Now that I'm an adult and parent I'm feeling torn about my relationship with my mean mother. Need advice.

I am now 29 years old and recently seperated from my long-time boyfriend and the father of my 2 year old son. I was/am a full-time student persuing a nursing career and have been working on the classes to try to get into the program. I was totally financially dependent upon my ex when he decided to leav me. He's continuing to allo w me to stay in the home we purchased together (my name is on the deed/loan too, as I used to work full-time before having our son) but he pays the mortgage. I work part-time as a receptionist and have tons of applications in for full-time work. I'm realizing that I'm probably going to have to give up college soon and move out into an apartment because my ex might lose the house with the poor financial decisions he's making.





My issue is my mom has been cruel and insensitive through this whole breakup. She tells me to ';get over it'; and tells me she will not let me move back home until I can get on my feet because she wants me to be independent.Now that I'm an adult and parent I'm feeling torn about my relationship with my mean mother. Need advice.
You have to realize what she just said,she said that she is not';that kind'; of mother.You have to understand that this is just how she is and will probably never change.Just talk with your father he seems to love and support you and hopefully he is there for you.As for school you can just take a little break from it(your not quitting),put school aside till you can earn more money for yourself and the well-being of your child,after you feel the chaos has settled down for awhile then go back to school and finish your studies.Talk with your friends and siblings about your mothers behavior(just to make you feel better and get it off of your chest.)There are people that are there for you,your mother unfortunately isn't one of those people.And if she yells at your child and makes you feel unwanted when you bring him over then it might be time to seperate yourself from her and your interactions with her,because she seems to be a miserable and unhappy person.and you and your child shouldn't not have to tolerate that or be around it.Now that I'm an adult and parent I'm feeling torn about my relationship with my mean mother. Need advice.
If it was me I would not subject my child to such a cold hearted unloving woman. Before you do anything check into financial aid where you go to school. See about grants and scholarships. There are different kinds and some could be for single mothers. Also see if you can possibly contribute to the mortgage where you're living so you have a place to live til school is done. When that house sells you should get half of it but if the house is lost so is the investment.


Many of us had or have mothers that didnt care and were abusive and we have had to make it on our own. We also had fathers who stood by and let it happen. It is hard but you can make it. If it gets to the point you have no choice and no where to go, talk to your father and move in anyway. It isnt just all about her and your dad has a say in this too.
sell the house ,get a student loan,finish nursing scool,and dont depend on other people.she will one day need you to change her diapers.now you won't feel so bad when you don't do it.