Need help with my crumbling relationship, read the passage and responde, please. seeking advice?

Okay, so first off, I know it鈥檚 not exactly proper to put your personal life on the computer, but I need help and multiple answers from different views. I鈥檝e been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We鈥檝e broken up several times (about 5/6 in all). He鈥檚 cheated on me once; I cheated on him for the first time like 2 days ago. I love him and I care about him, but at the same time I don鈥檛 want to be with him due to the fact that I鈥檓 me, meaning: I have the tendency of falling into situation where I do stupid and spontaneous things that always get me in trouble. I went on vacation to spend 5 days at my father鈥檚 house, and I met this guy. I really like him and we had sex. Now, my boyfriend is saying that if I truly love him that we can start over and that he鈥檚 willing to forgive me. However, at the same time I don鈥檛 want hurt him anymore, because I can鈥檛 fully promise that I won鈥檛 do it again. I don鈥檛 know, I鈥檓 just so confused and I don鈥檛 exactly know where I鈥檓 supposed to go from here. I told him that I would call him back later tonight. I don鈥檛 know if I should end it now. Your supposed to benefit from relationships, the other person is supposed to make you happy and improve your life, not bring you down. We鈥檝e been doing nothing but arguing lately. He says I hurt him, and that鈥檚 obvious. I shouldn鈥檛 have cheated, but the bad part is, I don鈥檛 regret it. Can anyone help? If you have questions or need more info, message me on yahoo.Need help with my crumbling relationship, read the passage and responde, please. seeking advice?
well I wouldn't have told him at all, but since you say you dont really regret cheating, than breakup with him. This way if you miss him you'll be forced to change your ways and if you don't than you just saved yourself from wasting alot of time and hurting him again.Need help with my crumbling relationship, read the passage and responde, please. seeking advice?
ok.first of all you are a free spirit..and free spirits should never really have boyfriends ,because they like to be free to hook up with anyone they like,, so.. you should all ways stay free..or just masturbate a lot if you cant be truth full ..so... like that only your genitals can get hurt...seriously though you should tell everyone you meet that you are a free spirit so you wont break hearts..that would be the fair thing to do..because you seem like a nice person
He sounds desperate and you sound like you need some space.


tell him you want to date other people.
basically here's the thing, the fact that you cheated on him for revenge shows that you don't love him





wow, that was a realization wasn't it





he also said he would honestly take you back after you cheated, but you feel no regret for it





this shows you aren't committed and therefore you should just end it, as there is nothing left in the relationship.


being spontaneous just means you want instant gratification, which is both greedy and a problem that can be helped by actually thinking.
End it now. There is no other answer. You are not committed to him and there is broken trust. Doomed from the start.
Well, you answered your question. You've been going together almost two years, and you break up every 4 or 5 months. You argue a lot, you've both cheated, and you don't regret it. I think you love him, you just aren't in love with him. He wants to start again in a committed relationship and you don't want to commit. You should tell him that you don't think you can uphold that commitment because you have good intentions but not the strength to stay the course. Maybe two or three years down the road with more experience, you will be ready, and maybe he'll still be around. But for right now everything you said, sounds like NO to me.
It sounds like the best idea is to break it off with him. If you know that there is a good chance that you'll cheat on him again, then spare his feelings. If you honestly wanted to be with him, you wouldn't think about cheating on him. It shouldn't even cross your mind, and if it does, then you should have the willpower to avoid it. It wouldn't be right to get together with him knowing that you might hurt him again like that, especially if you don't regret the last time. That's not a good sign for this relationship.
I think you should end it now, letting it drag on with only make it more painful for you in the end, cheating is an all around bad thing and when it comes into play in a relationship, well things just are as well put together and it loosens your bond with that person. Also if the relationship was really meant to be and love was Truly there, cheating would of never occurred. Just let him go but try and do it as easy as you can.
i'm glad i'm not n ur shoes gurl!!! i can answer only from my experience and i know my bf didn't want me REALLY and cheated on me. if you think you've got all u can out of the relationship, move on and don't lead him on. but dont do harshly (and with the way u sound u won't). it's not worth it to invest a lot more time into something you know is not going anywhere.
first of all you really can't say that you have a realationship at all. because you and he both would'nt do the things you BOTH have done. maybe you both need time apart to figure out if you really do want this thing to work, i really don't think you are ready for just one guy yet. i think you are young and are not done exploring what is out there. and you certainly don't love him or you would at least feel the slightess bit sorry for what has happen. you need to part for awhile and see what happens, it sure can not hurt. you agree?
in my personal opinion I think you should end it, its not fair to him especially since you can't promise you won't do it again, I mean what's the point of being in a relationship when your gonna cheat, then he's gonna cheat, back and forth back and forth. No use.


';If your not getting married, your breaking up'; that's the way I look at it. Unless ofcourse you don't plan on getting married lol
I'd break up with him. Love is when two people have a bond for each other, not lies hurtful things. You'd both be happy with somebody else.











There is many fish in the sea, but he isn't the catch of the day......
Break it off, there is nothing there worth saving.





Chalk it up to youthful experience, and learn NOT to do spontaneous things that are going to get you into trouble.





NEVER take back a cheater!
You don't need to be wasting his life if you think you can't control yourself.


You don't need to be with anyone.


That's really selfish of you to spend two years with a guy who seems like he truly cares about you, and your feelings.





I really think you should leave him instead of hurting him more than you already have.


And I do not mean any of this in a mean/rude manner.