I need some advice...should I stay in this relationship????

I have been dating a guy since February. He calls me his gf, I have met his kids, his whole family %26amp; all of his friends. We are together almost all the time when we are not at work. He even says that he wants me to move in the next few months (we have to save up the reletting fee money since I'm under contract my apt) BUT the kicker is he says he is NOT my bf! WTH he says he doesn't want to feel 'tied down' %26amp; that bf/gf titles makes him feel that way...I have asked him why he wants me move in w/ him if he can't give me a little bit of committment by being my bf cause living together is a much bigger committment but he never can give me an answer. I know for a fact he isn't seeing anyone else or even looking he doesn't have time. If he isn't w/ me he is at work or w/ his kids (and even then I'm w/ him most of the time). This hurts me that he won't give me the committment I need its starting to cause a lot of problems for us..I need some advice...should I stay in this relationship????
there is no doubt you both have affection for each other. but is love enough to keep the relationship going? i know this maybe hard but give him some breathing room. maybe then will he realize how important you are to him. and if you are not, then count your blessings and move on.I need some advice...should I stay in this relationship????
Well if it was me, i wouldn't necessarily 'jump out' of the relationship. You should try talking to him more and let him know that your fully committed to this relationship. Let him know that moving in together is a big step, and if '; i can't even call you my bf, then why are we moving it w/ea. other?';


Its a big step, so just double check.
seeing your additional detail, I think he doesn't want to admit you're his gf bc he doesn't want to get hurt again (even though he is a guy..they have somewhat similar feelings as us)
I would give him a chance... He will learn to trust you over time... It's up to you whether or not you want to give him that time.
BY JUST ASKING FOR IT..IT'S TIME TO LET GO.. IF IT'S MEANT TO BE..NO SWEAT... IT WILL COME BACK...
i agree with facebook f :)





but it also kinda sounds to me like by letting you move in it brings you closer to his kids and things and you also get to get closer to them and everything else in his life. i think he just has a few trust issues that like facebook f said he should get over and by showing you care about him as much as you do will make things easier. i think you should tell him that he shouldnt call you his gf if its not returned by you calling him your bf, but tell him that in a not so threatening way. just let him know how you feel and realize that in the end its ONLY your choice. :)





good luck,
Thats a tough question. I am sorry you are stuck in this position. My first thought was oh hell no, then i read on, and i think he does want to be with you, he is just afraid of being all in it. He is afraid of getting hurt. I really think you should give this a chance, and if you really care for him, show him you wont hurt him. He has to gain trust with you, and it might take him a while.
good we are the same age. well from outside looking in, you seem to want a committed relationship. you pay bills together and you sleep together. understandable. but come on, if he don't want to talk about long term situations such as a simple title, then how is it going to turn out when something much serious come up. naturally b/f and g/f comes up. obviously he trusted you if you have been around his kids and his family. so its up to you take it slow and when it happens you both will be comfortable. or nag him to death and he get so irritated with you he might end the relationship. guys are alot different from us. but if you are not in a serious relationship. then yall are not ready for serious situations. such as paying bills, providing for each other. a relationship is a big commitment. can't work one sided. it takes two. and you can't ask these questions to a wall so he needs to compromise. i know it hurts cause you want to know! but it'll be okay. give it time. your heart knows. and listen to your first instinct. they are always right.
i think he has commitment issues maybe he is too scared to commit to a real longlasting relationship right now because of his previouse one you should talk to him about dealing with and getting over the previous commitment because if you get into a relationship wit hhim he can easily let u go


talk to him more and let him know that u are there to stay for the whole run


good luck


if he can not deal with it then you can not commit ur self in a relationship that may not last


all the best
If he came out of a bad relationship, it may take him some time to be able to commit again. The title boyfriend seems to be stressing him out. I don't think you should move in until he figures this out, but I don't think you need to break up. If the relationship is fine, then stick it out. I'm sure he'll come around.