Anyone have good advice for getting over a bad relationship?

I was with him for 2 years. He lived in my house for 6 months and never gave me any money to help with the bills etc. He was a mooch and I know that but I am still sad over this. I kicked him out because he always had some excuse as to why everything bad was always someone elses fault. He had an explosive temper and was an all around *** but now I feel bad about him not having any money and being behind in his bills. He is coming Sunday morning to get the rest of his things and I don't want to cave in but I am afraid I will. How do I get past feeling sorry for him? I know it isn' my fault but I still feel bad about it. I should add here that he isn't asking to come back and is treating me like I am the one who caused the problems but I know him pretty well and just think he is going to say that he misses me. He only worked 3 months out of an entire year last year and most of that was a voluntary layoff. When I told him he needed to find a job he told me I was too focused on money. Ha!Anyone have good advice for getting over a bad relationship?
Pack his stuff and have it waiting by the door.





Make a time for him to show up to get his stuff.





Make plans for no more than 30 mins after his arrival..get a friend who thinks this guys is the scum of the earth to go with you on this planned event (movie, lunch, dinner, ANYTHING). In fact, have them at your apartment when he comes to pick his things up.





If he starts in on how he can't pay his bills, tell him he's too focused on money. Then kick him out the door.





Don't cave. He's a P.O.S. Everyone has issues with employment, but we all work through it..well, except for him.Anyone have good advice for getting over a bad relationship?
When you see him, just tell yourself ';I deserve better...I respect myself and I am not going to let my feelings overpower me.'; You HAVE to let him go. You can't live with someone who is just USING you. It isn't a healthy relationship. You need to be with someone who loves you and respects you and is willing to do ANYTHING for you. This guy you are talking about here..is the complete opposite. So I think it is time to move on.


Get yourself a big bowl of icecream and good book, 'cause honey, its time to move on.
before you go for a new guy, buy a TON of chocolate, and then take up running. it'll make u feel better.





-rasari
Just move on, and start a new life. Don't let him try to talk you into any kind of relationship when he comes to get his things. Remember yo was paying all the bills. You were. Grams
chocolates ice cream and candy then u should just try to be friends with him that always works with me and my ex's
ice cream and girl power music.





Power to you.
to get over this a start a new one quick.. it dose help ..
You do not need a man like that. When he comes over DO NOT give in, be strong and spend some time by yourself for a while. If he really does love you he will clean up his act and prove it to you and hopefully come back a better man, but until that happens, do for yourself. You're not his mum, partners should be equals in all aspects.
everytime a missing him minute starts ...start remembering the worse things you disliked about him most..then go down the list ...find things you enjoy to take up the time you get bored without him ...do the things you would have done if you wasn't with him i know there had to be some of them in 2yrs...and then start flirting with others that will keep you busy too .....good luck you will be OK just keep looking up and forward instead of back and down when he comes over to get his things or when you see him remember the truth is best and that is ...feeling sorry for someone isn't a reason to be with them...you are being unfair to that person and to yourself because if he settles for pity and you settle for a loser than you both lose because neither of you will find someone to love or that loves you in the way it should be...besides he might find a woman who can make him grow up and face responsibilities and if you keep him because of pity then you did him wrong too as he has been doing you.
girl let me tell ive been in your shoes my ex was an abuser though, but if he isnt wanting to get a job and keep one and wants to depend on you to bring in the money girl he will never change no matter how much he says ill change i promise just give me another chance. and no its not your fault that hes behind on his bills so when you bring that up to him he will always try to use that against you that your just focused on money just so he will be able to think its not my fault its hers since he always thinks nothing is his fault lol how many times ive heard that but any way, you are the only one working while he does nothing, you have every right to tell him stuff, i know its hard because he will come back with puppy dog eyes acting like hes sorry for what he has done or said and try everything to get you to give him another chance, i went through crap like this for 6yrs before i finally left my ex. the best thing is to try to be strong don't let him get to you or if you think you can't do that let someone in your family be there with you or let someone in your family be there and you leave or not be there and let them make sure he gets everything so there won't be a next calling saying i left something there can i come get it, cuz whats going to happen he will try that puppy dog look. but if you really don't want to be back with him i'd try one of those things either you not home and let a family member be there while he gets his stuff or have someone there with you for support for you and to help you stay strong, and feeling bad for him will eventually go away but thats the main thing you need to stay focused on is NOT TO FEEL SORRY FOR HIM AT ALL!!!! just think hes aways been like this since i met him why would he change now, he brought all this on his self with no ones help. well i hope i was able to help you out. good luck.
ima tell u this straight


if wat ur sayin is true, then just feeling sorry for him and giving him money for him too mooch off of u will make him think he can come back for more.


dont forget that he wasted 2 years of ur life by him being mean to u


u both need to man up


he has to accept that he screwed up so thats y he aint gettin no dough


and u have to detach urself from him or this will become an unhealthy habit





do the right thing


C
Have the best one night stand ever and move ON!!