Advice from married people about my relationship please?

When my boyfriend and I started going out he said that he was going to build a house, and we decided that we'd do it together. He also said that he wanted to live with me before we got married.





Now it's been 5 years, and we've been living together for 2 years. Nothing. Finally the house is ready and now I am honestly not wanting to build it because, while yes it is a form of commitment that he wants to build with me, it's not sealing the deal and I believe that we should at least be engaged before I sign the mortgage papers. So I brought up the topic, which we had to that date only talked about once in the beginning, and he got upset (not really mad) and said “I am not ready yet, I don't know what else you want me to say” so I told him exactly how I feel about everything and he is the male type who doesn't express his emotions so I really don't know if he's playing me or what.





I want to make it work with him, and I gave him an ultimatum where if we're not engaged by the time we have to sign the mortgage I can't do it with him. But now I will never know if he DOES ask me if it is because he was pressured...








What do I do? Do I move on and hope to find someone who will not even put me in this situation, or do I just go with the flow until something works itself out but in the meantime if he is not Mr. Right then the actual Mr. Right is out there passing me by?





Help!!Advice from married people about my relationship please?
I refused to move in with my now husband until we were married. I have seen too many people who want to get married move in together and not have it happen. Marriage isn't an easy thing and you two are living like you are. Maybe he wanted to live with you first, give it a trial run, and isn't sure this isn't something he wants to do for the rest of his life. Making it legal and adding a mortgage to the deal is huge and harder to get out of if he isn't sure. You don't want him to do it because you want to. It takes two to make it work. No ultimatums. Living with you for two yrs and he says no, there's your answer. He's there until it isn't convenient for him anymore. Good luck.Advice from married people about my relationship please?
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most men are guilty of this cold feet thing. stand your ground, woman. he needs to man up and HONOR his commitments and his woman
Hi , Broke the very cardinal rule of a holy institution by living together! Could have been physically compromised as well?Where did the trust and judgement go then? And since your BF does not seem the expressive type either and egotistic I am afraid you have to come out unscathed.These men are after bodies and not relationships.


Why the heck has a new malice has crept up in the society?
If you think he is the kind of man that you want to spend the rest of your life with and he is serious about you in the long run, then it doesn't matter if you buy now or later. Your name will change (if you choose to change it) and you will have to adjust your deed to reflect he change but that's about it. Ask yourself this question, If you weren't buying a house together, would you still give him the same ultimatum? You should never pressure a man into marrying you. He will ask you if he really wants to and when he is ready.





However, if you think the relationship is already falling apart and that he is not serious about you, then don't get into a complicated transaction that ties you to him until the house sells.





It really about you asking yourself serious questions about your long term compatibility with this man. Beyond sex and looks do you really have a lot in common, religious beleifs, philosophy about raising children, similar long term goals, similar hobbies or interests etc. If those things are not strong in your relationship now they wont improve with time.





I was married for 12 years and wished I understood the importance or true compatability before I asked her to marry me and had two children. I honestly should never have asked her, because we truly had very little in common.





Only you can answer those deeper questions about the underlying relationship before you can answer the one about the house.





Good Luck!
I think that maybe your over thinking it alittle too much, it sounds like you really care for him and he you. He wants to build a home with you and maybe its just hard for him to take things to the next level. Does he come from a ';broken home'; or has he had past relationships that have maybe had something to do with he decision to wait? If you really want to be with him then just hang in there, I'm sure that he will come around. And just alittle Secret there is no such things as Mr.Right or a perfect man. Every relationship takes compromisee and although it may be hard if you really love him it may worth the wait. Good Luck!