I need some advice on how to save my relationship. Please? Best answer gets 10 points!?

(Sorry its so long) FIRST OFF! I don't want to hear any BREAK UP bull crap. Breaking up is NOT an option. So with that said, my problem is that I have a relationship with this guy. Its long distance (50 miles), we're both 17, and we've been together for almost a year now. Everything has been going great but I recently confessed that I had been lying our WHOLE relationship... It took a while but we got over it. RIGHT after he started healing over my lying, he found out that I lied again about me kissing his BROTHER... You people have to understand, I've learned my lesson. I feel like DIRT for all of this. And we're starting to get over all my mistakes... Unfortunately there are some major issues between us now. We are still MADLY in love and we are staying together no matter what. We just really need to solve our problems. We argue all the time and we keep saying stuff like ';Well fine, maybe we should just break up!'; but we never do. And we're never going to.





We love eachother WAY too much to let this relationship go. And since we've been through so much, and are still together... we know we're going to STAY together. After I told him that I lied, he was angry with me of course and confessed that he cheated on me COMPLETELY in the beginning of the relationship. He took my virginity and he was my first kiss... Thats not the reason i'm with him though. I love him so dearly and I completely forgave and forgot his mistakes and now he's forgiven and forgotten mine. But it seems like theres still some kind of problem between us. We're doing everything we can to figure it out and fix it but we just don't know. Part of it may be that he can't trust me. Part of it may be that he's losing feelings for me but he says hes not. I know I'M not. I told him I would change and I have... Its happening very slowly but he just makes me feel like crap every single day for everything I've done.





I'm kind of confused because I would never do that to him. I promise small things and he makes a HUGE deal out of it if I don't do it or if I say a small white lie its pretty much the end of the world. I get where hes coming from because of everything i've done. But it almsot seems like he doesn't want anything to get better. Whenever we talk about this I start crying my eyes out and start having an anxiety attack. He doesn't like telling me these things because hes afraid of my health but how are we supposed to fix this?! We talk about it all the time but all we do is talk and all he does is point out the things wrong with the relationship and what he wants... then he dumps it on me the responsability of fixing all of it. But we're in this together and we don't know what to do. We really need some help.





We really aren't going to break up so don't tell us to and don't say that since we're so young that it won't last. Thats not the answer I need to help me. I need some REAL help. Someone with experience in this part of life would be great. We just want advice on what our problem might be or what we need to do to fix it...I need some advice on how to save my relationship. Please? Best answer gets 10 points!?
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>I need some advice on how to save my relationship. Please? Best answer gets 10 points!?
Well let me just say this.. He seems to have caught you in a lot of lies..You also kissed his brother! If my girl kissed my brother I couldnt be with her straight up. I have to be able to bring my girl around my family without thinkin my girl is thinkin about my brother or something. That is just weird to me. You sound like you really do care about him though and that this is really hard on you. I hope you havent permantely damaged the relationship. You just have to keep trying. Just remember ';love makes the impossible possible.';
You need therapy - both of you. I do question your desire to be untruthful so much, and for over-stepping boundries with the brother. It sounds like you have some deep-rooted issues. I don't mean this as an insult, but rather that you should deal with them so you can have a healthy relationship. When you say there are no options that you are not breaking up. At 17 I can pretty much assure you that you won't even know this guy in ten years. Holding on to an unhealthy relationship like yours isn't the way to live. Seriously, please think about what it would take to stop the madness and learn to trust, love, and committ on a higher level. Get some help - you won't change without it. Good luck to you both.
Theres only one thing to heal your reationship and that's time. See how things go and try not to lie at all . He'll see that ur trying and change too :)