I need some advice about relationships.?

So i had this gf in high school and we dated for a year and a half but never had sex. i broke up with her before college because i felt that i'd grown apart from her. i ended up losing my virginity to some random drunk girl after a party. i never talked to her or saw her again after that. my first time was always important to me because i wanted it to be special with someone i loved. my gf in high school wanted to wait till mariage to have sex. she ended up getting drunk her first year of college and had sex with a random guy. i feel like im going to regret my first time for the rest of my life.my second time having sex i was in love with the girl i did it with. does anyone have any advice on how to view the situation. im pretty depressed and feel really bad about the whole thing.I need some advice about relationships.?
i wouldnt worry about it. people make mistakes. and its okay that you did. i lost my virginity to a drunk guy who was cheating on 2 girls at the same time. and you just need to learn to move on because it is what it is.I need some advice about relationships.?
Life is too short to be thinking about the past, don't think of how things could have went, should have went, or would have went, that's just how it went. As for the future it is uncertain, so focus on the present moment because the present moment is real and enjoyable.


When I say real I mean real. The past thoughts are nothing more than illusion thoughts kept in your own head. These thoughts only exist in your own head and they don't exist outside of your head.


The future is uncertain, death is certain. You can possibly die next week, next month or maybe in the next 2 years, so shouldn't you try to ';enjoy'; every moment you can living instead of bringing sorrows from the past to the present?





If you think what you've done was a mistake, know that every human in this world makes mistakes whether we like it or not. It is natural to make mistakes but what is most important is that we ';recognize'; our mistake, ';learn'; from it, and try to ';avoid'; doing it in the future. If you do not make mistakes then you are certainly not human.





“Just because one missed breakfast doesn’t mean one should stop eating all day, go ahead and eat lunch” (this refers to doing something wrong and such, do not stop and whine, move on, learn from it)
Try to think of it this way; there are many different definitions to virginity. You lost your physical virginity with the random drunk girl, but your emotional virginity when you slept with the girl you really cared about. The physical was a random drunk hookup where you went farther than you meant to, and the emotional was the first time you had sex as a connection to someone else. Different experience.
That's tough... The best thing you can do for yourself is forgive yourself. If you can do that, your next time will be special and basically your first. I imagine you don't remember much of the first anyway.
Personally I think you can wipe the slate clean. Don't focus on what you did when you were younger. It takes time to understand why we do what we do. You just need to make sure that you learn from each situation. Virginity is really a relative term. Physically you may have been a virgin, but each time you have a new relationship, you are a virgin again, as far as that person goes. You're nervous about everything you do for the first time. If you want things to go differently with your next girlfriend, then make the necessary changes that new life experiences have taught you. Apply them to your new romance and make it special with that person. Most people will say that the first time was horrible anyway, so learn from past relationships.