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I had been with my now ex boyfriend for a year and a half. The past couple months we had been arguing quite a bit. Come to find out he had been emailing a female co worker of his, talking as if they were more than just friends, talking bad about me.


I had been there for him through alot. While he was in jail for 2 months, and also to help him get back on his feet and try to better him. I thought things were going good for a few days, but he has gone back to arguing with me about things that shouldnt even be a big deal. I love him with all my heart, but I cannot continue to let him treat me this way. But I also cannot give up on him, he has some depression issues and I just cant let him go. But, I also cant try to help someone tht doesnt want to help himself.


I want nothing but the best for both of us. How do I talk to him about this, without pointing any fingers, or arguing. Im just tired of the heartache he gives me.


also, he told me he only wants to be friends, but gets jealous if my phone rings, or accuses me of talking with other guys, which shouldnt even matter, because its his choice he only wants to be friends.





More info: He and I are still intimate together which we both agree is amazing, and I think the only thing that really keeps us in contact.


He gets upset when I dont call him, but then when I do he just wants to argue. We are not together as far as boyfriend girlfriend, just a friends relationship.





I have tried to distance myself a little bit away from him the past cole of days. He gets upset when I dont call, then is mad cause Im not at home when he calls or drives by my house. I feel like I cant do any right, and we arent even together. Why is he acting this way? What do I say back to him, when he gets upset if I dont answer my phone right away, or tell him what Im doing. He tells me I am being a non challant *****. I try to talk to him calmly, but he is real quick to argue with me.Now accepting good advice for relationships?
Frankly, I think you keep distancing yourself until it sticks. I don't care how amazing the sex is; I'm sure there's someone out there who'll be able to give you that and the full, supportive partnership you deserve without the games and the arguments and the inability to take responsibility for his own actions and feelings that you're getting from this guy.Now accepting good advice for relationships?
Bad choice! I think you need to move on.
Your ex: Talks crap about you, was in jail, argues, suffers depression, lacks respect towards others. Does this really sound like someone you would date if you saw this kind of description on a dating site? or a friend setting you up with someone like this? Use your head girl - not your heart on this one - be SMART!





So he's still banging you - to men it's just sex and I doubt he's reading much more into it. That's not unusual around break up time...he doesn't care about you or your feelings - he's just taking care of a need.





You need to cut all contact and move on...don't take his calls, unfriend him from FB or MS or whatever, lose his number...you can do better!
It sounds like he expects perfectness from you when the truth is that none of us are perfect. That goes for me too because I know that I make at least one mistake or more a day. He needs to wake up and smell the coffee and realize that none of us are perfect. Tell him to grow up and get a life. If he can't respect you and accept you for who you are, then I would find someone else. There are better fish in the sea. I wish you the best.