Guys I need your advice! If you were in a (live-in) relationship for 3 years and the girl decided that you?

shouldn't live together anymore and kicked you out, would you still date her? I kicked my boyfriend out because he hasn't proposed in 3 years and I am no longer content with our stagnant relationship. He wanted to continue to live with me but not commit. Also, I've had many talks with him about my feelings. We went out to look at engagement rings 2 weeks ago, only for him to say, 1 week later, he did it because I pressured him! Who's right, here? Where do I go from here? Serious replies only. Thank you.Guys I need your advice! If you were in a (live-in) relationship for 3 years and the girl decided that you?
If you want to be married you absolutely did the right thing. Pressuring someone in to marrying you is a dire mistake and wrong in every way, however moving on because you aren't getting what you want out of a relationship is absolutely the right thing to do. No I wouldn't continue dating him, you know its not going where you want to go. Thats like getting on the wrong bus and then being disappointed because it went the wrong direction. The sign on the front of this one says I'm Not Marrying You, that is where that ride will take you. Take a different bus!Guys I need your advice! If you were in a (live-in) relationship for 3 years and the girl decided that you?
You made the right decision. He's not ready to tie the knot and you apparently were. If he felt like you were pressuring him, just say you released the pressure by letting him go.
Dumb the loser. He probably has a white girl on the side.
I wouldn't want to date you and I would tell you to get back out to dating other people after you give yourself a month or two.
why buy the cow when you get the milk free?
baby some guys are afraid to commit. I have a son the same way. He is on the 30 year plan. His gf and him will live together for 30 years before they get married. They have been together for 4 years now. The question both pardners need to ask is, ';Do I really love you?'; Don't fight about it, but talk about it with each other. Take time to think about what life will be like once you have gone your separate ways. The biggest thing is, don't fight about it, talk about it. good luck
Maybe you should take a break from each other and date other people. If you guys end up back together then it was meant to be. You can't force someone to do something they don't want to do and if you did you would hate life with this person b/c they would be unhappy. A break from each other will tell the truth rather or not you are meant to be. If they miss you enough.....they will have time to think about life without you and may decide to get hitched after all. If not then move on.
Yes......... you did the right thing.... sounds to me like he was free loading off of you..... he will no doubt try to find a new mama to sponge off of. You will find a new man that appreciates you.





.........sometimes the ';O'; Wise One..........knows
My wife and I '; Dated '; for 6 years before we got married....give it a chance...he'll come around
The thing about this is that u shouldnt hav kicked him out just bcuz he didnt propose to after all this time. When the time is right, he will propose to u. I knew a couple who dated for 7 yrs bfore the guy proposed, the time just has to be right.
I have never wanted to commit to any of my past girl friends. Retrospectively, I realise that it is because I did not love them enough for that. I think you are right to kik him out if you are after a life long commitment.
I doubt that I would live with a woman unless I was married to her, but if she dumped me no way I would be seen anywhere close to her. He sounds a little undecided about where he wants to go in life, in general. If he hasn't packed everything up yet, do so and put it out the front door. I'm not sure one who is wrong or right in this situation but I don't think it would work. Leave him and find someone who will fit you and your life.
Honestly you never should have started living with him but what's done is done. You found out that the guy is scared of commitment. If you can kick him out of your place then you can get along without him. Finish him off by dumping him and get on with your life.
Probably not.





It seems that you want the commitment and he's happy where he is.





Obviously that's not a compatible relationship and you're unhappy because of it.





You should consider looking elsewhere for someone who is more compatible with your goals in life instead of trying pressuring someone who isn't to marry you.
I think first you need to find out the reasons why he is not ready to propose. Maybe they are valid and the two of you could try and work something out until he is ready. 3 years is a long time to throw away.
if you don't want to be with him, don't be with him on any level. if you continue to sill date him, he is still getting what he wants without the commitment. 3 years is not that long. it takes some people longer to make serious commitments. if you think he's worth keeping, try to be more patient. if not, kick him to the curb and move on.
I think you did the right thing, I have a sister and I don't want any slacker beating around the bush either.





Even though they say the world is now a equal. It's not, guys may have up to a age (Maybe late 30's) where they then want to settle down and more often then not they don't have trouble meeting another lady.





But for women to do the same thing, it is much harder for them to find the right partner at that age. Sure it's okay to live together and not get married if and only if both parties agree to it and understand.





But if one person wants to commit and the other feels pressuried then they are not ready to commit. And this is basically a fork in the road where you both must make your decision. Some people grow apart like what you may have just described.


