Need advice....am i in an unhealthy relationship?

I am a divorced mom of 3 young children.....last year my boyfriend of 4 months moved in with me.....I am so in love with him. I love his personality, he his very attentive, we get along great, he is good to my kids, he is very passionate, and the sex is the best I ever had, The problem....money. He pays the rent and all utlities....which he was paying when he lived by himself....now he just pays it by me since he moved in. I was working part time and paying for my personal bills....cell phone, car insurance, visa and supporting my children. He hated that I worked....did not want to babysit my kids while I worked and wanted me to quit my job.....which I did. Now I am broke...I have mentioned to him that my cell phone bill is due, and he has yet to pay it for me....he is kinda cheap....tells me I spend to much money on my children....complains when I turn the heat up,,,,,,I realize the economy is bad and we all have to make cuts....but he is going overboard.......he does not even give me spending money....says he lives on 10.00 a week and that I should be able too......I have to keep going to my ex husband for money....my ex even paid my cell phone for me....and my boyfriend is even cheap when it comes to grocery shopping.....never having children himself....he does not understand what it costs to feed three children,,,,,,I try talking to him..I dont know what to do anymore....losing him will hurt me so much....Need advice....am i in an unhealthy relationship?
Well first of all your need to not rely on him to watch your children, it sounds like he doesn't want the responsibility.


You should find a babysitter and go back to work, you need money to support your children and this man isn't providing for them.


Sounds like the relationship might be rocky honestly, he needs to accept you and your kids or it'll never work out in the long run.Need advice....am i in an unhealthy relationship?
Leave and quick, do not look back. You can do bad all by yourself. Personally, I never would have quit my job. It seems as though he is using this as a method of control over you. Loosing him may hurt; however loosing the respect of your children and screwing them up for life so they need counseling later in life is even worse.
I understand how you feel, when you are in love you are really falling very very deep in this relationship and also really enjoying it. But you always must learn to talk to yourself, in long run what can he give you and your children? Are you willing to let your children suffer with you? We are all adult think twice then we make the next move......





Take care.
Get a job, he is trying to control you. Explain that things are great in some areas and not good in others. If he does not like it, show him to the door.
Put the ball into HIS court now.





Get a job and tell him to deal with it or leave.
How can you say you love his personality when you don't like the fact that he is as tight as can be, stick a piece of coal where the sun does not shine and watch if it becomes a diamond, if so you will know his is so tight. Tell him to grow up and baby sit or get the father of your kids to baby sit when you go out to work. Don鈥檛 just listen to anything he says think about how it will affect you.


If he says lets sell the house so we can pay of the debt would you agree even if it made you homeless



I think you should both be able to work, there is nothing wrong with that. Tell him that either shapes up and pays your bills or you're going to start working and there is nothing he can do about it. It's your children not his, you have the right to spend your money on them however you want and it is also your job to protect them. If you feel that this man is not giving them the supplies and things they need to live a happy life then you should step in, same for yourself as well.