It's so hard... I'm not in the same situation...but a similar feeling I guess...
It's a tough spot, you don't want to hurt the other person, you don't want to hurt yourself.. but in the end... you need to stay true to yourself and what makes you happy.
If that's being alone... then you need to do that. Don't sacrifice you're life's time to someone who ';might turn around'; .
You need to act on and be happy NOW... not hope to happy LATER.I think i'm giving up on my relationship not sure what to do advice please!?
its very sad that this is all happening when there is a baby involved. however you are going to have to see this man for the rest of your life. move back to your parents house, and put this chapter behind you. you made a mistake, and hes not in love with you anymore. sue him for child support. good luck.
Sounds like he doesn't want to the responsibility of a child. Which is not far to you, but happens all the time. You seem smart and put together. Take your child and find something better.
Remember you and your childs' life is just starting, make it the best... for the both of you.
if he appeals to you like a pig, the connection definately isnt there.
and the only reason you should hold on to the relationship is so that your baby will have both parents in their life. talk to him, maybe he will realize and change.
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it might be hard but leave him. Do you really want you and your son to have to put up with him.But again you had a child with him what if one day you come home and find him sleeping with another woman leave him
ok so he is hiding the porn from you? A guy should share. You can get sex ideas from it.
I think you need to talk to him.
It definitely sounds like he's given up. There is no way to change a man. Do what you need to be happy and provide the best environment for your child. :) Good luck!
Sounds like it's over sweetie. Do what you need to do to be happy. Good Luck.
girl! u should move on!!
he doesnt deserve u and he sounds like trash
give up and get a better home for ur baby
if he really loves you than he would have changed his ways or not even done it at all
he is horny that all
u probably one of those people that get grossed out about masturbation too right.
ok this is the truth guys are not like chicks..
im willing to put money on it that everytime u guys have sex u basically do the same thing right. same position, same foreplay ect ect.
in a relationship it seems women are creatures of habit, men are not.. there is a reason men do dangerous things like drive fast, ride motorcycles, ect... we have to feel alive. we have to feel adrenaline.. when things become repetitive we feel dead in side and look for other things to stimulate us...
ur freaked about him looking at porn.. u should feel happy he isnt going out and cheating, and no strip clubs are not cheating... the fact he is only looking and not cheating should show u he wants to be with only you but you are not fulfilling a necessary need.
Im really sorry you are in this situation.
If you honestly have no feelings of love for this man then the best thing for you and your child is to walk away. This will allow you to set the best environment for your child - where the mother and father don't fight or hate one another. It also gives you a chance to make arrangement's of contact for the child's father in the friendliest way possible meaning you can both remain friends and again create the best environment for the baby.
If you think that you might be able to love him again and would like to try to sort things then i think you should have a sit down with him....maybe get a babysitter and have an un-interrupted chat with him. Tell him how unhappy you are, tell him how you feel about the porn and stippers remind him you need support and its out of order for him to be getting other girls numbers when you are with him and are the mother of his child but also tell him you want to sort the relationship out.
Please don't take this out of context but it may be that you are suffering Post Natal Depression, your feels towards your Partner might be due to this and if you agree then please don't be ashamed seek help from a doctor.
Most of all i wish you luck xxx
I went through a similar thing when my ex and I had a child, but I can give it from my perspective. After having a baby, guys panic a little bit, knowing that they are tied to you for the next 18 years. Biologically and legally. They are expected to be the man of the house now, the bread winner. When men panic, they want to do things that men often can't do when they are paired with someone like that. Strip clubs, getting numbers, looking at internet pornography. All stuff of a single guy, he's crying out. Let him know you don't expect him to be Mr. Suburbia, and that you are still sexy, and show him that. He's freaking out, you just have to make him feel more comfortable with the whole situation to help him through HIS transition into fatherhood.
u shuld talk to him
one on one
dat will how u really noe how he feels
unless he lies to u
cuz porn can mess up a relationship badly
cuz he will start to compar u to da girls who r in it and wish dat u were like dem or look like em
u shuld try takin him to therpy or sumtin
and u r not giving up....he probably is
talk to him and figure out wat da conflict is
first it sort of normal for a man to go to strip clubs, and watching porn.. but getting a gurls number, going on sex websites and dating sites and hiding all that stuff is goin to far..
i think u guys should go to counselling.. and i would like to no y he just started doing this?? u should also try treating him to somethin nice like a evening to ur self and have sex with candels and somethn romantic like that.. cuz men dont get that sort of thing when the baby comes.. they dont get what they want so he is turning to other things if he doesnt get it from u... remind him that just cuz u had a baby that u arnt an old hag and that u can still have fun and stuff with him..
hope i helped!!
I just got out of a serious relationship. (never fought once in a year)She left me for another guy and dragged me around for 3 weeks until she came out and said it on VDay. Ending a long relationship will always be hard, especially when there's a child involved. But considering his actions, chances are he doesn't want to be w you anymore for whatever the reason. So don't let him hurt you anymore. Take him to court for child support and visitation rights if he wants to see his child. Move on and forget him before it gets harder, Even though it'll be difficult considering the child.
I completely understand. It's easy to say ';just move on,'; but once there is a child involved, things change a bit. It's just harder. Do what you can, but don't lose your dignity. Only you can know when it's over
My advice: Watch ';Fireproof'; (a movie) TOGETHER. Buy ';The Love Dare'; (the accompanying book) and read it AFTER you watch the movie.
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I think what happened is that he started to feel left out when the baby arrived, think about it, most of your time is now dedicated to this beautiful/time-consuming creature, a lot of guys have jealousy issues and don't even now it, maybe this is his way of coping with it... he is so hard trying to get your attention (even if it's in a negative way) and instead he is pushing you away even more. If I were you I would try to work things out, specially since you have a baby together, and that baby deserves a stable home. Figure out if this behavior is the consequence of jealousy. The hardest part of being a new mom is trying to figure out a balance in your new life (work, friends, realtionships, me-time, etc.) but once you find it, every aspect of it will be rewarded. Good luck.
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