Do you have any real good advice for me and for my relationship?

Hi,





Well i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half things are good most of the time, and i love him to bits! Well anyways lately we have been arguing a lot and during the arguments he has said things to me and he seems to think that he does all the work for our relationship and i dont make enough effort, what he means is that i dont show him enough affection and that i dont say I love him unless he says it first etc..





Well i myself have never been the type of person to talk about my feelings and find it extremely hard to show affection and be more 'romantic' towards him even though i love him soo much..





Anyways my question is, do you know of anyways i could be a bit more loving towards my boyfriend because i do love him its just like im not the type to show it! Thanks xDo you have any real good advice for me and for my relationship?
Your B/f should surely appreciate, after a relationship of 18 months, that you are not a demonstrative person. If he is unable to accept this - if he wants someone who is more 'clingy' , then review the relationship and end it if need be.





However, you need to respect his feelings as well and you need therefore to talk about the problem. Quite a few blokes, however macho, need re-assurance that they are loved - us men can be very unsure of ourselves and in our relationships and we are not so hard and unsentimental as our stereotypes indicate.





I'm 5ft 7in, 15 stone, 52, 52 inch chest; ex amateur wrestler, cricketer and I did 20 years in Her Majesties Reserve Armed Forces (RNXS etc) and I work nowadays as a Security Officer in a Criminal Court. One might think therefore that I am a hard nut, but I melt when my partner tells me she loves me. - and we've been together for 12 years.





So, tell your b/f that you love him a bit more often, and see where it goes from there.Do you have any real good advice for me and for my relationship?
Funnily enough both my husband and myself were like you and our marriage got into trouble because of it! We went for help and they taught us how to communicate including giving us a work sheet with all sorts of feelings listed! So now we have no excuse but I admit it takes a bit of getting used to saying I feel this and I feel that. Yeah good relationship take work so please be open to change as I wouldn't want you to lose him.
You say your not the one to show it. I am in a situation like yours only its my bf who is not the one to show it. I know he loves me but I tell you if he doesnt show it to me soon I'm ending it because I need to be shown it. If you love him just give him a big kiss tell him you love him and most of all make an effort. GOOD LUCK
Right this is a guess, but I am guessing your not a 'touchy' feely type of person?





I had this problem with my ex.


She was brought up in a family that didn't show much emotion - no hugs/kisses...etc and she didn't actually like proper kissing much. Of course she kissed me, we were together a very long time, but not as much as my other exes.





I was brought up in a totally different type of family, people hug,kiss,grab, lots of body contact.





You're never going to be able to be somebody you aren't but what would do it for me was if you did other stuff, like make him (don't buy) a card saying how much you love him, cook him dinner, run him a bath. Send him a random text when he's at work/school saying how sexy he is and how you can't wait to see him.





Just be a little more thoughtful!!