Maybe one or two years is fine.... three is touching it.... (but is okay if finances is a problem) .... but once you are in that point of the relationship of being together for a long while... there must be a commitment process.





Normally if a woman wants to be with a man, a commitment will be on the table further down the line unless they both understand that it's just dating but when it turns serious it will most likely turn into a marriage down the line or what choice pleases you. Some guys are oblivious to this and just needs a wake up call.





Talk to him to see if his serious, if he just wants to date longer thats his choice... but if you can't wait for his commitment then you can't wait.


It's just indifferences and you have to do what you need to do.





Even if that means leaving him for someone willing to settle down. No ones getting any younger.
I think that he did only do it because you pressured him. He obviousy doesn't want to marry you right now. He may never be ready. So thing is you have to decide how important this is to you- you don't want a marriage based off a fight/pressure. So, if you are fed up with this enough to kick him out of the house, I would say kick him out of your life.


Sex and the City described a guy proposing like a taxi cab. When the light goes on, the next girl that gets in gets the ring (this granted she's not crazy or horrible)- if everything in your relationship is fine than his light just isn't on, so you have to just weigh your want to get married with your want for him in your life.
Tell her to get a life and that shr lost the best thing she will every have,There more fish in the sea.
I applaud you for being so strong. You did the right thing. As far as dating him, I would avise not to. What is the point? He has made it clear that he does not want to get married. I say move on with your life. If after some time without you he shows up with a ring and a changed heart, maybe give it some thought. If not, then so be it, better to find out now than to waste another 3 years waiting for him.
I think you did the right thing. If the guy doesn't want to marry you, and you have strong feelings about it, then you really did the right thing.


If he cannot commit, then why should you keep on living together?
okay. i can tell u love the guy. i feel that in a sense ur right and in a sense ur wrong.





Wrong because u kind of pressured him into it. Maybe he was lookin for a perfect time and place to propose. But i mean after 3 yrs id be pissed 2.





Right because if he didnt love u the way u loved him then he wouldnt have moved in with u. he should of proposed long time ago.
Pressuring someone isn't really a good thing. Although, he should be proposing by now. I think there are many things to consider also. Maybe he is planning on a new career or maybe there's something that he needs to do before committing fully. There's also a chance that your boyfriend do not believe in marriage. There are many people who thinks marriage is overrated or just a paper you sign infront of a priest or judge. I was in the same situation as you a year ago. My husband and I are very much in-love with each other. We lived together for 2 years. I have been constantly asking him about marriage but he insist on not doing it because he thinks marriage is just a piece of paper. He also said it will never change our relationship. We finally decided last year to get married, although he still believes that. Anyways, if I was in your situation, I would not date him anymore, maybe you love him, but if he isn't giving you what you want like the marriage thing, or fully committing to your relationship, then maybe he's not for you.
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wow it as right what u did


hes a ***, just get a guy that can treat u right


and that he would not be a cheap ****** 2 not buy u a engament ring








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thats a rap
if u get married, b prepared 2 make a lot of his decisions
You were practically married already. You need to be bound in a legal contract to feel like you're in love? That's sick. Call him back and ask for forgiveness.
If your desire is to be married, and this guy isn't ready after 3 years, then I'd bail. Marriage is not only a civil contract, it is a social expression of love and public committment. It says we are a team, and it says that our children come from a union of committment. If you want marriage. he ain't it, tell his so, and get on with your life. Watch and see -- he'll marry the next lady he dates!!!!!
If you wanted to get married then you did the right thing. You have waited long enough.
If you pressure a man into marrying you before he's ready, it will more than likely end in divorce anyway. Three years is nothing. Some people live together or date over a decade before a proposal. Living together is a commitment in itself. If he's not ready to marry, he's not ready and there isn't really anything you can do to make him get there faster. So, either wait, because you love him or let him go.
Girl don't even waste your time with this brother, he clearly doesn't anything from this relationship, if you had to convince him to go ring shopping with you then he's not worth marrying. It will only get worse for you. Cut your losses and move on.
I know you said guys only, but I felt like I had to say something. You cannot keep a man that doesn't want to be kept. I don't know whether you get that or not...if a man doesn't want to be in a relationship, you can't successfully hold them there (meaning: he'll probably stay, but he won't be a good partner...he may cheat, or not work, or not pay bills, or not be honest with you, etc.).





Never accept a marriage proposal from a man under duress. It's not a genuine proposal, and it won't do either of you any good. Some men don't know how to voice this, but this is really how it will be. Do you want a genuine partner who really loves you or an imaginary husband who is just appeasing you?