Uggh. Haha.
So my question is, do you think theres any way I can make him change his mind? I've always been surprised he doesn't believe in girlfriends because he's actually a very sweet guy. He doesn't just want to hook up, he loves cuddling and holding hands etc. And sometimes he'll just text me out of the blue because he just wants to say hi.
But I don't know. I don't want to be the fool in this thing and if theres NO chance of him ever wanting to be with me then I need to stop what I'm doing with him.
What do you guys think?I've fallen for the anti-relationship guy? (I need both guys %26amp; girls advice!)?
Quite seriously, he might be gay...I've fallen for the anti-relationship guy? (I need both guys %26amp; girls advice!)?
It's like OMG better not be hooked up~
What is with people always thinking that if the guys doesnt want a relationship is because he's gay. Maybe we dont want to be A$$***** and lead you on and tell you that were with you and that we want a relationship but really dont because we love being single because theres NO DRAMA! He is a good guy:) Hes not leading you on.
My guess is that he is in college and may not want any real girlfriend distractions. When I was in college I would date in the summer time and break up during the year so that no one would quilt me out of study time. I was a scholarship student, and did not want to give up on college. Just date him. Be good to him. He may be feeling the same way. You can always get back together when he is ready for a serious relationship. He won't forget you. After college was over, I went back to the first boy I broke up with in college so that I could study. He was a nice boy, and I did not break up with him because I wanted someone new. I broke up with him so I could focus on my studies. Just don't do all the crying and whining because that does not work. Go with the flow. He is young and I am guessing you are too.
Have you heard of the book He's Just Not That Into You? (Not the movie so much, although it is pretty good.) It's a popular advice book, and it may seem a little corny, but it makes a very good point.
This guy probably does have affection for you, and I'm sure he enjoys the hooking up part. But he has told you flat-out that he's not into relationships, and you have to believe him on this one. Sure, you could hang around waiting for him to change his mind, but I can pretty much guarantee you he'll keep things the way they are (hookups and fun but no real commitment). Then, after you've wasted months or years hoping for him to come around, he will drop you like a hot potato and get serious with some other girl who he thinks is ';the one.';
As girls, we're programmed to get emotionally attached to guys who we're physical with, even when our brains know better. Don't let your hormones win this round, because you know in your head, and probably even your heart, that this guy is not relationship material. At least he's done the courtesy of telling you that.
If you want to keep messing around with him, that's up to you, but you owe it to yourself to be realistic about the situation. Best of luck!
Dang, are you me?! I'm in this situation too!
Just take it slow...don't sell yourself short, but don't just walk out if you think there's a chance with him in the future. Make him realise you're worth it!
Good luck (:
Dude sounds smart to me. He understands that the relationship will end like everything else. Why waste real emotions on something that is temporary anyway?
u need 2 stop n move on he dnt want a relationship wid u or any1/
see if you can change his mind about the girlfriend thing, and if not, stop messing with him like that because the more you do, the harder you'll fall, and then you'll just get hurt in the end.
I think you should really stop looking at the guy from the other perspective.
i once liked an anti-relationship guy but i decided to just leave him alone and be friends with him and now im with a great guy that i love lots! so maybe you can give him some time and he'll fall for you too and maybe you can get together.
Just keep doing what you're doing. Maybe don't hook up as much, or something, because then he's just getting what he wants and doesn't have to work for anything. But just show him how awesome you are so that he won't want to lose you. I think it was almost certain that you were going to fall for him though so I don't think you could have prevented that..
You can try but there aren't any guarantees. I am around that same age and I know that a lot of men (including myself) would rather focus on other things besides serious relationships. Starting a career or sleeping around with lots of women in college are a few that come to mind.
just be content with being his friend, you never know what the future holds
he's immature ,he knows that and thats why he doesnt want to be in a relationship,move on,he wont change and he's scared of commitment and basically wants to have his cake and eat it too,he's also irresponsible i bet.
other guys wud break girls' hearts by cheating on them or breaking up wid dem for no reason,whereas he is actually avoiding being cruel! isnt that nice? he has a good heart. move on.. open ended relationships dont work,and i think u shud start ignoring him and dating other guys,who knows maybe he'll get jealous and beg to have u back,but i think u shud move away for good.
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