I need advice about age and relationships?

im a15 year old girl will be16 in5 months me and this22 year old guy have been friends for sometime now we chat about everything and have a laff the other day i pluck up the currage to tell him i fancie him and understand the age between us but went on saying we only live once please give it ago(thats the long storie short) anyways hes told me he does fancie me and he would love to go on dates and see how things go take it slow. but the only thing stopping him is my age he told me if i was 16 it wouldent matter he would go for it straight away. i ask why my age bother him that if we like eachother then it wont stop us.


he says hes worried people would call him perv as he told his best mate he has feelings for me and he called him a perv straight away, the thing is this guy dont actuly look22 and im taller than him bless him lol. we seem to get on so well it be a shame to waste this opitunity just coz of some narrow minded people out there.what should i do would it b wrong 4 us to D8I need advice about age and relationships?
Why does everybody on here assume that you are going to jump straight into bed with him?


He sounds like a nice sensible young man to me.


In the past you have only talked to each other and, the way I understand it, he hasn't even asked you for a date because he is concerned about your age. When you told him that you fancy him he said that you should discuss it with your Mum,


Come on, people, this is not the attitude of a perv, he is a nice sensible young man who is concerned that he may appear to be taking advantage of this equally sensible young lady.


Talk to your Mum, tell her how you feel, ask if you can bring him home to meet her and also assure her that you won't date him without her permission.


My guess is, that if Mum will agree to meet him, she may see the same qualities in this young man as you do.


I wish you both lots of luck and if it doesn't work out with your Mum, then you can still both wait for each other, as has already been suggested.I need advice about age and relationships?
do it as long as your parents are cool with it so he doesnt get arrested
Of coarse not!! My partner and I are 9 years apart and I don't mind at all!! My moto is that everyone can say what they like about us but they are not the ones who has to wake up next to him everyone morning of everyday for the rest of their lives because I do!! If you care alot for eachother and both of yous don't look your age then no one is going to know!! You both make decisions and live your lives by the way you choose it not by what other people think!!!!
if the only problem is ur age, and it's only gonna be like 6 months till ur 16, then just wait. if he cares about u, ad u him, then 6 months will be nothing. but if he is a perv, ull kno before u get hurt, cuz he'll ditch you. that's not a terrible age difference, but depending on where you're from,, here in the states, that's illegal. talk to your parents. be honest with them about how you feel, and see if thye're ok with you dating him. if they're ok with it, then it's in his hands. if they're not ok with it, then just wait.





good luck, honey. it'll work itself out. :)
I think the law will be changed soon on this one because its ridiculous you are deliberating on what to do on something which is only a matter of months.(I have written to the government/home office in the UK with my views on this)


I have looked at a number of subjects on here to do with paedophilia and am incensed at the bias of people being against young Adults having a relationship with someone under the age of 16. I am in a similar position to your male friend as I look around 20/21 (despite being older) and I'm sometimes attracted to girls in the 12-16 age range - I would consider having a relationship if a girl consented/fancied me. Its time we got with the times and lowered the age of consent to 12 or 13 - its not at all unusual for girls of this age to want an older boyfriend because they mature quicker than boys. Let me get this straight I am totally against the Ian huntley's of this world and I wouldnt condone dirty old men preying on youngsters but in most cases if this were to happen the girl would not consent so it would be rape. (I do think we need better sex education though to stop unwanted pregnancies - however I think you will find its the under 16 year old boys are who are sleeping with underage girls who are the problem with regards to this not older more responsible Adults)


Sorry to have a bit of a rant with regards to your problem(Ive allowed myself to get sidetracked) but I have been denied my opinion on other posts because the questions seem to be closed far too early(a criticism of these questions) as I have only just joined. My advice is ignore the sexual prudes on here, why worry about the age difference and go ahead with the relationship as long as it feels right.
Honestly I don't think so, as when I was 20 I was going out with a 15-year-old girl. My mates did give me loads of grief about it though - I just had to put up with it. The only thing is, you have to make sure people don't think you're breaking the law. It was easier for me because in the UK the legal age you have to be to have sex is 16 - I don't know where you're from or what the laws are, but if you come from somewhere where it's 18 or above you're going to encounter all sorts of opposition, as that's all most people will be thinking of.





Anyway - I don't think it's wrong in the slightest as long as you're sensible enough not to be taken advantage of. Good luck to ya!
I don't know where you live, but where I'm from, it's against the law to have sexual relations(which could happen) with anyone under 18. But if you really want to date this guy, I suggest getting your parents permission and have them meet him, as well. if they approve, I say go for it.
You might later regret having made the decision to date this 22 yr old. Later you will realize that you two may not have many things in common as you thought you did. I dont mean to sound like your mother, but I have been in this situation before. He may be way more mature than you, being 22. But if you feel this advise is stupid, and you date him anyway. be careful
to be honest, it sounds like he's waiting for you to turn 16, so you're legal. but if it's just down to happiness and you think it'll work, then go for it and don't be bothered by what people say
Honestly, yes it would be wrong. He is a man, you are still a child. It is wrong.





Narrow-mindedness has nothing to do with anything, it's something called the LAW. Perhaps you have heard of it?
This guy is clever, intelligent and smart.


Keep him warm, and wait for the right time for you both to date...
Hey, If you get busted dating each other, he's the one that goes to prison, not you! So if he is fool enough to D8 you then let it roll!





Personally I don't see any reason why it matters how old anyone is, if 2 peope want to get it on, then I say go for it. But the laws say different.
personally, it seems to me that you would be a bit young for him and that you should date people your own age.





