Broken Heart Advice for end of 5 Year Relationship (I'm 24)?

So we were in Houston for the past year, him in law school and me in grad school. The first semester was a little hard for us but we made it through very well in the end. Then he broke down after he got his grades and confessed to me that he had to start law school over. During this time he almost broke it off with me saying I was ';too negative'; we almost broke up but then he said to me ';I would be an idiot to let you go and if I'm not a part of the solution I'm part of the problem'; Fast foward 6 months and he confesses he does not think he can have a relationship and be in law school nxt semester. I was heartbroken but agreed to let him go. Now, 2 wks later, I find out he's dating some girl that I have met before.. She works with him and seems very opposite of me (shy, insecure, immature). He cried a lot during the break up but now seems fine, a temporary fix or true feelings? I still would like to be with him again one day...any advice? (Yes I'm moving on and not calling etc)Broken Heart Advice for end of 5 Year Relationship (I'm 24)?
You can and will do better! He didn't make it through law school and he is repeating history with another girl who will distract him! When you need to go back to law school there is something clearly wrong with his thinking and he is stupid to jump in another relationship! Be thankful that you are not in that drama anymore! I asked my husband and he is an attorney and he and his girlfriend at that time split up mutually so they can concentrate on their studies. She is an attorney too and happily married today. My hubby agrees that you are better off so you can concentrate on your career. We both agree on this! The sun will shine again in your life and all you can do is pity that poor girl he is with. Use the experience to know that you will remember a cad when you see one! Best wishes to you and now you can concentrate on your future first before a future with someone else. By the way my step daughter went through a similar situation. She is in grad school too! She is my husbands daughter from another marriage and I told her the same thing I am telling you. I didn't like to see her cry!Broken Heart Advice for end of 5 Year Relationship (I'm 24)?
still young get a bottle of grey goose and chill out with family and or friends stay away from the dating seen for a while.
You want to be with him again some day because you remember the good times.


As the above answerer pointed out. Bad idea.


It is possible he got into his current dating thing to put a band-aid on his hurt from leaving you. Hard to say.


From what you wrote above, it seems that he was having doubts about the relationship, while at the same time not wanting to lose you because of your good points. He apparently expressed sorrow at the breakup, but because he was ready to move on, he was able to do that quickly--what seems inappropriately quickly.


Given his track record, it would seem wise for you to indeed move on. When you feel comfortable do a little light dating. Stay busy. Focus on your career.
Why in the world would you want to be with someone like him? He sounds so wishy-washy and unsure of himself. I would never want to be in a relationship with someone who kept breaking up with me (or almost breaking up). The only thing he was right about was being an idiot to let you go. You sound like a nice person considering you put up with his wishy-washy crap for so long. If he's dating someone else, it could be a rebound or he could have already moved on. The fact of the matter is, you shouldn't be focusing on him anymore because he left you, remember? It's time for new beginnings.





Don't waste your time worrying about someone who doesn't give a damn. He'd still be with you if he cared. You're 24. You have your whole life ahead of you.
I`d say forget him go out and do something you used to enjoy. Why stay upset?You cant change his feelings or his mind- You cant read it either. If hes not upset why should you be?. Just go out....Dress to impress gather youre friends and have a laugh. (Dont rush into another realtionship either...that wont work and you might hurt the other person thats what he has done *it wont last*)


A bit of flirting and some drinks when youre out...No harm done. You have loads ahead of you and so much to do, you have one life and its youres! Spend it being happy!
If you would still like to be with him, then go get him now. I don't buy that ';if you're meant to be, you'll be together someday'; stuff. Keeping a relationship is hard work. And can sometimes be painful to one or both parties. You're gonna think you've reached your limit, that you're the only one keeping the relationship going, and that enough is enough, but if you really really want this guy, then you make it happen, no matter how it hurts or might hurt you. You really have to give it your best. The question now is - ';Is he worth the trouble of giving it your best?'; If you have really reached the end of your rope and you have no more love left for this person, you will know. Your heart will tell you. That is the only legit reason to break up.