. not being rude but did you look deep into character before you married her. And babies are smart they know when something is not right. Maybe he can tell that she is not fit to be a parent. Your family should here about this just to have some kind of idea as to what's been going on just in case this does go to court.


Again she has the problem not you especially if she gave you the i settled Speech.


GOOD LUCK TAKE CARE OF YOUR BOY AND YOUR SELF YOUR CHILD KNOWS WHEN THINGS ARE NOT RIGHT.