Any advice? It feels so impossible. The relationship ended after 7 years.?

7 years, very important years of my life (age 16-22), with all the ups and downs, that ended a week ago....I could write details for forever!





Bottom line:


I am not asking how to fix this. It can't be.


I am just asking how to heal my broken heart and shattered soul.


The attachment and bonds, the unified life we shared molding together through those delicate formative years of my life. Having few close friends, because we had each other.





How do I get over him? When will I get over him?


An important factor that will PROBABLY make me getting over him a little bit easier, for the last few months, I have been so disgusted, annoyed, that we have not been intimate, and I have been brainstorming ways to break up with him. But still ';knowing'; it will never happen, thinking I only thought those things out of anger, and figuring and HOPING things will get better.





It happened so suddenly. And it HAPPENED! When I thought it never would.





How do I cope? I have few friends. How do I survive? How do I get a new boyfriend (eventually), how do I fight the urge to check his call history and snoop through his myspace? How do I keep from calling him?





What makes this harder is that he hasn't tried to contact me, and I know for a fact he was at least hanging out with a girl late last night. Which fuels me to get over him, but destroys my heart even more.Any advice? It feels so impossible. The relationship ended after 7 years.?
Sweetheart, I was in the same position as you very recently. I was with my ex husband for 5 years. We met when I was 17, got married at 18, and divorced March of this year. I left him when I was 21, last January. It was so hard for me. I have very few friends, I didn't go out with the friends I had because I was so depressed, I was crying all the time and I shut myself off from the world. I have been tempted so many times to go through his e-mail and his myspace, but it's not the right way to go although it may seem like it.





Snooping into his personal things will hurt you even more, believe me. It will take a tremendous amount of time for you to get over him, you were together for 7 years. It won't be easy. You need to surround yourself with the few friends you do have, and family. If you've witnessed him with another girl, that's going to hurt you 10 times worse, and he hasn't contacted you because he does need his space, as do you. When I left my ex, he never called me, I was always the one calling him. I made all the effort to try and work things out and he never latched on. The ball was always in my court, and I hated it.





I was always hoping that he would come around, realize that he missed me, and want to come back. Never happened. I finally realized that after 9 months of being separated from him, and he told he didn't love me like a wife anymore, that's when I said ';Alright, this marriage is irrepairable, and there's nothing I can do. I need to move on.'; I've been divorced a month now, and it still hurts me. Knowing that he has a new girlfriend (through mutual friends), knowing that she's taking my place, it's hard. I've often wondered why his new relationship will work out and ours didn't. There's definitely some jealousy there.





I promise you that it will get better, what helped me was actually getting my mind off the things that reminded me of him, memories, places we went, and I found new places to go. If you ever need anything, please contact me at mojo4society@yahoo.com. I've been there babe, I can help you through it. Much love.