Straight gal in relationship with pre-op F2M trans. Any others? Any advice?

Recently met the man of my dreams who still has the body of a woman. I'm still married and he's coming off a very bad breakup with a femme who could not accept the transition. We are both on new ground with this relationship. Any help, advice, suggestions or knowledge from others in similar situations would be appreciated. I would especially like to know how other straight gals have dealt with realizing they are falling for a trans and suddenly being identified by others as lesbian even though they identify straight. My man is a man but he still looks like a woman!Straight gal in relationship with pre-op F2M trans. Any others? Any advice?
Dear Shamrock,


It's not easy is it?


Thank you for being open minded enough to realize a trans-man is a person, and capable of loving and being loved. Many people are , for whatever reasons, not capable of making that leap.


This is going to be a NEW realm you are entering. The world YOU are entering didn't even exist 75 yrs ago. Many religious dogma hasn't had time to deal with this ';brave new world';


If you need someone to talk with you can try PFLAG www.pflag.org Or you can msg me. on Yahoo IM


Hugs,


PennyAnnStraight gal in relationship with pre-op F2M trans. Any others? Any advice?
If you really love him, then support him in his transistion. hopefully he is on testosterone and he will look more manly as time goes on.





I am glad to see you are open enough to be in this relationship, even though he doesn't pass well as a man.





And for the time being, screw what other people think... theyll see it on the street then forget about it...





for example.. people see me holding hands with my same aged sister... they probably think im a lesbian, but im not! hehehe. then they forget about it.





but if this is a long term thing with this guy, youll see changes and it will get better.
If you love this person as a man, then you will probably learn to accept it. It's a tough situation, maybe you should talk to your partner about this.
Nice of you to accept him. Don't worry about how he looks for now - assuming that he isn't on T but plans to be, his appearance will be masculinizing pretty quickly. This means body/facial hair, a more masculine body, a deeper voice, etc. You might want to pick up some books on the subject of FtMs so you can understand his problems a bit more. I'd recommend Jamison Green's Becoming A Visible Man.





Good luck.
You're married. i suggest if you want to do anythig about it you get a divorce before braking someones heart
OMG,is this true.I simply admire you.





I lost mine after 21 years who could not accept it,and here you are.Love this person,she is or will go through alot.Sounds like you 2 have alot in common.





Advise?.Love,care,accept,follow your heart.It may prove helpful if you research transgender.Remember identity does not reflect orientation.Live your life to it's fullest and find true happiness.





happy trails
he was born in wrong body. so what?
people will obviously be confused by your relationship, but don't worry about it, all that matters is that you know your love is real. its a tricky situation, but not really, if people would just accept you and he for who you are.


good luck.