I think once your 19-20 date whoever you want of whatever age bracket, but right now in your life a 16yo and a 22yo have different things on their mind!
The issue of perception changes for people as they mature. At 15-16 you are subject to change your perception of life alot by the time you become 22; since he is a man, this maturity may not truly come for a few more years, (I don't care how much he fronts). Try to put yourself in his place. Would you want to date a shorter BOY who is 6 to 7 years YOUNGER than you?
It may be more than worrying about people thinking he's a perv. In some states a 22 year old could be prosecuted for a sex crime for dating a 15 year old.
First thing first, he is to old and he could go to prison for a long time if any sane adult finds out about him being 22 and you being 15 if you decide to date him. You really don't need to be friends with anyone that old anyways. Stop now before it become a major problem for him later.
Yes it would be wrong. The difference between 15 and 22 is huge in terms of maturity. Seek someone closer to your age, you'll have more in common.
i think the main problem is the legal one. ever hear of the ';age of consent'; law? even if totally innocent, being a minor(you) could be of major consequences for him. physicality aside, there is a mental difference between 15 and 22. if things are so good between you then there is no harm in waiting to become an active couple.
you should wait untill you are sixteen....talk to your parents about it because if i remember right he cant get in trouble unless it is proved that you have had ....DO NOT DATE HM w/o your parents permission...(AND HIS!!!!)
There are pages and pages of words that can be written about this and ALL of the various issue that it raises. However ~ you want a 'positive' from it....?





Well, I'll tell you anyway......





He said himself, 'he wants to wait until you are 16 so that he can be face to face with your mum' (my take on his words).





Take that, those words, and hold them to yourself. He is meaning that his feelings are that 'positive' at present, that he does not want to create problems were none presently are, and make things good for the future for when you do reach 16.





Put another way, hes not out to mess you around.





If i were you, I'd respect that he respects you and what you mean to him ...he sees the Value in what or who you are to him.





That's valuable.





I wish you all the best.


Sash.
Stop! since you can't be bold to seek ur parents permission. Please, study more about what you are into before taking risks(I mean sex, handling heartbreaks, change in body posture after sexual intercourse, stds, loss of stability, effects on your health, academics, concentration or brain etc). True love sydrome does not exist except where it survives by maturity, required support and provision, acceptance of responsibilities or unfavourable consequences, presence of love when feelings and beauty fades.
NO if you 2 like each other than you 2 should d8
Wait until you are 16. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by giving this thing time to develop into a good friendship, and then if it is meant to be more you can go forth from there.
first off let's just state that it's illegal, now that that's been said, he's not interested, you should be able to tell from his reaction and responses. And there's no difference between 15 and 16, you being 16 isn't going to change anything he's just using it as an excuse. He's not interested move on
You really need to date in your own arena. You are very young and not experienced enough to know alot about older guy. please take my advice I know what you are going through but try . I'm saying that to say this I was raped by a person that I thought was a nice guy. We went out once and he pulled a gun on me and raped me. I didn't know enough about him to tell anyone and I was to scared anyway be careful and smart get all the information you can get.drivers lisence car plates know where he is taking you let your parents meet him, his address. This is serious it is some sick people out here praying on the innocence.
22 and 15 is a huge age gap in development terms, much larger than the gap will be between you when you are 29 and 22.





I really would urge you to talk to your parents about this, as he seems to be quite responsible about your age. Ask your parents if you can introduce him and then if they agree then maybe you can start to see him in suitable circumstances. If he really is interested in you, then he will be happy to accept any limits that make your parents feel comfortable. You have a long, long time ahead of you so don't rush anything, I was 33 before I met my perfect partner and that was after a lot of mistakes.
Tell him age is only a number and that if he really loves/likes you he shouldn't care what people say.
The age GAP is not important, 16 and 22 is nothing of a gap.





However he can get into trouble because you are underage, as you know.


If he is willing to wait until you r 16 before sleeping with you,then you will both know if you really want to be together for real.





The age gap is fine, but you are 'jailbate', if he treats you properly and respects your age then fine.





When you do get together make sure you DO use precautions if you have sex, and dont rush into it. Being single with a baby aged 16 is VERY VERY HARD!!





He may have slept with several women.


They say if you sleep with a guy/girl you 'sleep' with everyone he/she has slept with too. He could have hepititis or HIV, pubic lice etc too.





One or two other things could be a problem too, your family, %26amp; his family, and others' opinions will get in the way.





The fact that he can go into a pub and go to nightclubs and drive a car and do other things you cant will hinder everything too. You cant see what he's up to when he goes out late!





Also he can go abroad without asking permission and do what he wants etc.
22 year old 'men' tend to have just one thing on their minds. At barely 16 I don't think it would be good for you to be involved in a relationship with him.


A 6 year age gap is nothing between say an 18 yr old girl and a 24 yr old bloke- but is very different between an almost 16 yr old and 22 yr old.
HELL YES IT WOULD!!!





Look you are young lady and just comin into adult hood and i feel that this guy might be takin advantage of your youth. You av got a lot to go throw dont make it harder for your self please dont go with this guy and go out av fun with guys a bit YOUNGER I know you aint likin what iv said but you know im right!!!
age shouldn't matter all but in some cases it does especially if you are under 16 yrs old.





for instance the difference between 15 and 21 is different than between 30 and 36. they may still be the same difference but its age of maturity is grander. unfortunately he is classed has an adult or has being mature and I'm sure your parents would have concerns.





At the end off the day if you like each other give it ago and see what happens.








i hope thing work out for you X