SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. PLEASE HELP?

My friend needed me to post this:





She is 21 and her boyfriend is 24. They have been together for 4 years but have problems everyday. Her and her boyfriend do EVERYTHING. Meaning: Live together, On the phone 24/7, They took friends out of their lives too, etc. They fight everyday. They are both very jealous people.





Her faults: She doesnt want him to look at any female around her. She finds it disrespectful. If she catches him doing it then she will do something to make him unhappy like not smoke a cig with him. She now smokes two a day with him since she caught him smoking. She gives him trouble about going on the internet or turning the tv on because of females being on so they only watch tv when they eat dinner or go on the internet together. Meaning, they never watch any shows with attractive males or females...





His faults: He lied to her about smoking cigs and chewing until she caught him 2 years into the relationship when they moved in together. He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship: Bars, Going out with friends, movies etc... then once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him. He has a very bad temper but blames it on her because she gives him troubles about girls. (is this just an excuse?)





Now they sit in his apartment and fight all the time. He broke her windsheld last week... she made him leave class early because they had to be in a group with girls and she started to flipout. How did she know? He keeps her on the phone in his pocket!





Is there anyway to save their relationship with how they are? It's like they hate eachother but can't live without oneanother.





Any advice for her? Any advice about him?SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. PLEASE HELP?
He needs to find a hobby that he can take his aggression out, like boxing or martial arts of some sort, gets him a break from her and he needs time to himself, due to her jelousy and constantly smothering him he cannot just have time to breathe/think.. therefore he bottles up and rage is what comes out when the cap is popped.. worst he did was lie about smoking, which was probably due to her badgering him.. and he probably would invite her places if she would leave him alone about other girls.





this relationship is in her hands, she is causing it to fall apart.. here is why... she needs to realize HE picked HER, not any other girl, she is extremely jealous and no man needs her or her mind games and jelousy, he cannot do anything where there is a chance a female may be.. even with a tv screen between him and her.. she needs to realize unless she keeps him indoors with the shades drawn he will interact with women. she doesn't trust him and she needs too, trust is what makes relationships work.. she is around men all day I bet, and I bet she thinks that is okay.. so why can't he do anything? she needs to realize not every woman is attractive to every man, and he chose to live with her.. and that almost anywhere he goes nowadays there will be women present, that is society.. she needs to get over herself and let the jealousy go, she will be less tense/jealous and the freedom to have fun and not worry will return to their relationship..and she would be invited out more with him if she isn't a buzzkill...





he also should leave her.. but i know they want it to work.. so that is not an option... i would leave though, quickly..SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. PLEASE HELP?
It is misleading. Please ask your friend to post this question with first hand information. It looks there is some communication gap.
They need to take a break for a month. They're on a downhill slope with no respect for each other right now.





Trust is part of love.


If they're both so insecure then why continue a very unstable relationship, they don't love each other enough to allow for some breathing room.


This way it's not meant to last or it will end with some bad result. They need to take a break from each other and figure out their individuality.


For the information of them both: not everybody is after them to have sex or start a relationship. They'll find out they're not the center of the universe, since other men and women have other interests, both in partners, things or activities.





What's going on is about power and control and they're two very childish persons.


Don't get dragged by the two into their quarrels.
Same advise for both:





Get real; get away from each other before there is a baby to suffer the consequenses of them both being very selfish.





Both are too jealous, immature, and distrustful of each other, period.





No one owns another person! Relationships are to help, nurture and trust each other; neither of them are doing this. Theirs is a very bad relationship: neither are ';living'; as you call it.