Advice? :/ I'd really appreciate some. **relationship stuff**?

Alright...so I've been dating my boyfriend for like, 5 months (which probably doesn't sound like a lot, but we're together all the time, and we aren't, we're usually on the phone or something), and I love him and all...but then this summer I also found out that I'm sorta in love with one of my best friends. :( But he has a girlfriend, and they're at the same level that my boyfriend and I are (which is pretty cool I guess), well, minus the me part.





Anyway, it really hurts to see my friend with this other girl...and he knows how I feel, but his gf doesn't, and my bf doesn't...and I'm not a horrible person, I swear! Because I love my boyfriend just as much (and in the same way)...it's just really hard, and I don't know what I should do. :/





If you can't help with that, can you at least give some advice about how to keep from thinking about it?Advice? :/ I'd really appreciate some. **relationship stuff**?
My advice to you can be summed up in 4 words: Don't be a homewrecker. (Although your friends technically aren't married and don't have a home together, you get the point.)





You say that you are not a horrible person, and I honestly believe you--otherwise you would not feel scruples over what to do in this situation. Therefore, I urge you to be the good person you know yourself to be by not causing intentional heartache to your friend and current boyfriend. A good person does not steal someone else's love; a good person doesn't betray the trust of someone who loves her. You have not yet crossed these lines, so do everyone involved in this situation a favor (yourself included) by keeping it that way. The small, temporary gratification you might get from cheating (and I stress *might*, because there's no guarantee this wouldn't blow up in your face) can never make up for the damage you do to these three people you care about in the process.





As to how to not think about it, I think the best thing you can do in this situation is to focus not on what you're missing, but on what you HAVE. You have a boyfriend who apparently is extremely attached to you (5 months is nothing to sneeze at), and you say you love him back just as much. Your friend and his girlfriend enjoy the same sort of happiness, and you will have the greater happiness of knowing that all four of you continue to enjoy that because you had the guts and self-control to do the right thing.





I think you'll make the right choice in this--just steel yourself, and stick to your guns. I think what disappointment you might temporarily feel will soon pass.





(P.S. If your guy-friend of yours thinks that cheating ';wouldn't break up him and his gf,'; that ought to sound warning bells all over the place that he's perfectly okay with doing the same thing to you. One more reason to ';just say no';...)Advice? :/ I'd really appreciate some. **relationship stuff**?
All i can basically say is get over it, unless you really love your best friend with a passion that was far greater then your boyfriend then youll have to do something risky like break up with your boyfriend and try to win over your best friend.





As for things to make you stop thinking about it, you could always exercise or do sports, puzzles, anything that takes a lot of thinking basically.
sounds to me like you just need to be honest with your self about who and what you really want..you also need to be honest with everyone else. if you really loved your bf then you really wouldn't feel like you do for your friend... if not your gonna end up hurting not only your self but the ';love's'; too
I know there are a lot of great guys out there, but you can't have all of them. You like two of them right now. My suggestion is to stay with what you have right now. Stay loyal and true. If not, you may lose them both (and earn yourself a bad rep.)





Best of Luck
Sounds like you don't know what love is and what you really need to do is figure out what you want in your life.


best of luck.
if you really do love them both the same your going to have to choose. Like who makes you happier, who do you care for the most, etc. The guy you date should be the person you trust the most and can tell everything to. So basically your the guy you choose will be your boyfriend and best friend. Also if your friend is happy with his gf and also likes you back I think you guys should stay with the people your with. If your bf loves you and you love him at this moment then be with him, vice versa with your friend and his gf. If you guys are meant to be with each other it will happen down the road. Everything happens for a reason, and if you think right now you should be with your bf then do it otherwise break up with him and let yourself be single and think about everything. but you don't want to get your friend and his gf to break up because its not fair to them. Just think about it and your heart will tell you. I also had this problem i thought i like my friend for a few months and then realized that i actually am in LOVE with my boyfriend and not my friend. This will happen, you'll have feelings for others but have the strongest feelings for the one you love and care the most.
u cant be in love with 2 ppl at the same tiime


u may like one n love the other but if thats the case then u are being emotionally unfaithful to your bf bc ur whole heart isnt his


its lusting for someone else


so either stay with ur bf n 4get ur friend n stop liking him bc evn if u like him he obviously doesnt like YOU. he has a gf n he's happy so why would u wanna make him and his gf unhappy bc U like him too i mean he's with her n thats that.


and either focuz on ur bf or leave him bc im sure that if he was over ther being in love with some other girl u wouldnt like it and u wouldnt want to be with him so either b true to him or let him b and dont b the one to break up ur friend n his gf. bt u cant love them both.


one is lust one is love


or maybe nun is love.


only u know bt


u cant be in love with 2 ppl.


ask urself


who do u wanna be wwith?, n the 1st one that comes to mind is the one u like more.


both cant come to mind.
The best thing for you to do right now is just keep being with your bf and see where it goes because yeah you could break up with him and try to hook up with your best friend but you don't know if he will go through with that and in the end you won't have him or your bf anymore. You should try talking to your best friend and find out how he really feels about you. If he really wants to upgrade to your boyfriend then you can consider letting each of your significant others down easy. In the meantime just enjoy who you are with especially if you still love the guy because right now you are just feeling that whole ';grass is greener on the other side'; feeling.
think about who you would be happier with. if you are really in love with your best friend, see if he feels the same. it's known that best friends make the best boyfriends, but then again you might not want to ruin the friendship. Think about what makes you happy and about your future too. hope that helps=]