I met a girl online, fell in love with her, thought she'd fallen in love with me. I recently visited her family, they don't know about us. The first night there I had a chance to kiss her and let it slip away. Then I panicked over it and sent her a bunch of messages the next two days about wanting to talk with her alone. I'm pretty sure I scared her. Then another guy came, another friend of hers. He's alot more social than me, and lives alot closer to her. I'm afraid she may have fallen for him, and even if she didn't...
She said that we could talk about things, but we never got to. She said she didn't want to rush things, even though we talked before about kissing. It was the second time I'd seen her in person. She said we could talk over the phone, but she never called. the day I left I gave her a hug and whispered ';I love you.';
Than after all that, she now sent a message saying it won't work. she didn't give a reason why and says she can't because the next few days are busy for her.
I know I've screwed up, but I love her and I don't want this to end like this. I don't want to lose her. Please, I want to save this, I don't want to lose her. What do I do? do I tell he sister about us? Do I call her and try to talk? How do I go about it?
I've known her for about a year. Realized I'd fallen for her near mid-March
and I've just found out from a mutual friend, she sent a message that said ';I had a traumatizing weekend.';
Please, help. Pray for me. What do I do?!
alot of you are telling me to give her time. how much time?
and to anyone else out there who thinks the question is too long, don't bother answering. I need advice, not insults. Please answer the questions.
Can someone give me some advice on how to save this relationship?
ive been in your situation bro. somewhere she lost interest in you, but at least she told you straight up that its not going to work out. In a situation like this, i would wait it out for a good 2 weeks. If she doesnt answer any of ur calls back by then, i hate to say it, but its time to move on. Women believe in letting guys ';getting the hint'; by avoiding you because a lot of them dont have the courage to outright hurt your feelings and tell you the harsh truth to your face. But trust me man, u didnt screw up nothing for being yourself. ill pray for you, but start getting mentally ready to move on man.Can someone give me some advice on how to save this relationship?
you know she might just be scared of commitment i am the same way. this kid told me that he loved me and that he didn't want to lose me and i pulled away.
i don't know what her reasons are but if she is like me it could just be that
she doesn't know what to do from this point. she may not want to get her heart broken no matter how many times you tell her that you wont or don't want to break her heart she may just not be able to let her guard down don't take it personal it may not be a trust issue just a personal issue. don't try to push anything on her it will only make her only want to turn away more maybe just don't talk about that issue for awhile.
i don't know her so i don't know how well this advice is but bottom line maybe try and steer away from pushing her into this relationship, you wouldn't wanna lose her friendship right,
I HOPE THIS HELPS I WILL BE ROOTING FOR YOU!
Heyy...
well im really sorry to say but this dosent look promising... first of all you guys met online.. not the best and then you said i love you? ummmm you cant just whip out the i love you girls take that very seriously maybe shes just freaking out becuase you said that and is scared?? about commiting to someone..
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It is all part of dating and learning. Yes the time issue sounds great. She doesn't sound like she is to interested in you. Give her a few weeks. Let her mind and yours clear up. Approach her with caution. You win some and lose some. I had the same thing happen to me once. I wasn't that skilled and once I messed up she left me and then said she wanted to be left alone. So feel out the situation. If she keeps brushing you off then let her go. There will be other girls to go after.
that's a really long question but who cares you;re worry about the person you like
but most girls always say guys rush things too fast
love is not a maybe thing and she's not serious because you guys don't really see each other and you met her online most people don't take it serious if they met online.THe guy that lives close to her he have a Chance to go out with her.
so i suggest to move and find a girl that really like you.
Sounds like she has either lost intrest in you.I think you should leave her if she doesnt want to be with you then she is just a waste of time.If you really want to find out why she is acting this way tell her you want to meet up with her to have a chat and ask her if she loves you and tell her the truth about how you love her and tell her you couldnt stop thinking of her and felt like it has been to long tell her why she needs a lot of time she might be a bit scared of whats happening.
there are plenty of factors here. she may have just lost interest in you or found something creepy about you. i mean sure things can be great at first when you start talking and as far astelling her you love her is a bit creepy after only seeing her for the second time. you are probably different in person than online. the distance can also be a factor. you can call her if you want but dont think she will answer right away plus you dont want to appear stalkerish. good luck
I'm not gonna go stereotypical with all the ';Be yourself'; stuff - you should already be doing that.
Instead, have you ever wondered whether this is just a girls way of getting attention? See, if they know that you'll be at their feet if they PRETEND to like someone else, the get twice as much attention. I've never had a girlfriend before, but I can say this: you can break up with her, or continue like this untill a flaw in her plan is discovered, it's your call.
P.S: So you know, i'm praying for you. (I lit an incense stick, it was lavender by the way.)
First its not you. The first warning was when she didn't tell her family about you. Thats her choice not yours. The other guy is probably turning on the heat and maybe that's why she invited you over in the first place. The problem with internet is we get to put words in the air with no context. For most of the people on here, the statement ,';I'm 50,'; means I'm half dead, out of touch with what its like to be 20, blah blah balh.
You had a mental picture of her and how it would be when you met. Then you met and reality hit you both in the face. Give her credit if she met you twice before deciding she didn't think it would work between you. This doesn't make her a bad person. Though I am not clear on the etiquette of breaking up I think its in bad taste to end even this type of relationship on a text. She would have looked more classy if she'd done it the last time you were with her.
Move on and look for your love of your life in reality where you can get signals and background and share the same. You will be more successful out in the park.
There was a song out a few months ago about how much better a guy looked on the internet. It's true, some of us can't help but tout physical attributes because that is what we're told is attractive. But there's more to it than that and you need to be up close and personal to findout how you will fit with someone else.
If you can't let go of this girl then you are in danger of becoming a stalker. You aren't in charge of her feelings and you can't make her love you. Especially with the signs that she may possibly have been using you to get this other guy in her life.
We are telling you like it is. But if you want what you want and don't care what others have to say then go to another site.
Sorry, but it sounds like she's just not into you. It stinks but it happens to us all from time to time. You can't ';fix'; or ';save'; it because it was never really there in the first place. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you - it just wasn't meant to be.
sadly i don't think there is a whole lot that you can do. If she likes someone els thats her own decision. You might just have to give her a couple of weeks and if her and the other guy aren't ment to be then she will probably come back to you. I'm sorry it doesn't sound like a lot of help but thats really all you can do right now. maybe its just not ment to be.
not to be mean, but maybe she didnt find you attractive in person or soemthing? or just felt embarressed about having a relationship with someone she met online? i know u dont want people just telling you it wont work, but it really doesnt look like it will :(. if you keep trying she's going to seriously think your obsessed or a nutjob and probably will stop talking to you. just be her friend for now and just be as happy as u can be with that for now.
good luck xx
wow! you sound like a very nice sensitive guy.. dont worry about the whole kiss thing (it probably wasnt the right time anyhow).. i think you should write her an email or text tell her once more you are really interested in her (compliment her on something) and then say but although it saddens your very much you respect and understand that want she wants is NOT you..... but that if she ever needed she could call and talk.. and then leave it at that..
you are makeing yourself seem to desperate and its turning her off.. the only possible way is to put your feelings out there and then leave it at that...
now let me also say it is sooooo much easier said then done cause i am in a sort of similar situation right now and i know i should back off but i cant cause the fear of loseing them is so strong.. but i know that would be for the best but it is soooo hard! good luck!
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