Any solid advice? I am having a hard time letting go of what was a very manipulative relationship! Im hurting!

Me and my fiance just recently broke up. We were together for almost 2 years. We are both 31. He had alot of anger management problems and could be verbally abusive. Maybe more so than I want to admit. I am starting counseling monday. He left last month and said he needed space! Mind you this is the second time this has happened. He still continued to tell me he loved me he just needed to get his head on straight BUT he moved and wouldnt tell me where changed his number, we could only communiciate via email! When I found out he moved and didnt want to tell me I just flipped! I am normally not crazy but I have been sending him emails begging him to know what I did, even though I know its not me but in turn I have made it look like I am the crazy one. There has been question about whether or not he has bi polar or some type of disorder but he refuses to find out. My mother was very verbally abusive but now I find myself acting like a nut just trying to get answers. He wont talk to me?Any solid advice? I am having a hard time letting go of what was a very manipulative relationship! Im hurting!
sorry to say but it sounds like ur relationship is over. You do not need to e with someone like that. Yes it will be hard to get over him but you can do it with some time and help. Everything will be fine with time. Don't email him anymore, stop all contact he will realize what he lost don't you worry about it. When he does he will come back and then you can tell him that you like having your space and don't want him to crowd it. Good Luck and stay strong.Any solid advice? I am having a hard time letting go of what was a very manipulative relationship! Im hurting!
I would just let it be. I know it's hard, and I'm sure you were incredibly upset when you learned he moved. But these actions of his are telling you something. Remember that actions speak louder than words. Maya Angelou said, ';when people show you who they are, believe them';. You said he was verbally abusive. He showed you who he was. Believe him. Better to find out now than be trapped in a miserable marriage...
Dear girl be GLAD he's gone. When you are in a relationship that is up and down all the time the stress wears you out after a while. People like him LIKE for you to think it's all your fault. The fact that he won't tell you where he lives or communicate other than by email is telling you this: he does NOT want to be found. He doesn't want to be with you anymore. I'm sorry, just accept it. You need the space as much as he does. Cut the ties completely. Block him from your email. Yes, it hurts. Yes, it will take a while to get over it. But it is the best thing for YOU. Get some counseling to help you cope if necessary. Take some time for yourself, go on a vacation, take up a hobby, or do some community service to help you get back on track. Take your time. Some day you will meet a man who is right for you. Good luck.
You are being way to desperate! He obviiously doesn't want you anymore! (not to sound harsh or anything..) Let it go..go out, flirt around, have a night on the town with your friends and MINGLE...You need to LIVE your LIFE!! Don't get stuck on him like gum on a shoe! (LOL) Try not to be so...sprung..with him..ya know?
Wow, sorry for your situation... in my experience, when a guy says he 'needs his space' that means he needs some other chick IN his space. This has happened to you before... it will happen to you again, married or not. He'll leave and not tell you why, probably because he knows it drives you crazy and puts the ball in his court.


Unfortunately, my advice is that you can't change him... you CAN change yourself. You deserve to be treated with respect and spoken to in a nice, loving manner. People who are in love don't verbally abuse each other.


Forget about him, he's either moved on already, or is manipulating you from a distance.


Please take some 'me time' for yourself, pick up an old hobby (painting, photgraphy), join the gym, or sit at the coffee shop and read or people watch.


I think being single would do you some good, really! And then, when you're not thinking about it... Mr. Right will find you and sweep you off your feet!


Best of luck!!!

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